1. Who should propose the first meeting? Usually, it is the man's proposal. Of course, after the two decided to meet privately, the man's parents formally proposed to meet again.
2. What is the main task of the first meeting? After they decide to get married, they can arrange for their parents to meet. Besides getting to know each other, the most important thing is to discuss marriage.
3. How to choose a suitable meeting place? If two people are in the same city, they can stay in a restaurant recognized by their local elders. If two people are in different places, usually the parents of the man come to visit the parents of the city where the woman lives, you can open a restaurant with good reputation or reputation in the woman's place.
4. Who needs to attend the meeting? Do you want to bring relatives? Generally speaking, it is not recommended to bring relatives. Although the atmosphere may be good, both sides will exercise restraint. It is suggested that parents of both sides meet their children and bring grandparents at most.
5. What should I call you when I see you? Parents usually don't change their minds when they meet for the first time. Younger students can call each other's parents: uncles and aunts. Parents of both sides can call each other: xX father and XX mother. According to local customs, if the two sides are familiar with each other, they can also be called in-laws and mothers directly.
6. Do parents give red envelopes when they meet for the first time? If this is the first time for a child to meet the other parent, or if he has not given a red envelope before, parents can prepare a red envelope for the other child. If you have given it before, you won't give it this time.
7. Do you need a gift? What should I send? It is basic etiquette for children to prepare gifts for their parents.
8. What topics did parents talk about when they first met?
(1) Chat at home and get to know each other.
Tell me about this bride price, dowry and related customs.
③ Talking about wedding preparations.
④ Talking about the RV and the future life of the couple.
9. Who will pay for the meal?
If they are in the same city, it is usually solved by the man. If the man's parents visit the woman, the woman usually pays the bill. Of course, in order to avoid embarrassment and contradiction, the younger generation can settle accounts directly, and don't let parents settle accounts.
How do parents spend their time happily when they meet?
1. When meeting, children should be fully prepared to introduce their parents' basic information, such as occupation, temperament, hobbies, taboos, etc. , to prevent chatting from stepping on thunder. Praise each other's parents in front of their parents, so that parents have a good impression on each other's family and chat will be more enjoyable.
Visit and greet each other's parents more often, so that they can recognize and like you, so that they will be friendly to your parents when they meet, and whatever they talk about will be smoother. When meeting, children should introduce their parents first. Parents are advised to start with talkative parents. If parents are talkative, they can start the topic by themselves. If both parents are not talkative, the child can start a conversation.
3. How to chat without embarrassment? There is no need to talk about details. The more detailed the discussion, the easier it is to have opinions. When meeting, parents should talk about the general direction, and the details of the wedding should be discussed in private.
4. Topics that parents can talk about (you can communicate with your parents in advance)
You can talk about the local scenery, characteristics and food in different places.
(2) Recent physical condition, health secrets and life tips.
③ Their respective occupations, working conditions, past work experience, etc.
Hobbies, cooking, traveling and sharing.
(5) about their children's childhood fun, praise each other's children.
5. Remind parents not to say anything
Don't brag too much about yourself.
Don't over-raise or favor your children.
Don't underestimate your children too much.
(4) Don't belittle and criticize each other's children.
How do parents talk about bride price when they meet?
1. Be sure to discuss it in advance. If you want to meet happily, don't really discuss these things at the dinner table. You can communicate your parents' ideas and your own ideas with each other in advance. After the two families agree, arrange a meeting and confirm something when they meet.
When meeting, it is best for the man to speak first. It's best for the man to speak on his own initiative, because it's always bad for the woman to say these things, and it's best to wait until we talk.
3. Remind parents not to say these words
(1) It will be insincere and prone to deadlock if you change your mind temporarily.
(2) Toughness is non-negotiable, which is the prelude to the collapse of the talks.
(3) Running away, threatening and intimidating are bound to annoy each other.
There is no need to go into too much detail.
The more detailed the discussion, the more likely it is to cause disputes, so when parents meet, just talk about the general direction, and the details of the wedding will be discussed in private. Then the questions that parents can communicate are:
How much is the bride price? How much is the dowry? Marriage customs of the two places.
② Do you need to get engaged? What is the general process?
(3) Wedding time, where to hold the wedding and how many times to hold it.
The wedding is roughly calculated, what scale you want to do and how to pay for it.
⑤ Who buys the RV, who pays, and how to write the name.
Where to buy a house and where to live in the future.
5. When the situation is wrong, the child should mediate in time. If there are differences between parents, children must mediate in time.
Parents, uncles and aunts, let's eat first, the food is cold.
We'll talk about this later or at home. There's no hurry.
In short, children should not obviously help themselves or their parents, let alone express their views. Any differences should be discussed in private.
List of gifts for each other's parents
Wine: Maotai, Wuliangye, Dream Blue, National pits and red wine.
Smoke: China, Su Yan, Yuxi, Yellow Crane Tower.
Tea: Pu 'er, Tieguanyin, Longjing and Jinjunmei.
Fruit: cherry, kiwi.
Health food: American ginseng, bird's nest, calcium tablets, protein powder, dietary fiber, ejiao jujube fish oil and honey.
Food gift boxes: nut gift boxes, pastry gift boxes, bacon gift boxes, miscellaneous grains gift boxes, lotus root starch cereal and other breakfast gift boxes.
Daily necessities: sweeping robot, window cleaning robot, wall-breaking machine, soymilk machine, electric shaver, dishwasher.
Clothing home textiles: silk scarves, warm clothes, cashmere scarves, down jackets.
Jewelry: jade bracelet, pearl necklace, pearl earrings.
Skin care and beauty: skin care suit, perfume, hand cream.