It means to indulge your desires without restraint, just like riding a horse to disaster.
People are not vegetation, who can ask for nothing.
Walking in this world, it is natural to have desires: coveting comfort, being ambitious, and finding fault … perhaps it is a weakness of human nature.
However, if the desire is allowed to overflow unchecked, it will only harm others and yourself in the end, which will lead to great disaster.
Only by learning the golden mean and grasping the "degree" of desire can we avoid the pit of fate and take the road of life well.
Too much laziness is a disaster.
Carnegie wrote in The Weakness of Human Nature that laziness is the root of all evil.
It is human nature to pursue comfort, but once laziness is rampant, it will only suffer its own consequences.
Read such a story:
When a man died, the prince took him to a magnificent palace, which was full of delicious food and gold and silver jewelry.
He was so excited that he finally got rid of the suffering in the world, so he ate and slept every day. He firmly believes that he has come to heaven.
However, after a few months, he began to feel empty and bored, and felt that life had lost its meaning.
After a while, he couldn't stand it anymore, so he went to the ghost king and said, "I really can't do nothing anymore." I would rather go to hell than stay here. "
Who ever wanted the prince to say to him, "Do you think this is heaven? You are wrong, this is hell! "
We are naturally eager for a comfortable life, instinctively want to escape from hard work and just want to enjoy it.
However, temporary relaxation is beneficial to body and mind, and excessive laziness is tantamount to spiritual opium, which wears away our enterprising edges bit by bit and wastes our precious lives.
Will there be such a situation:
Because I was too lazy to study, I collapsed on the sofa after work, brushed Tik Tok for two or three hours, and played game after game;
Because I was too lazy to exercise, I got a fitness card and signed up for a fitness class, but I never went to the gym.
Because I am too lazy to do it, I take out three meals a day, and I don't clean the garbage bins all over the floor;
What did you get?
Is it the passage of time or mediocrity, is it the lack of exercise that harms health, is it the lack of enterprising and depression …
The disaster of excessive laziness is to steal your time, nibble away your spirit and ambition bit by bit, and finally abolish you.
As Roland said in the book Busy and Enterprising:
Laziness is a strange thing, which makes you think it is ease, rest and blessing; But what it actually gives you is boredom, burnout and depression.
It deprives you of hope for the future, cuts off your friendship with others, and makes you more narrow-minded and suspicious of life.
Family is defeated by luxury, and people are defeated by escape. A life dominated by laziness is like being buried alive.
Only by learning to control one's lazy desire to indulge, struggling with the devil who craves comfort in his heart, moderately relaxing and combining work and rest can one maintain the flexibility and vitality of life.
Excessive desire to show off can easily lead to disaster.
As the saying goes, "wise men hoard more, fools often show off."
The more a person likes to show off his skills and strengths, the easier it is to fall into an unprovoked disaster.
Shi Chong, the richest man in the Western Jin Dynasty, was a man with strong vanity, and often boasted about his wealth.
On one occasion, a foreign envoy gave Sima Yan a rare fire cloth.
When Shi Chong knew this, he took fifty servants to see Sima Yan and made them all wear burnt clothes to show off their wealth.
Later, when the Western Jin Dynasty was in turmoil, Shi Chong was framed as a disorderly party and his property was destroyed.
When being sent to the execution ground on the prison car, Shi Chong couldn't help sighing with tears: "I know that these people are all interested in my wealth, so I am here."
Full loss, little gain. If Shi Chong knew how to control his ostentation and extravagance, be rich but not exposed, expensive but not arrogant, maybe he wouldn't be in trouble so soon.
The wood in the forest is beautiful, and the wind will destroy it; If you pile up on the shore, the current will surge. People who can't control themselves to show off their desires often get into trouble because of their poor vanity.
Mao Mu said in The Moon and Sixpence:
What you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and your cleverness of always rushing out of the limelight.
Every normal person is born with a desire to show superiority, which is as natural as comparing children whose toys are more beautiful and whose pocket money is more.
However, if you have seen more people and experienced things for a long time, you will understand that those who are always superior are really superficial.
As Murphy once said:
All sense of superiority does not come from appearance, figure, knowledge, wealth, status, achievement and power, but from lack of knowledge and compassion.
The process of growing up is the process of learning to converge and tolerate, and it is a journey of seeing a sea of money and finally reaching mental maturity.
It is better to take root in life and work hard for yourself than to boast a thousand words.
There is an old saying: "Between heaven and earth, modesty is the way to carry happiness, arrogance is full, and dependence is full."
In the world of mortals, it is the best blessing to keep inner modesty and awe, show off less and be vain less.
If you are too picky, you will hurt yourself.
There is a saying in Mencius Li Lou: The suffering of human beings lies in being a teacher.
This means that the biggest taboo in getting along with others is that you like to point fingers at others, choose this and don't respect that.
Once, Carnegie, an American educator, attended a banquet with friends. A man gave a speech at a banquet and quoted a famous saying that it was from the Bible.
Hearing this, Carnegie immediately retorted, "You are wrong. This sentence is not from the Bible at all, but from Shakespeare! " "
The man blushed and felt embarrassed, and immediately argued with Carnegie.
Just then, my friend came over and found out what had happened. Later, my friend said to the man, "You are right, this sentence really comes from the Bible." .
After the party, my friend said to Carnegie:
"This is just the source of a sentence. Why do you have to correct him? "
"Doing so not only hurt his self-esteem, but also ruined the atmosphere of the banquet, and even our own image was affected. Is it worth making such a fuss about a small matter? "
No one is perfect, everyone will have the desire to be critical and the impulse to correct others. However, is it really worthwhile to indulge your picky desires?
At the company meeting, he insisted that there were two typos on other people's PPT, and the relationship between good colleagues was so stiff;
When he goes to eat western food, he is very picky about the way his friends hold knives and forks. As a result, he didn't eat well and was hacked by his friends.
When relatives get together, he insists that there is something wrong with the way others educate their children. The original happy meal ended up blushing and thick-necked.
Such examples abound.
When people get along, they all care about each other. Interfering in other people's lives, pointing fingers and commenting will only make people bored.
Schopenhauer once said: "When talking with people, you should restrain yourself from correcting others' impulses, even if it is out of kindness. "
A cultured person will not ask others by his own standards. Because they understand that it is difficult to change a person, but it is easy to hurt a person.
Every fish has its own sea and everyone has his own life. Instead of spending time and energy directing other people's lives, we should seriously think about how to live our own lives.
There is a saying: "The greatest self-discipline of adults is backward compatibility and refraining from correcting others' desires. "
Because, even if you are picky, you will never change everything in this world. You have lost your life while correcting others.
Life is like a ruler, don't be too full.
Shi Tiesheng said in "I and Ditan": "Man's real name is desire".
In the world of mortals, no one can be without desires, but if desires are uncontrolled, they will only become slaves of emotions and provoke unprovoked disasters.
Life is like a ruler, which should be opened and closed properly.
Give up laziness, stop showing off, be less picky, and grasp the scale of desire, so as to avoid the abyss of fate and gain inner peace and indifference.
For the rest of my life, I hope we can all spend half our time, get drunk and walk around the road of life.