Give gifts to relatives, friends, bosses and colleagues; There are countless reasons for giving gifts, such as getting married, getting promoted, having children and moving, visiting patients, having a holiday and so on. Gift giving has become an indispensable social form for each of us to live and integrate into society.

There are many "technical misunderstandings" in gift giving that you don't know. If you are not careful, you will "upset" on the way to giving gifts and return empty-handed.

Let's start with a case: Liu Xiaoxiao has been groping in the society for many years, thinking that he is proficient in the ways of the world, especially the various skills and hidden rules of giving gifts. Now, she has moved to a well-paid foreign company, and she believes that she will make a difference with her talent, and may even get the opportunity to work abroad!

So, is the reality as beautiful as Liu Xiaoxiao imagined?

After Liu Xiaoxiao entered a foreign company, he just caught up with the company's Christmas party. Liu Xiaoxiao's boss is a Canadian. She decided to give her boss a small gift through this party, which left a deep impression on her boss and made her stand firm in the new company. When the boss opened Liu Xiaoxiao's present at the party, it was actually a colorful and unique clock! Fortunately, Liu Xiaoxiao's boss is not from China. I don't know that sending a clock in China is a "farewell" (it's unlucky, it's a big taboo for giving gifts). Seeing this clock, I smiled and showed my love for the gift, but he was puzzled why other colleagues present were embarrassed. It was circulated as a joke in the company. Liu Xiaoxiao, who sent the bell, is still ashamed to mention it, and her "good reputation" has spread all over the company.

Not only that, Liu Xiaoxiao always sends the same thing to her colleagues for fairness, which makes them feel that she is just sending them away and dealing with them. She is very insincere. She often throws Liu Xiaoxiao's gifts in the corner as soon as she gets them, and then gives each other a tacit look of contempt, which often confuses Zhang Er, a monk in Liu Xiaoxiao. In less than half a year, Liu Xiaoxiao had to leave this well-paid foreign company to find another way out because of his disharmony with his colleagues and boss (the boss finally knew the taboo of giving gifts from China people and felt Xiaoxiao teased him).

Learn to give gifts, you can learn to communicate, learn to give gifts, and learn to succeed-this is "gift success."

However, not everyone can give gifts successfully, and everyone can give gifts successfully. The mystery, embarrassment and even pain of giving gifts often have a different taste. In particular, if some people can't successfully avoid the misunderstanding of giving gifts, they will really capsize on giving gifts.

What specific gift-giving misunderstandings do we need to avoid?

Gifts need to be graded. When choosing gifts, we must divide the "grades" according to the recipient's personality, hobbies, status and identity. , that is, we must treat them differently. For example, if you give the same gift to a person with a high position and a person with a low position, the person with a high position will feel ignored, so you must give them something different and treat the person with a high position better.

Different people need different treatments. For example, don't give something too expensive to a friend who is not familiar with it, otherwise the other party will feel that they can't repay this favor, and even suspect that you have ulterior motives; Don't give thoughtful gifts to unfamiliar friends and friends who don't know each other very well. It is best not to send some personal items, such as personal clothes, so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstanding. Gifts for friends and teachers of civil servants should not be too expensive, or sent directly to the other party's residence, not in the workplace, so as not to bribe others.

Never send anything that will stimulate others' feelings or taboos. For example, it is not appropriate to send a Buddha statue to a Christian, even if it is an antique. Therefore, it is best not to send the following gifts: gifts with sexual hints, such as underwear, bedding, etc.; Religious gifts, such as crosses and bibles; Basket, some foods are often shiny in appearance, but rotten inside; Expensive gifts, such as jewelry, watches, etc. ; You don't like the "bicycle" gift, and neither do others. Useless gifts, such as coffee heaters and ashtrays. Gifts with "politics" and other contents.

Don't ask the other person what he needs directly. Don't directly ask the other person what gift he likes. On the one hand, his demands may exceed your budget. On the other hand, even if you buy according to his meaning, it may not be what the other party saw at that time. For example, if you buy a small model, the other party likes a large model. In this way, the other party will not only appreciate what you gave him, but will think that you can't do things.