Chinese Etiquette-Traditional Wedding Ceremony and Procedures

1. Choose an auspicious day.

Step 2 give gifts (about three to four weeks ago)

3. Post (about three to four weeks ago)

4. Above (the night before the wedding)

5. Dowry

6. Pick up the bride (wedding day)

7. Go out (wedding day)

8. Go to the door (wedding day)

9. Go back to the door (wedding day)

1. Choose an auspicious day.

Choosing a date to get married is the most auspicious day to start the horoscope of both men and women. It usually refers to the auspicious day of "registration" and "picking up the bride" and other ceremonies. If these ceremonies are not held on the same day, the day when the bride is taken in shall prevail.

Give a big gift.

The most solemn engagement ceremony is 15 to 20 days before the wedding. The man chooses a good day and brings gifts and various gifts to the woman's house.

Today, due to the complexity and time-consuming of this traditional wedding etiquette, a full set of "three books and six ceremonies" is rarely used, and the most widely concerned is the ceremony.

Men's products (gifts) and women's products (gifts)

Gift money usually determines an auspicious number and is kept in an envelope of profit and thrift. There must be tea and fruit.

A pile of gift cakes (wedding cakes) is unnecessary, because there are more cakes (that is, 400 cakes) now. It is enough to bring eight symbolically as a gift, which represents one's mind. Prepare two pairs of dragon and phoenix cakes, one male and one female. Others are replaced by Tang cake cards and cake cards, or they are profitable. Half or part of the man's gift (which can be replaced by profit)

Seafood is divided into four types, six types or eight types. Usually each kind is divided into two packages, regardless of weight, but there must be Nostoc flagelliforme. Others include scallops, abalone, mushrooms, squid, shark's fin, oyster sauce, sea cucumber, dried shrimps and fish maw, all of which can be used as substitutes. A pair of lotus roots, taro and pomegranate.

Three pairs of chicken or goose, two pairs of male and female (if the parents are not complete, one pair is enough), pork can fly from three Jin to five Jin (that is, one piece after another), and can also be used as a substitute. Shuangxi scarf

A pair of fish, big fish or shad, smell of fish. Suits, trousers (long life and wealth) or materials and belts for son-in-law

Two pairs of coconuts have fathers and sons. When the father was alive, he used two pairs, otherwise one pair will do. Platycladus orientalis, plum, taro, ginger

Two pairs of wine, four silver bags of foreign wine or rice wine, one pair of shoes, two pairs of socks, and two envelopes (which read: five generations under one roof, one hundred generations for future generations).

Four-fruit dried litchi, dried longan, dried peach, peanut. Reward money, tea, fried dumplings and Dafa muffins.

Raw fruit means raw lettuce.

Tea, sesame, because tea trees can't be transplanted, they should be planted with seeds. Therefore, taking tea as a gift, I wish my unmoved son to plant them practically. This is called "Youma Tea Ceremony". Huimen sugarcane

The mailbox is commonly known as the gift box, which contains two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green bamboo shoots, arborvitae, betel nuts, sesame seeds, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried peaches and dried longan, as well as a pair of red bean ropes, gifts, wedding gifts, dragon and phoenix candles and couplets. One betel nut (return all the rest to the man's house, meaning Ichiro to the end)

But keep everything simple, replace it with profit, and write "It's good to have a big gift." For example, pork is replaced by "pork gold" and clothing is replaced by "clothing gold". However, some important gifts should be brought in person as far as possible, including: a pair of dragon and phoenix cakes, a number of Tang cakes (about eight), a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, a pair of couplets and a fruit.

The items in the bride price imply auspiciousness, but the quantity must be in pairs, not in singular.

When a woman receives a man's dowry, she doesn't accept it all. Among them, the items that belong to the man's blessing need a gift cake.

In order to avoid snapping up, you can buy some hardcover gift boxes sold by Chinese cake shops, because you have all the important items needed for gifts.

Handkerchiefs should not be given as gifts, because it means breaking up.

Jiehun girl cake

According to the tradition in China, the wedding pie is an indiscreet part, which shows the importance and solemnity of the wedding. When the man gives a big gift cake (wedding cake), the woman will distribute it to relatives and friends to celebrate. The so-called "wedding cake" is the good news that my daughter is going to marry relatives and friends. The number of cakes can be determined according to the generations of relatives and friends, and can also be divided into four types, six types, eight types, and paired in pairs.

At present, there are as many as thirty or forty kinds of Chinese gift cakes, and the most popular ones are:

Colorful preserved egg crisp

Egg yolk lotus paste crisp

HongLing lotus seed cake

Crispy yellow bean paste

Lazy peach crisp

Egg yolk lotus seed cake

Chicken souffle

Egg white coconut hill

Tips:

All are even numbers, representing yes-men;

Traditionally, some relatives and friends who are relatively sparse and don't need to send invitations to drink can send gifts and cakes. Generally, at least two cakes are sent, commonly known as "double flat";

Older people can be given half a catty (six) or two catties (eight). At present, the most popular is six cakes, and most of the Tang cake coupons on the market are half a dozen Zhuang.

make the bed

Bed is not only a tool for health and harmonious marriage, but also a tool for safe reproduction, so it is also regarded as very important.

Except for a new bed, all the items on the bed were given to the man's family by the woman's family as a dowry.

Choose a good day. A few days before the wedding, the lucky guy will put the new bed in the right place. Before the wedding, Zai Hao ordered the old lady to make the bed, spread the mattress, bed sheets, dragon and phoenix quilts, Yuanyang pillows and hundreds of curtains on the bed, and take out all kinds of auspicious things, such as acacia beans (red beans and mung beans), Dajishuang, red dates, dried and fresh lilies, lotus seeds, longan, dried litchi and litchi.

On the wedding night, after the couple enters the new house, they can let their children eat happy fruit in bed. This is called "pressing the bed", which means a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren. If you want to add a lively atmosphere, the groom's brother of the same age can make a scene in the new house. In ancient times, it was believed that "newlyweds make more trouble if they don't make trouble", which can ward off evil spirits for newlyweds and get lucky after marriage.

Tips:

Choose a good-natured woman as the bed. A good-natured woman should be an elder whose parents and children are alive, their marriage is harmonious, their children have grown up, and they are financially capable in society (most importantly, there is no abortion or abortion);

After the bed is installed, no one is allowed to enter the new house and touch the new bed until the new person enters the house on the wedding night;

Pregnant women and undertaker are not allowed to enter the new house within the first month of the wedding, and women with monthly events are not allowed to enter the new house (except the bride) after they have settled in bed and on their wedding night;

Step 4 exceed

On the eve of the wedding, both men and women choose an auspicious time (the man should be half an hour earlier than the woman, that is, one hour) to hold the ceremony. It symbolizes that a couple has entered the "adult" stage, and this ceremony must be held by a "lucky guy" and a "lucky woman" in their respective homes.

Before the auspicious moment comes, a couple should put on brand-new pajamas and underwear. The woman chooses a table with moonlight by the window, lights a dragon and phoenix candle and a wick, and sacrifices to heaven with three bowls of lotus seeds, red dates and glutinous rice balls (six or nine in each bowl), raw fruit, barbecue and chicken.

Both men and women should prepare rulers, mirrors and scissors, the so-called "bibcock mirrors and scissors", and let the "fortune guy" and "fortune woman" comb the couple's hair and say:

Comb it from beginning to end

Two combs for Qi Mei with white hair.

Three combs for children and grandchildren.

Four combs, until all four silver bamboo shoots are in a line.

Then tie the cypress and the red rope to the heads of a couple, and finally shout "Gao Sheng" before you can stand up.

Tips:

Newcomers must take a bath with grapefruit leaves before going to the top;

Newcomers must wear brand-new pajamas and underwear;

If you remarry and remarry, you don't need to go to work again, because you will be an adult after the first marriage;

It is already a very simple ceremony, so there is no simplified method;

The groom is run by a man and the bride is run by a woman. But it must not be done by parents or sister Daikin.

5. Dowry

After receiving the gift, the makeup suit of the woman's house should be delivered to the man's house the day before the wedding at the latest. These suitcases are symbols of women's family status and wealth. Besides precious jewelry, dowry is mainly a good omen:

1. Children's bucket: that is, the toilet, in which money, cypress and profit (symbolizing children and grandchildren) run through the red line are placed. Replace the toilet with a spittoon;

2. Bowl chopsticks: two children's bowls and two children's chopsticks (tied with red rope);

3. Longfeng bedding: sheets, pillowcases and quilts should be embroidered with patterns such as mandarin ducks, double happiness and dragons and phoenixes;

4. Scissors and rulers (symbolizing pairs and fertile fields);

5. Wallet and belt (symbolizing wealth);

6. Copper pot and shoes (representing the same bald head);

7. Sliced sugar (representing sweetness);

8. Vase (representing rich flowers);

9. Tea sets: including trays, teapots and teacups;

10. Clothes cloth: put the new clothes in the suitcase (with Platycladus orientalis, lotus seeds, longan and lily);

1 1. Gold and silver jewelry.

Tips:

Because the dowry project is complex, some outdated available benefits have been replaced;

The bride can also choose what she wants;

It is not necessary to move all the dowry to the man's house in one day, but it is best to get it ready before the wedding day.

6. Wedding ceremony

Nowadays, picking up the bride is the climax of the whole wedding. Accompanied by a string of stones (brothers), the groom greeted the bride with flowers. When you arrive at your wife's house, the first level is "getting started". If you want to get a beautiful woman again, you must go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, but the most important thing is to open the door generously.

After the sister group receives the gift, it should give 10% to 50% of the gift to the male brother group, with the words "tea sister gold" written on it. After the groom is successfully introduced, the sister group will also entertain the brothers with refreshments.

After opening the door, the bride will be brought out by Sister Dajin or the maid of honor and given to her father, who will then give it to the groom for a formal ceremony.

Newcomers should worship the heavens and the earth first, then their ancestors, and then bow down to their parents with tea (red dates should be put in the tea in advance to get the meaning, and the bride should immediately bring the gold jewelry presented by her elders to express her gratitude).

The bride prepares two gifts, namely "prestige, splendor, gold" and "full house", and gives them to her aunt after going through the door.

Tips:

The groom should bring his own flowers to marry the bride, and the bride should not make flowers herself;

It's time to "open the door for profit". Usually, the groom will compromise a price with his sisters in advance, so as not to compromise with each other on festive days, quarrel endlessly, affect the atmosphere or miss auspicious moments;

If the couple get married before their brother or sister, which is commonly known as "climbing their heads", they should hang up their pants and let the couple wear their crotch before going out to show their respect for their brother or sister.

go out

Outside, Daikin's sister or maid of honor holds up a red umbrella to protect the bride, which means spreading branches and leaves. Sister Dajin and other sisters walked behind the couple and sprinkled rice and red mung beans on the sky, umbrella roof and flower roof, meaning that the chicken would not peck the bride after pecking the rice. Before boarding the float, the bride should bow to her relatives and friends to show her gratitude.

8. Go through the door

Passing through the door means that the bride formally enters the man's house after going out from the woman's house to meet the elder of the man's house, such as Weng Gu. The important procedures are as follows:

1) Newcomers step into men's homes;

2) Weng Gu came out of the room to meet the newcomers in the hall (Weng Gu can't directly see the newcomers entering the door in the hall to avoid collision);

3) Newcomers worship heaven and earth first, then ancestors;

4) The couple offered tea and bowed to Weng Gu. Aunt Weng will say some greetings, give welfare to the new couple and send jewelry and gifts to the bride. The bride should wear the ornaments immediately after receiving them to show her gratitude;

5) Newcomers offer tea to other elders and relatives;

6) Newcomers don't need to offer tea to the groom's brothers or relatives one by one, just shake hands with each other;

7) A couple should stay at home and have lunch with their elders such as Weng Gu. Wenggu must prepare nine dishes to symbolize longevity.

8) If the man's house is shallow and narrow, the best man can go out for lunch with the members of the brothers and sisters group (the bridesmaid stays at the man's house to accompany the bride).

Tips:

Those who accompany the bride to the man's house must be unmarried women (except Dajin's sister), but the bride's brother can't accompany the bride to the door;

Prepare a mat and bow to the bride;

If the bride receives the ornaments, she should put them on at once;

Lunch can be reduced to eight courses (rich and developed) or even six courses (endless), but avoid seven courses.

Newcomers can go back to the door immediately after lunch and set the wine at night.

9. Federal-Mogul (third generation Federal-Mogul)

On the third day after marriage, the groom accompanied the bride to her home with gifts.

return a salute

"Originally only boiled pigs" (representing the bride's chastity)

Two boxes of cake.

A pair of wine

Chicken two

Two baskets of raw fruit

Lettuce (geomantic omen)

Two boxes of longevity noodles

Pork belly and pork, etc.

The woman's family immediately used this gift to worship her ancestors and then distributed it to relatives and friends. However, the head and tail of the roast pig, one hand and one foot, and half a pig's tongue (symbolizing a good head and a good tail), together with benefits, were put on the roast pig basin as a gift to the man's family.

Tips:

Can be used for profit, except for burning pigs;

Nowadays, couples usually choose to return to China immediately on their wedding day or the next day. But remember that it can't be more than three days, which shows that the man is dissatisfied with the bride and doesn't allow her to go back to her family.