Second, don't label depression easily, because there is a qualitative difference between depression and depression, especially depression will have physiological changes. If it is serious, try to choose more scientific drug treatment and psychological counseling.
Third, watching New Emotional Therapy may not solve the problem of depression. If we can solve medical problems by reading books, then many people don't need to go to the hospital. Therefore, if you really suspect that you have depression, you'd better go to the psychological department of the hospital for a diagnosis. If you need to take medicine, you should take medicine on time according to the doctor's advice and cooperate with the doctor.
If you really don't want to go to the hospital for treatment, then the following methods may help her:
Exercise with her, exercise can stimulate the secretion of dopamine, at least relieve her depressed mood.
Reading with her certainly has a certain effect, but the main effect of reading is that she can act according to what is written in the book, rather than "I know everything, but I can't do it." Reading is the same as not reading. You can practice the methods introduced in the book with her, such as deep breathing, meditation and so on.
Taking her out to socialize more may also make her feel more different scenery and relieve symptoms.
Spend more time with her, watch some relaxing programs or movies, and chat with her.
Finally, with a caring boyfriend like you, she will definitely cherish her relationship with you. I believe that your love and the power of time can heal all wounds.
I just did some tests on the online platform and felt that my girlfriend was depressed. I feel you are a little scared! Is the testing platform a qualified authority that can diagnose depression? If not, then why do you believe those conclusions are correct? In modern society, there are many people who can't adjust their emotions and can't handle them. Is that a tendency to suffer from depression? Not necessarily! I have a cousin who has a good life, superior economic conditions, good looks and excellent work, but she once said something to me, and I was quite moved. She said that if someone asked her if there was anything happy in her life, she didn't think so! She doesn't think there is anything wrong with life, but she just can't be happy! Why is this happening? I'm sure my cousin is definitely not depressed, and she won't be depressed! My judgment of her is that she doesn't love life enough! The fast pace of modernization has made many people live into machines! They don't know how to love life. It is estimated that your girlfriend and you didn't find out, and they unconsciously lost their pursuit of a better life! Now many people think that a good life must be bought with money! How nice it would be to have a big house, a cart and inexhaustible savings deposits! In fact, this is completely wrong! Of course, it's not good to be poor enough to jingle! To really love life is actually to make some appropriate choices and keep and control your desires moderately! Let those things that seem important to us lower our expectations of this demand! I think the reason why you think your girlfriend seems to have depression is because of your anxiety! Because you are afraid of such a perfect girlfriend, what should you do if she really gets depression? So, looking at your question, I think your girlfriend is not easily depressed at all!
Stay with her and support her. But the most important thing is to get her treated.
Depression is difficult to heal itself, just like a brain cold. Treatment needs the cooperation of drug treatment and psychological counseling.
Your girlfriend's resistance to treatment and anger may be a negative emotional expression caused by depression. As a close person, you need great courage and patience, on the one hand, because emotions are contagious, and on the other hand, because treatment takes a long time.
You don't have to put too much pressure on yourself, and don't give it to her again. You bought the relevant books, which is your kindness, but if she doesn't agree with such behavior, it will give her a sense of controlled frustration. Try to communicate with your family, or try to let her know that she needs treatment in other softer ways. You have to understand that what you can do is actually very limited. The most important thing is to let her receive regular treatment.
The root cause of her depression should not be you, which means she can't give up her previous feelings. And you are just a temporary corner (foot) where she temporarily gains "joy", but her psychology can never eliminate the shadow. It doesn't seem easy for you to gradually eliminate the shadow in her heart with your contact with her. She thinks his superiority is greater than yours!
In this case, companionship is the key; Follow her heart and slowly keep her away from his thoughts.
First of all, remember that you can make her happy, don't overdo it, and always observe her every move, every word and deed! Since you like her, just as you love her, take her wings and fly! In addition, look at her mentality and see if she is dissatisfied with you; Are you really depressed?
People are in emotion, work, life and communication ... When they encounter their feelings, they can't stop and don't want to let go, and their frustration is hard to understand, and they are inseparable, and suddenly they can't get over it ... The more they think about it, the narrower they think about it, the more they think about it, and the more they block it ... In this case, they can't let go and can't recycle it, but they are forcing themselves to keep their eyes closed, and there is only one thing in their minds. Because of heavy thinking, I always wander in the same way of thinking, so I don't allow others to appear around here.
Of course, the main direction of this kind of depression is that the mind is not open-minded, the mind is too biased, the mind is too narrow, the mind is too narrow, the road is too dark, it is unwise to accept things, and the brain and nerves are too fragile to withstand extreme stimulation and blows, so that they do not understand and die. They repeatedly ask themselves "why"; No, it's hard; I don't understand, but I want to find the answer;
Please take her out, look around in fields, grasslands, valleys, amusement places ... open places, breathe naturally, relax, and try to make her feel happy and lively. ...
Simply put, sick people hate being told that they are sick. According to your description, your girlfriend is very resistant to treatment, which means that she doesn't think she is depressed subjectively, or even if she knows that she is prone to depression, I hope you can tolerate everything, including her strengths and weaknesses.
If you love her very much, then you should show your attitude first. No matter what she loves, let her feel at ease to be herself. Then you give her confidence and hope through the dribs and drabs of daily life. From the perspective of psychological counseling, the treatment of all mental diseases needs to start from the patient herself, so that she can change herself, instead of being forced to change by others!
Depression accumulates slowly, so treatment needs to be done slowly. Rome wasn't built in a day. You should be patient enough to face it with her. Find a professional counselor or psychologist and let the doctor teach you some simple methods. She resists the doctor, but not you. You infiltrated the method into her bit by bit.
I believe there will be a day of recovery. You are a good man. Come on, I wish you happiness!
In fact, most people have this kind of mental illness, only mild, moderate and severe.
Why do most people have mental illness? The reason is this.
Nowadays, social festivals are coming together soon, especially in big cities like Beijing, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Life is stressful and the cost of living is getting higher and higher. Of course, low income in small cities can also make people depressed.
Actually, it depends entirely on whether you are happy or not. Besides working on weekdays, you should spare some time to do things you are interested in, such as going out to take photos of the countryside, climbing mountains, enjoying the city landscape, cooking a delicious meal, going to see a long-awaited movie and buying a favorite dress on weekends. So as to relax in a certain period of time and prepare for next week's work.
The emergence of this disease is actually to communicate more every day, do more things that interest you, and don't stay at home after work. You can sing a few songs in the coin-operated KTV when you encounter something unsatisfactory or unsatisfactory at work, or at home when the conditions are not sufficient. Be careful not to disturb others.
Anyway, mental illness is easy to come out, some people enlighten and some people chat.
Depression patients generally have a lot to do with their mood. The cause of depression is to be stimulated, or frightened, or too sad. These are the causes of depression.
See what your girlfriend usually likes. You should do what she likes. In this process, slowly tell her some future plans, let her know that she is actually very strong and has a yearning heart for the future.
Let's do a few small experiments, that is, take our girlfriend out to play and see how she behaves differently from her family. Get in touch with your girlfriend more and you will know how to help her.
Let me talk about myself. Five years ago, I got depression, and I didn't want to live when it was serious. Because I was stimulated, others wronged my husband and made him suffer a lot, spending tens of thousands of dollars. Because of this, I am depressed.
Later, I cheered up like this because the child was too young at that time. I went out to work all day and didn't come back. Children can't cook, so they eat steamed bread and spicy strips. After a few days, the child began to have a toothache. I saw that poor kid. If anything happens to me. The child can't live any longer. From that day on, I will think about good places all day and my mood will get better with time.
Everything comes to him who waits, the children are also very competitive, and the husband is also very competitive. They are not afraid of hardship and fatigue. They can earn 70,000 to 80,000 yuan a year, and their days gradually calm down.
Therefore, being a man or doing things, as long as you don't harm others or yourself, do whatever you want. As long as you want to do it, you will be in a good mood and there will be no disease!
Advise her: seek treatment from me. I am a folk doctor, and I can cure this disease.
Depression patients are related to the thinking mode of family background, and pay too much attention to interests and results. Ignore the feelings, you can take her to Wutai Mountain with particularly good scenery to find peace of mind and make her feel beautiful.
She is definitely not interested, because she is numb. I suggest you find a way to get her into that situation. The power of nature is infinite.
Once she feels at ease, she will get better. Otherwise, it will get worse. It is recommended to travel more, preferably to famous Buddhist mountains, and take less medicine.