Only when individuals adopt a positive reflective attitude can we curb our inner depravity impulse and our "invasion of beauty"

Recently, I attended a dinner party, and the attendees were mainly media people, most of whom were senior predecessors.

In recent years, under the pressure of policy or business, media people have turned to start businesses. Due to the continuation of majors and resources, most of them will switch to the cultural industry. The predecessor of the dinner party, a reporter in the past, has now transformed into a public relations director of a big company, the owner of an advertising film company and the founder of a media company. It's especially charming to see old friends. Besides toasting and bragging to each other, I found that everyone's topic can't be separated from the same focus: online celebrities.

Internet celebrities have become a key word because of the current media transformation.

With the development of mobile internet technology and the popularity of smart phones, traditional media, mainly TV and newspapers, began to decline, and new media with mobile phones as ports rose. As a result, the right to speak of the media gradually slipped from professionals in the past to ordinary individuals. In this context, everyone is likely to be the focus, as long as he/she has a way to be noticed.

Media entrepreneurs know the way of "attention", and when organizing resources from all sides, they will also focus on the core issue of "how to improve attention"-because attention is traffic, traffic is value, and there is money if there is value.

Any business model based on "attention" is called "network celebrity economy".

Some people are concerned because of their good eloquence, such as Gao; Some people are concerned because of their good literary talent, such as Liang Wendao; Some people are concerned because they have money, such as Wang Jianlin; Some people are concerned because of their good birth, such as Wang Sicong, the son of Wang Jianlin; Of course, there are also some people who are concerned only because they are good-looking. People with eloquence and literary talent are hard to find; It may not be uncommon for people with more wealth and good background to become online celebrities; And "good-looking" people are rich in mines, and this advantage does not need too much time to accumulate, which has become a good way to get attention quickly.

As a result, "net red face" came into being. Some girls are born beautiful and naturally join the career of online celebrities; And some girls with average qualifications will spend a lot of money on plastic surgery in order to eat the bowl of rice that looks good. The domestic plastic surgery industry has developed very vigorously in the past two years, and friends around me have joined the plastic surgery industry and earned a lot of money.

However, I found that people prefer "good-looking" people, but don't value "good-looking" people. You are all people who have read some books at this dinner party. From Plato and Aristotle to Kant and Hegel, you can talk about Kan Kan's aesthetic topic. For cosmetic surgery, it is inevitable to stand on the moral high ground and judge, expressing all kinds of disdain.

I asked: Why don't you like it? Someone replied: because it is too superficial. I asked: What is shallowness? Q: It's not superficial to look good and have plastic surgery.

Throughout history, appearance has never been a simple skin. People are willing to chase beautiful people just as bees are willing to chase beautiful flowers. A good-looking face can bring people pleasure and get enough social resources. However, the world is unfair, and resources are never evenly distributed.

Just as there are few people with high IQ and good birth in the crowd, not everyone can be good-looking. When the unattractive people realize that some people can get huge resources just by their natural beauty, they will choose plastic surgery: why is that person so lucky and so beautiful, and why can't I?

People who want to correct "the unfairness of nature" and save their bad luck through plastic surgery think that the world is dominated by the formula of "beauty is capital". But the question is, who deduced this formula? Who is instilling it?

It is parents, teachers, neighbors, people who come into contact with each other in daily life, and everyone who is influenced by the established values of society. Elders will tease "good-looking children" twice, teachers will give more opportunities for activities when they meet "good-looking students", and strangers will ask for micro signals when they meet "good-looking opposite sex" on the road. Our actions, whether intentional or unintentional, actually acquiesce or even encourage this "unfairness under beauty."

Yes, you can say that those girls have plastic surgery just to look good and superficial, but aren't they plastic surgery just to make people feel good? Of course, you can also say that people should live for themselves, not for others. But we can't cancel the duality of the word "look", the relationship between the viewer and the observed, and the sociality of human beings, that is, the indivisibility between individuals. Therefore, it is not so much the invention and activation of the word "face value" as the girls who have plastic surgery are superficial. They are promoting the "beauty scoring system".

Someone raised his hand and said: Pursuing beauty through plastic surgery does not mean pursuing beauty. Beauty is natural, and nature is beauty.

However, this statement is very suspicious.

First of all, nature is beautiful but not beautiful, just like heaven and earth are ruthless. People who have been to African primeval forests will find that primeval forests are full of thorns and hidden dangers, and people who have not experienced field survival training can't survive there at all. We say something is "beautiful" because we think it is presented in an orderly way. But the world itself is not disorderly. Only when we are trained to observe with rational eyes can the world "appear" orderly. It is wishful thinking for human beings to praise the beauty of nature.

Secondly, human beings have never really pursued nature. On the contrary, human beings have always regarded nature as their enemy, and they are all taking it as their duty to defeat nature, especially on the road of pursuing beauty. According to the laws of nature, the average life expectancy of human beings is only 35 years old, but human beings invented medicine and the average life expectancy was extended to 60, 70 or even 80 years old. According to the laws of nature, wrinkles will appear in the form of acceleration when people are over 28 years old, but people have invented various skin care products, health care products and surgical schemes to resist the aging of the body.

If you can accept medicine to improve the survival rate and resist aging, why not accept medicine to make people more beautiful?

Someone raised their hands and said, Plastic surgery is too exaggerated. It's like turning yourself into someone else. I can't stand it.

I asked: Is orthodontics a cosmetic surgery? Someone replied: not really. I asked: Why? A: Because orthodontics doesn't make people unrecognizable. I replied: for the blind, it is plastic surgery, because the blind can identify people by hearing, their teeth are corrected and their voices have changed. They don't know how to answer. I asked: Will orthodontics make people more beautiful? Some people say: Yes.

If orthodontics is beauty, shaving, hair cutting and hair planting are all cosmetic surgery, all to make people look good. The same is cosmetic surgery. Why are these practices not pointed at, but more intense ones, such as breast augmentation and bone cutting, considered to be problematic?

Someone asked me again: Is it interesting for you to see that everyone has become a net red face? All made into pointed chin, big eyes and white skin. Is it really good?

I replied: the question is not whether "sharp chin, big eyes and white skin" is good or not, but that the single values of society make us tend to a single aesthetic standard, so that everyone seems to regard "sharp chin, big eyes and white skin" as the only standard of beauty. Men shape women, and men praise women with words called "sexy". The word "sex" means that aesthetic standards are often imposed by the opposite sex. Therefore, it is not so much that the male values that shape them are too single, but rather that the female values of the online red face are too single.

Someone asked me: if you want to find a girlfriend, do you want to find a beautiful one?

Of course I want to find a beautiful one, I can't deny it. I won't say with dignity: it doesn't matter whether the appearance is beautiful or not, I only care about the beauty of the soul. I must confess that my aesthetics have also been influenced and even shaped by society. I am aware of my own problems, although I can't go back to the time when aesthetics was not assimilated. I made a stupid mistake at work because of this.

I am an editor from the media, responsible for submitting articles, pushing articles and replying to messages every day. Once, because I liked an author very much, I replied to a reader's message and said, "This author is not only good at writing, but also beautiful." After being reminded by the editor-in-chief, I realized that my message was sloppy, unprofessional and even reckless.

Good writing is good writing. Why add a comment about the author's appearance? Am I implying that the author looks good, so the article gets extra points? Or is the author good-looking, so the article is well written? Or, is the article well written and worthy of her face?

I realized that my message offended the author, and this seemingly "compliment" was actually belittling her labor and her ability. The mistakes I made were caused by my weakness, and of course this is also the weakness of human nature. But for such a weakness, we can't give in so easily. We can take a more positive attitude.

Knowledge is a virtue, because knowledge drives behavior. Be cautious through reflection, carefully examine your own behavior scale, correct unfair behavior caused by human weakness, and avoid arbitrary evaluation and offending others.

For example, as a boss, when recruiting people, you only need to examine the interviewer's ability and the quality required by the position; When recruiting students, teachers only examine the basis or potential possibility of students' related majors; As an individual, when we look at others, we no longer use words such as "face value" and "intelligence" to frame others.

Only when individuals adopt a positive reflective attitude can we curb our inner depravity impulse and our "invasion of beauty" When social values are liberated, it is also the time for individual liberation. By then, people will take a more calm attitude towards things like appearance, and plastic surgery will no longer be a problem.