1, influenced by adults. Children's imitation ability is particularly strong. When adults talk, sometimes they don't pay attention to avoiding children, and children understand and learn. This is the result of parents' "words and deeds".
2. Influenced by TV dramas such as Korean dramas. Nowadays, the media is extremely entertaining and highly praised by Korea and Japan. The beauty industry in Korea and Japan is relatively developed, so children will travel to Korea and Japan when they are very young.
The child has reached the age of loving beauty. Girls begin to care about their appearance when they are three or four years old. If parents or relatives and friends don't praise their children casually, they will pay more attention to their appearance. Everyone has some flaws in appearance, so it is not surprising that children pursue perfection, pay attention to perfection, and want plastic surgery.
Countermeasures:
1. If the child wants plastic surgery, parents can tell the truth. Cosmetic surgery still has certain risks, and it will leave some symptoms after getting old;
2. If the child thinks it over and decides to have a facelift, there is no need for parents to stop it stiffly. Besides, if you can't stop it, you can help your child choose an institution with excellent qualifications and excellent technology.
This parent, you have to get rid of her daughter's thoughts. It must not be your persuasion. Many parents like to say, don't do this, don't do that, don't be with that boy, don't study hard, and so on. Don't say these things.
Children are advised not to use a positive tone. You can try this. Find some negative cases of plastic surgery. It is best to use video. Because that's not what you said. Reduced the conflict between you and your child. Even if the effect is not good, it will not be too bad. As long as it's not what you said, it will be easier for children to listen. This is similar to many children who don't like their parents and are willing to listen to outsiders. It's not that children don't respect you. They know you too well. The subconscious will easily filter out your suggestions.
Find some flow charts of plastic surgery. Fault case chart. For example, plastic surgery can't be seen. It'll shock her anyway.
Also, if the risk factor of this plastic surgery is not too high, if you really can't quit, you should turn around appropriately and accompany your child to find a formal institution, so as not to let your child be cheated by a black medical institution. At that time, it will be too late to regret.
In the process of searching, we still need to find some questions to ask our children. What is the reason why she wants plastic surgery?
Don't provoke her into saying something. Don't you like the face your mother gave you? Don't intensify contradictions. As long as you are relaxed and the atmosphere is not tense, let outsiders say it. As long as you don't keep talking, the effect will be much better. There will be many people who are not successful in cosmetic surgery. If you meet them, your children will be even more shocked.
If all the above fails, use the procrastination method. For example, she is too young. The weather is not good recently. Not easy to recover and so on.
In this process, you have to ask her, if she really fails, can you accept the failed you? Ask this again and again Have you thought about the reason why plastic surgery failed?
To sum up, it is the example method, others' proof method, rhetorical question syntax, procrastination method and family melting method.
I hope I can help you. Young people nowadays pay too much attention to the effect of beautiful women. Actually, it's really not that good after plastic surgery. It's really terrible that some people are not beautiful. I have been engaged in makeup for many years. You can let your child learn some makeup artists. This will also improve some problems in their appearance. You don't have to have plastic surgery. Come on, you are the best mother.
Give a few more cases of plastic surgery failure. The key is to establish a daughter's correct aesthetic consciousness and enhance her self-confidence. After all, Qian Qian is the most beautiful woman. Who can say which one is the most beautiful? Besides, nowadays, beautiful women are all the same. Without characteristics, they lose their recognition, which can be said to be very sad ...
There is no need to persuade, and I can't persuade. If she is underage, economic blockade will do; If she is an adult and can take financial responsibility for her actions, tell her the possible consequences and problems that should be paid attention to like a friend.
Attracting the opposite sex or increasing the competitiveness of the workplace is not determined by appearance, not to mention that most plastic surgery has sequelae, and whether it is beautiful or not is another matter. In reality, no one is more beautiful after the whole, and most of them are similar to those without the whole. Injection will be deformed for a long time, and then it will become ugly, so plastic surgery becomes a must (congratulations, you will become a VIP of plastic surgery hospital).
If I were you, I would rather believe in myself than those plastic surgeons who cry roast meat. As for the successful example of "good girlfriends", calm down first. It is impossible for them to tell you how good they are (one is privacy and the other is competition), let alone pretend to "just tell you" uniquely. Fake!
In the Hong Kong drama Hello hea, there is a character named Lin Xue, who is also a fashionable girl who is keen on plastic surgery. Her father thinks that since she can't control it, let her do it. In the end, she didn't succeed, because all the money was cheated by the "soft rice king" Many of these women have lost confidence in attracting the opposite sex. The more their families object, the more rebellious they are. I can't stop them for a while, so don't stop when you're done!
It is good for children to have a heart that loves beauty; However, the lack of a correct understanding of beauty requires the guidance of our teachers and parents.
A little more care
Parents usually listen to their children's voices patiently and carefully. For example, when your daughter tells you about her classmate's plastic surgery at school, you can try to stand in the same position as your child and be curious. Listen to the daughter's specific description of her classmate's plastic surgery, and understand the reasons and parts of plastic surgery, the specific changes after plastic surgery, whether she feels uncomfortable after plastic surgery, her parents' attitude towards plastic surgery, her classmates' views and so on.
No matter whether the child's point of view is right or wrong, mature or naive, our parents should first let the child speak out boldly, because only by correctly understanding the problem can we find the right solution. For example, the reason why children envy is the feeling of seeing, the praise of classmates or the change of interpersonal relationship.
Second, be more sure.
We should learn to appreciate the bright spots of children. You can understand the difference in appearance between plastic surgery girls and your daughter through listening and discussing in front, and make a strategic affirmation and appreciation. In short, we should seize the advantages of our daughter, vigorously brag about it, and be confident and decisive.
At the same time, we should also tell our children that there are no perfect people in the world, handsome men and beautiful women also have shortcomings, and temperament is the most important thing. "You are full of poetry and self-improvement". If you hone yourself at ordinary times, your talent will rise and beauty will glow from the inside out. You can give some concrete examples and compare pictures to guide your daughter's correct aesthetics.
Third, give more guidance.
For example, the attitude towards plastic surgery is increasingly accepted by society. We don't have to completely deny when communicating with our children, but we must let them understand the following points.
As the saying goes, "eighteen changes in women's universities" means that people's five senses are still in a period of harmonious growth before adulthood. During this period, it is not suitable for plastic surgery for special reasons (such as serious irreversible injury), otherwise the effect may be counterproductive and miss the opportunity of natural culture.
We need to have a comprehensive understanding of plastic surgery. On the one hand, it can really improve the aesthetic feeling; On the other hand, as a kind of operation, no matter how minimally invasive, it will also cause certain harm to the body. You and your daughter can also look at the cases and comparison pictures after plastic surgery failed. I hope my answer can help you.
It's really painful to live badly, to be honest. Should be supported. I used to let my mother have plastic surgery every day to get rid of depression. There is not enough money to get a loan.
Plastic surgery can be more beautiful than before, but even if it is successful, there will be side effects. So what should we do?
First, there are many kinds of plastic surgery, such as some micro-plastic surgery, which may be more effective.
Second, from the standpoint of parents, I hope my daughter can seriously consider the matter of cosmetic surgery and give priority to persuasion.
Third, there are still many cases of plastic surgery failure. You can instill some such situations in your daughter and let her retreat.
Fourth, cosmetic surgery also requires a certain fee. If the daughter's own financial ability is not good, she can have whatever she needs, and she can strictly close this door.
Fifth, what kind of psychology does the daughter want to face up, whether she feels that she is not beautiful enough, or what reason should be clear.
Sixth, mobilize the family around you, friends of your daughter, etc. To collectively oppose this matter, let the daughter understand that cosmetic surgery is not desirable.
Get along with her as a friend and ask her why she wants plastic surgery.
If you have to have plastic surgery because you are not confident enough, (for different reasons, there are different ways to do it), some are because your friends advise you to do it, some are because the people you like refuse it, and some are because you are frustrated in the workplace. ...
The most important thing is to make her realize from the bottom of her heart that plastic surgery is not once and for all. To rebuild self-confidence, the most fundamental thing is to fill her heart.
From now on, your husband and wife and relatives around you should stop persuading them not to have plastic surgery, but praise her for being beautiful every day, buy her more beautiful clothes, help her rebuild her confidence in herself, and let her write and make up. If you can, you'd better hire a handsome guy for her (in short, please use any name) and praise her every day. Once you are confident, you don't need plastic surgery.
Learn to save the country by curving instead of nagging.
And from time to time, some news about plastic surgery failure is not obvious.
Let children have more confidence in themselves. Natural beauty is the real beauty. You can take your children to see inspirational films and give them encouragement. Once they fail, they will regret it for life. My personal advice is not to have plastic surgery.