Slowness is also a kind of wisdom.
(Excerpt) Author/[Day] Junichi Watanabe
Of course, successful people in all walks of life have talents, but behind the talents, there must be a useful sense of dullness.
Generally speaking, when the word "boring" is mentioned, people associate it with nothing good, and it often has obvious derogatory and negative elements. However, if the understanding of this word is slightly expanded, the impression of "slow response" in people's minds will change greatly.
I have been a plastic surgeon in the affiliated hospital of Sapporo University for many years.
The professor who instructed me at that time was a rising star with excellent medical skills. There is only one thing to say about his shortcomings or dissatisfaction, that is, during the operation, he always blames those subordinates in the medical department who help him, such as "slow hands and feet!" "Hurry up, hurry up." "Where are your eyes looking?" Wait a minute.
Although they are all innocuous accusations, once it's my turn, I will still be a little depressed and cringe.
Dr. S, who is three years older than me, is scolded the most by the professor because he is the first assistant of the professor.
Whenever Dr. S is reprimanded by the professor, I secretly sympathize with him and think that he is a very poor doctor, but I find that whenever he is reprimanded by the professor, Dr. S's answer is unique, and it must be "yes, yes" and "yes, yes", repeating "yes" twice.
No matter what the professor says, Dr. S's answer will never change. As soon as I heard it, I even felt that the professor's reprimand had no effect on Dr. S himself, just like casting pearls before swine.
Anyway, no matter how reprimanded by the professor, Dr. S seems to be prepared and always answers with "yes, yes". Perhaps it is this "passive Nuo Nuo" answer that makes the professor's "mumbling" very calm. Two people, echoing each other, are full of rhythm, just like the man who pounded the rice cake and the wooden stick who pounded the rice cake, and they cooperated very tacitly.
Even if Dr. S is reprimanded, it will not be affected at all. On the contrary, it can also ease the atmosphere at the scene and even unite the strength of the whole team. This is an excellent talent.
What's more, the doctor was scolded by the professor during the operation. As soon as the operation was over, he immediately forgot all about it and soaked comfortably in the bath water. When he returned to the medical department after finishing his work, he talked with his colleagues about the surgery he had just finished and other various things while drinking beer, and put all the unhappiness behind him at an alarming rate.
In addition, the excellence of Dr. S lies not only in facing his scolding with an open mind, but also in grasping the main points of teaching surgery at close range while completing the auxiliary work and answering "Yes, Yes" every time. He later became the best surgeon in the medical department and later became the director of a large hospital in the suburbs of Sapporo.
Two years ago, at a party, I met Dr. S. I haven't seen him for a long time Although he has grown up a lot, he looks and speaks the same way as before. We both felt very cordial and talked for a long time. No matter what I say, Dr. S is still the same, just nodding his head. That quiet, quiet look is exactly the same as in the past.
It suddenly dawned on me that Dr. S probably didn't listen to people at all, and he didn't listen to everything they said. So no matter how the professor complains, it has little effect on him. Therefore, Dr. S is now seventy-five years old, but he is disease-free and healthy, and looks elegant.
Many old and strong people like him basically don't listen to others, but only listen to a few words occasionally, which may be the secret of their health.
In other words, don't always think twice about what you do, even if others say something unpleasant, they will forget it immediately after listening. This beneficial dullness is inseparable from mental stability and maintaining a happy mood. It is also a kind of talent, a kind of power that can make people's talents blossom and bear fruit.
Text/"Insensitive" Shanghai People's Publishing House
Figure/vision china
The opposite of dullness is sensitivity.
A writer said, "Being sensitive and thoughtful makes me a writer, while being forgetful and cheerful makes me live."
In many cases, sensitivity is indeed a gift, which brings a richer inner world and is often accompanied by emotional ability and artistic talent.
But many people are also tired, because sensitive people tend to magnify people and things infinitely like wearing a magnifying glass, because they want to multiply too much pressure, because they are too worried about not letting go.
For highly sensitive people, it is beneficial to improve their insensitivity appropriately, because the real insensitivity is not numbness, but to ignore some unnecessary emotions, thus reducing unnecessary troubles.
Here are five suggestions to improve your sensitivity to dullness:
No. 1
Five iron laws of "insensitive"
1. Quickly forget unpleasant things;
2. Set goals and continue to challenge even if you fail;
3. Face the gossip calmly;
4. Always be grateful for jealousy and irony;
In the face of praise, don't push your luck and get carried away.
This suggestion comes from Junichi Watanabe.
second
Adjust your way of thinking
A sensitive person's way of thinking is: "Why is he in a bad mood? Is it because I said something before that offended him? " Oh, I regret it. I really shouldn't have said that. Why is my EQ so low that I can't even say a word? I am too poor. "
A confident person's way of thinking is: "Why is he in a bad mood? Oh, because he is in a bad mood. Why is he angry with me? Oh, because I just said something to "detonate" him. But I am not wrong, I don't need to be responsible for his emotions! "
In short, don't always attribute other people's emotions to yourself.
The advice comes from Bach's love of hot soup.
third place
Multiple experiences
Increase sensitivity threshold
As a person with poor sensitivity, I think the way out of this dilemma is "experience". The more you experience, the higher your sensitivity threshold will be, and you will gradually understand the truth that "everything happened in the past", without entanglement, reluctance and fear of gain and loss.
At the same time, we need to understand a simple survival truth: no one is perfect, and demanding of yourself or others is depriving a person of the joy of life.
The advice came from Zhang Yang.
fourth
Do not amplify external signals.
I think it is very important not to amplify external signals.
Most things have less influence than you think: those situations that you imagine reasoning in your mind may not actually happen at all; A thing that feels great now may not be remembered at all after three years.
The advice came from Keke.
Fifth place
Try to be stronger.
In fact, this kind of thing is very difficult to learn. When you are confident that you are better than most people, what others say about you really doesn't matter.
In essence, what you need to cultivate is how not to care too much about what the public thinks of you. Then try to be better than them.
The suggestion came from three anonymous people.
Text/CCTV news finishing
Figure/vision china
Finally, quote a little woman.
Let's finish today's night reading!
What is impressive is that,
Maybe it tells some truths about life:
Peaceful, strong and emotionally stable. ...
These are not innate abilities,
It needs to learn, and it may be lifelong learning.
Producer Ma Ye Editor Wang Ruolu
Editor Yang Yuting proofreads Gao Shaozhuo.