Some people began to study the authenticity and gold content of awards and the authenticity of photos. In this argument, some people keep turning their backs on each other. On the one hand, she is a kind-hearted and successful woman who loves to learn, on the other hand, she is a hypocritical star who loves to make fakes and show off.
Regardless of the authenticity and gold content of the award, let's say that Jiang just sent a Weibo with mild wording, expressing his joy and certain gains in learning design for the first time. Aside from her status as a public figure, she is just an ordinary woman who uses a Weibo to show her life and express her feelings.
"People with a heart" in the society always seize a clue and comment on other people's lives, especially actresses, but they are not friendly, which really makes me feel that this society is so strict with women.
This reminds me of Sebrina's tearful speech in the program. She went home to have a baby in the golden age of her career, and then returned to the stage to find that the world abandoned her without even saying hello, and no one asked her to film. Cecilia Han, who has never entered the marriage hall, will urge marriage from time to time inhumanely; However, Xu's choice of cryopreservation of oocytes is still questioned and satirized after several years.
It can be seen that in this more open era, although modern women have lost many constraints and more choices, it is still difficult to get good recognition in public opinion because the definition of female success in this society is too harsh.
Since ancient times, the criteria for men's success in society are simple and clear, which are nothing more than wealth, status and family. Therefore, the direction of male efforts is also very clear; However, the definition of women's success in society has always been vague: husband and wife are accused of not making progress; Successful people are said not to be competent mothers and wives; Versatility may be merciful everywhere; Most people who know nothing have no talent.
Women are obsessed with multiple standards and don't know where to go. Actually, the problem is very simple. We live in this world as a person, not as a wife, mother or employee. No matter what life we live, it is our only life; In this case, since we can't meet everyone's expectations, why not get rid of others' expectations and live a life we like?
So how can live high like it?
First, be yourself freely and not influence others.
Wang Xiaobo once discussed in an essay, "What's the matter? What do you mean, nothing? " He said: people's life is not long, if they can do what they like, there will be; If you only do what you have to do, you are nothing.
I think this is a good explanation of how a woman should live her life. It is to choose the life you like, the choice without regrets, the calm responsibility, the silent cultivation and the joyful harvest.
When a person really lives the life he chooses and likes. Her heart is calm and peaceful, and she knows how to face unfriendly voices from outside.
As long as your heart is clear and your goals are clear, you will never care about outsiders' opinions and doubts again. But what others say, I know what I am doing and what I want.
Later, Sebrina bravely returned to the stage, relying on a song "Everything is OK" to make a comeback; Cecilia Han insists on learning English calmly and is always natural and graceful before media inquiries. Xu still goes his own way, insists on himself, makes handicrafts and travels, and lives the life that many women expect.
Second, be free in words and deeds and work hard.
After all, a woman's life is short because of her appearance. If she wants to find the eternal meaning of life, she must get rid of other people's expectations and become herself. The meaning of life is not to be who others say, but to be who you are in your heart.
Women yearn for elegance and calmness all their lives. Chen Guo, the goddess of Fudan University, quoted a sentence from Chanel to explain elegance-elegance is freedom of words and deeds. It means to get rid of all obstacles and run in the direction you expect, regardless of other people's comments, as long as your words and deeds are in line with your heart.
Life is too short to be complete. No matter how cruel the reality is, no matter how criticized by others, don't stop pursuing your own steps. Do what you want to do and say what you want to say while time is not old.
After all, every road is under your feet. In addition to choice and courage, you must go down step by step.
Just like ginger, even if you don't know CAD, you can learn it slowly. Hobbies are the best teachers. What if teaching is criticized? Only you know the fun. No gender or age should be the reason to stop us from being ourselves.
Efforts may not necessarily have the expected gains, but they will certainly make us gain something and tell us where we can go farthest. Don't doubt yourself because of others' negation, and don't change your direction because of others' ridicule. No one will be responsible for our life except ourselves.
Life is so short, but society demands so much of women. We might as well be bold, climb mountains, pursue dreams and love someone. Being yourself is the most difficult practice in a woman's life. I hope everyone can move forward calmly.
Today's topic: How do you think women can live better and be more like themselves?