With the rapid economic growth, Korean society, which is famous for its entertainment and pursues the beauty of plastic surgery, is suffering from problems such as long working hours, high suicide rate, harsh examination and evaluation, and layers of bondage, which makes Koreans feel depressed and produces a stressful "prison holiday" and chooses to lock themselves in prison to get rid of manic emotions and life pressure.
This alternative way of vacation has attracted many white-collar office workers and students who are under great pressure to voluntarily pay for "going to jail". When in prison, you must hand over your mobile phone and don't talk to other prisoners. You are wearing a dark blue prison uniform. There is no clock or mirror in your cell, only a small toilet, yoga mat, tea set, pen and notebook. To sleep is to sleep on the floor.
They are bent on getting temporary breathing space and time, and some even sarcastically said, "This prison has given me a sense of freedom. 」
Find self-identity and see who you really are.
With the development of science and technology and the Internet, the "truth" has become increasingly blurred. Under the digital sharing trend of taking beautiful photos, punching cards and broadcasting live, truth is the last word in people's lives. There is no filter, no beauty, no retouching. Once it is dull, it will lose self-confidence. It seems that without gorgeous packaging, life will no longer be complete.
"The key to finding out why most people are not confident and unhappy lies in their lack of self-identity. Huang Xuhui, a senior teacher in Yunmen Classroom, pointed out that a large part of self-identity stems from the external image of the body: "Am I tall or not? Short? Fat, thin? Beautiful, ugly? 」
He also observed that many people's cognition of their bodies is often different from reality. For example, a well-proportioned young girl tries hard to lose weight and pursues a paper figure like a model. This is because she can't see her real self, and there is only "one thought" in her mind, and that thought keeps telling her: "I am fat! This has also become her self-identity.
The body can receive and transmit more information than we know. However, the self you know does not represent all the characteristics you have. If you don't know your body, it's hard to know yourself, accept people you can't accept, perceive life and explore the future, treat others sincerely, tolerate and respect each other.
Body identity can be practiced.
Psychiatrist Wang Haowei once shared, "Move your body? , is one of the ways to open the senses, but also the most direct and not detour. Sensory perception is a part of the body and the starting point of exploration. Therefore, if you want to establish a sense of identity with your body, you might as well start with simple movements, rhythms or dances, return your attention to your body, express your thoughts and emotions through the rhythm of your body, release your energy, and have fun from your actions.
For example, through the dancing of finger joints, gently touch the body and feel the texture of skin and hair. Or through the rhythm of stepping on your feet, focusing on the rhythm of breathing, etc. Moving your body slowly will naturally produce the feeling that "my body is real"
Through this kind of exercise, people will gradually pay less attention to appearance, focus on inner self, enhance self-worth, break many external restrictions and show their creativity.
When the focus is no longer on appearance, slowly learn to accept your appearance, and then begin to "choose" your appearance. Of course, the so-called choice of one's appearance is not to "customize oneself" through plastic surgery like Koreans, but to show self-confidence and style and choose one's unique life appearance on the premise of accepting and liking oneself.
Body identity and self-identity are two aspects of an organic whole, and they are closely related. Move your body, cultivate your self-identity, improve your consciousness and perception from the rhythm, love yourself, why bother asking for it!