The woman who went through hardships with you when you were young
It is easy to share hardships, and it is difficult to be rich and powerful. As a man, will you always remember the woman who went through hardships with you when you were young? Will you still forget her when you are rich?
I remembered that in an issue of "If You Are the One" that I accidentally watched, a female guest scolded today's men for not seeking to make progress. But he always complained about women's snobbery and money worship. Meng Fei said at the time: "There are two kinds of people I admire most in the world, one is the woman who accompanies you to endure hardships when you are young, and the other is the man who accompanies you to enjoy happiness when you are old." I thought of hearing this during the holidays. After witnessing some family drama, I suddenly realized that this was an extremely appropriate comment.
My cousin’s aunt and my cousin’s husband had known each other since they were in college. They had been in love for more than seven years. After they graduated as Ph.D. students, they got married naturally. The talented and beautiful woman became a legend for a while. My cousin later stayed at CUHK as a teacher. In order to accompany him to take root in Guangzhou, my cousin declined an invitation from a well-known mainland university at the time and chose a non-211 university in Guangzhou. My aunt and uncle are not from Guangzhou. When I first started working, I was under great pressure to pay for my mortgage and car loan. In order to fully take care of her cousin's life, her cousin gave up the opportunity to go abroad as a visiting scholar; in order to fully support her cousin's career, her cousin gave up her own scientific research to help him with projects. At first, they were busy with work and had no time or money, so they didn't dare to have a child. When they were pregnant with their cousin, the cousin was already an advanced maternal age and encountered dystocia during childbirth, and almost died.
If it continues like this, it will still be the story of an ordinary and simple intellectual family.
In the past two years, my cousin's career has developed rapidly. He has been promoted to a higher-level official, and his mentality has become more active. As a doctoral supervisor, he had a young and beautiful female doctor under him, who followed him on two business trips, and the two naturally got involved. While my cousin purchased another property in Guangzhou and started living together with the female student, he also brought the female student’s mother to Guangzhou to be her mother-in-law and treated her with filial piety. At the same time, he unilaterally filed for divorce from his cousin and sent someone to Post the divorce court notice at the door of my cousin's college. My cousin's mother came all the way to Guangzhou, knelt down in front of him, and begged him to turn back her prodigal son because of her young age, but her cousin closed the door and blocked her out. Things went on for more than a year, and finally the divorce was agreed upon at the end of the year. During the Chinese New Year, I visited my cousin's house and heard that the alimony promised had not been paid truthfully. My cousin looked sad and just hoped that the matter would be settled soon.
When I was working at my old employer, there was a man in the next department on the same floor. He looked like he was in his late twenties, and he became a manager at a young age. The man got married very early, and his wife was his junior sister at Fudan University. They met in Shanghai. After getting married, they agreed to go north to the imperial capital to work together, but they went to different companies. Later, a new girl was hired in the department next door. The girl was not very beautiful. She graduated from Oxford and had a pretty temperament. She was the daughter of the boss of a client that the company was competing for at the time. After the girl came in, the client naturally signed a contract with the company. The man and the girl were both main members of the client's project team at that time, so they became more and more familiar with each other, and their relationship grew by leaps and bounds. When the project was completed at the end of the year, the department director invited the client to dinner, and the girl's father was invited to attend. During the dinner, the girl's father asked puzzledly why the company always sent his daughter on business trips and to work overtime. The director was surprised and replied that although the project was intense, the girl had never worked overtime, let alone asked for work. Then everyone knew that the relationship between the two was already extraordinary.
The girl’s father was furious and caught the man for a meeting and threatened him to come home with a divorce certificate and marry his daughter, otherwise he would not be able to live in Beijing. The man was very fast. He held a wedding banquet with the girl in less than a month. The client used his connections and the man was promoted several levels in the company. After the girl got married, she left the company and became a full-time housewife. It’s just that the man’s original wife had never seen him since the beginning. I only heard from the man’s friends that she was a very sweet woman. After the man filed for divorce, she didn’t struggle too much. After the formalities were completed, she returned to Shanghai alone.
Not all men are disappointed.
Those who are familiar with it may remember the story of my aunt and uncle that I once mentioned. My eldest uncle had an affair when he was young, and my eldest aunt was very determined and ended her life in the most extreme way. The mistress who had an affair back then also entered the house and became his real wife in the name of love. Although the woman came into the house in an unwelcome way, she kept to herself after getting married and was polite to her cousins. A few years later, she had a son. She had no other faults except spending money lavishly. .
It’s just that in the past few years, my uncle’s health has become worse and worse as he gets older, and he has a serious illness that requires him to stay in the hospital all year round. As a result, the family has very little money left. The woman's mind began to be overactive. She would often leave her young son in the hospital to take care of his uncle and then go out and disappear. She would hang out in various entertainment venues and engage in sexual activities. My uncle had high blood pressure and often got sick from anger. The cousin really couldn't stand it, so she found someone to find the woman back, and promised to pay her a sum of money every month, asking him to take good care of her uncle and the little brother who was just in junior high school.
After negotiating for a long time, the woman finally agreed, but she was still restless in her heart. She would have troubles several times a day, either quarreling with her cousin over living expenses or cursing her uncle for his early death. She never had a peaceful day.
When I was young and full of energy, I always felt that people must have that kind of emotion or experience. It was only a few months, but it seemed like a whole life was about to go away. It doesn't matter if we see you again or never again. When I get older, I just want someone for whom I can be willing to spend my whole life. But this wish may not be easy to come true. When a friend was heartbroken, he cried: That person said, "I failed you, but please still believe it." But even that person couldn't make me believe it, so who should I believe?
At first I said it would be a long time coming, but now I think about it, it is indeed too long.
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