1. First, theoretical study.

Psychological counselors should not only know some basic theoretical knowledge of psychology, such as basic psychology, personality psychology, abnormal psychology, developmental psychology, general psychology, etc., but also learn various basic theories of psychological counseling, such as some knowledge of consulting psychology, understanding and mastering the objects, tasks, classifications and general procedures of psychological counseling, and knowing how to conduct psychological counseling at different ages, etc. When counselors have a good understanding of these theories, they can find out the reasons in combination with the problems in practical consultation, help themselves and visitors to understand why the visitors are like this, and know how to solve or find the direction of solution under the guidance of theories.

2. Second, practice.

Practice means doing practical exercises, using psychological diagnosis skills, psychological consultation skills and psychological test skills, and conducting psychological consultation on the premise of following the professional concepts and principles of psychological counselors. This requires counselors to master how to establish a counseling relationship, how to negotiate individual psychological counseling programs with visitors, and how to use counseling technology to implement psychological counseling programs.

3. Third, personal experience.

That is what you said, psychological counselors themselves should seek psychological counseling from counselors. Generally speaking, personal experience should last at least 5 hours. Through personal experience, consultants can experience their feelings as visitors, so as to better understand some of their expectations and feelings from the perspective of visitors; At the same time, through personal experience, counselors can grow up faster, to fix some of their own problems, their own personality at night, and to ease their emotions. Therefore, personal experience is very important and necessary for psychological counselors.

4. Fourth, supervision.

Novice psychological counselors, in particular, need more frequent supervision when they start counseling, because they are bound to encounter many problems that they don't know how to deal with. However, as far as I know, many counselors do it through peer supervision. For example, some consulting groups will hold a peer-supervised growth meeting once a week, which can also achieve good results.

Because, if a consultant faces all kinds of problems in consultation alone, he will not only be limited by himself, but also be easily influenced by visitors. However, through supervision and peer supervision, he can look at the consultation from the perspective of a third party and help the consultant to see what is happening in the consultation more clearly. At the same time, supervision can also bring good support to the consultant, making him feel a sense of belonging and more motivated to continue consulting.

In fact, both theoretical and practical study and personal experience and supervision need to accompany the counselor's whole career. Therefore, the cost of psychological counseling is so high, and it is precisely because the counselor himself needs to invest a lot of money and time to learn and grow that he can give the visitors a completely accepted attitude when consulting, put aside temptation, indulgence and selfishness, and always adhere to the principle of neutrality. Perhaps these are really only well-trained

So, if you are a psychological counselor, please do the above, which is not only responsible for visitors, but also the best protection for ourselves. In addition, I hope you can find a supportive group. In the group, when you can communicate with other counselors frequently, you will find a sense of belonging and security, and you will feel more about your value and the significance of persisting in psychological counseling.