Mozi said, "Love each other and bring out the best in each other." Low-level people will pay more attention to immediate interests and haggle over their own efforts, and the road will get narrower and narrower.
Achieving others is a state of mind and a model. In our life, besides "surpassing others", "overwhelming others" and "surpassing others", we can also "achieve others".
No one in this world is an island, and "mutual success" can broaden our horizons.
A high-level person can control his emotions.
Life is not smooth sailing, and there will inevitably be emotions when things happen. It is not terrible to have emotions, but it is terrible to be unable to control them.
Emotion is not the whole of life, but it can affect the quality of life. A good mood can bring an optimistic attitude towards life, and people who can control their emotions can also take their own lives calmly.
"Anger is not anger, it is anger." Wang Yangming said that if you are angry, you should not be angry, that is, you are possessed by ghosts.
In The Analects of Confucius, Confucius liked Yan Hui and praised him for saying "no anger, no treachery". It is easy for us to get angry with people close to us. Hide the unhappiness in work and study in your heart, and then find an excuse to vent it on your friends and family.
It is instinct to lose your temper with unpleasant things or people, and it is a kind of cultivation to control your instinct.
It is difficult to manage emotions, but it is good for body and mind. Be a person with stable emotions and be the master of your own emotions.
High-level people like reading.
What is temperament? Temperament is a feeling between words and manners.
Many people confuse temperament with appearance, and think that changing temperament by reading is not as immediate as fitness, makeup or even cosmetic surgery.
But the face is skin deep and the temperament is backbone.
Temperament does not necessarily come from reading, but reading can really breed aura.
Someone once asked Mr. Jiang Yang, and he said, Your problem is that you read too little and think too much.
Mr. Liang Shiqiu also said that reading without reading leads to two kinds of lives.
Many times, we think that all the books we have read are gone and we can't remember them. In fact, they still have potential and can be used at any time.
Although they can't help us solve the problem at once, they can increase our knowledge and make our conversation more restrained; They can't make themselves more beautiful, but they can add a little book spirit to us and make our temperament more outstanding.
Life is confusing, but reading can help us get rid of the fog in front of us and find our own way.
People with high level are generous and tolerant.
In Aesop's Fables, when Prometheus was ordered by Zeus to create human beings, he specially hung two pockets on everyone-one on his chest to hold the shortcomings of others and the other on his back.
Low-level people can only see the chest pocket, and high-level people can see the back pocket. People who can only see other people's shortcomings are extremely harsh, and those who can see their own shortcomings know how to tolerate.
On the train, a drunk collided with a passenger. The girl asked her mother, is he a bad person?
Mom said, no, he's just unhappy.
People with high realms see a bigger world outside; Internally, I have had a profound introspection. So they never care about others, but are more gentle and tolerant.
What a gentleman really cares about is whether he is richer and more stereoscopic, and whether he has gained more growth.
High-level people cherish life.
Romain rolland's famous saying: "There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing the truth of life."
Last year, a car accident happened in Nantong City, Jiangsu Province. When a couple was driving home, their wife accidentally put the car on a fire hydrant, causing it to roll over.
The couple were both injured and in a state of shock. After confirming that the two sides are only flesh and blood, the husband proposed to take a photo with his wife for this photo. He felt that all the anecdotes he and his wife experienced in their lives were worth recording as a souvenir. ...
The sign of a person's real maturity is that he is less and less looking for someone to blame.
It is a kind of understanding and tolerance to solve problems and not entangle those who need to be accused.
Treat family members and learn to be considerate when encountering difficulties; When dealing with work, we should also learn to solve problems; Treating life without complaining is a kind of cultivation.
Laozi said, "We don't blame others for our trip to the Avenue." The hardest thing in life is not to complain, which is a high accomplishment.
Therefore, when we are in an advantage, we are not aggressive; When we are at a disadvantage, don't blame others at will.