A qualified guest knows how to think of others and size up the situation, and will not bring inconvenience and unhappiness to the host and family. The correct way to treat guests is to be polite, create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, and be appropriate.
Pay attention everywhere and present your best self.
When you are a guest, you should present your "best self" to your host. This is respect for your host and for yourself.
When visiting guests, you should not appear in the host's house in an unkempt image. We should decorate ourselves carefully before visiting. It is necessary for men to cut their hair, shave and make up lightly. Oral hygiene cannot be ignored. It must be annoying to be a guest in the host's house and smell a smell of onion and garlic. If you have a heavy body odor, you must also take a bath and spray perfume before you are a guest, but don't break the glass, which will make you smell pungent all over. In terms of clothing, your clothes don't have to be too gorgeous, but they must be neat and fit. If the host is a minority, we can try to wear the clothes of the other nationality, and the host will be surprised; If it is a holiday, the style of clothes may be festive.
When visiting, you should knock at the door first or ring the doorbell gently. If someone answers that they are allowed to enter or come out to see you, they can enter. Don't knock too hard and don't rush. Usually pat it two or three times. Never come uninvited, even if the door is open, knock on the door or inform the host that there are visitors in other ways.
After entering the room, give your coat and other items to the owner, or put them in the right place under the guidance of the owner. Don't sit down in a hurry If someone takes you to the living room to wait for the host, stand and wait for the host to come out and say "please sit down" before sitting down. If the host is an elder, you can't sit down first. You should wait for your elders to sit down before you sit down. If there are other guests present, you can sit aside for a while first, and don't interrupt others' conversation at will. If you start a discussion with the host, don't grab the words, just listen to the host and respond in time.
Easy-going attitude is the basis of smooth communication between host and guest. During the visit, you should be generous, behave appropriately and keep smiling. If you are familiar with your master, don't be careless. If you are not familiar with your host, or you are accompanying others to visit your host, don't be shy, otherwise your host will be infected by you and become embarrassed.
Keeping the environment clean and tidy is an important point to leave a good impression on the host. Paying attention to personal hygiene is as important as keeping the host's environment clean and tidy. Don't step into the owner's house if your shoes are not cleaned; Please put all the garbage such as peels in the place designated by the owner; Don't use towels privately; If you are not in a hurry, try not to use the owner's bathroom. If you use the bathroom, don't splash water everywhere. Don't forget to flush the toilet, don't waste hand sanitizer and soap, and don't disturb the order of items in the bathroom.
Guo went to Beijing to look for a job and lived with his friends for the time being. Li Cheng specially prepared a room for him. Guo gets up every morning before going to work, cleans up the house where he lives, and takes the garbage out of the living room when he goes downstairs. If he comes back early at night, he will take the initiative to cook. If Li Cheng doesn't come back from work, he will definitely call Li Cheng or send a text message in time: "I'll be back later, you eat first, don't wait for me." Guo will definitely ask for permission before he appreciates the handicrafts. Every time I read Li Cheng's books and newspapers, I will definitely put them back. Guo Jiancheng ran out of paper in the bathroom and bought several large rolls when he came back. Two weeks later, Guo found a job and a house and said goodbye. Li Cheng said sincerely, "These days, I am used to you living at home. I will really miss you when you leave! "
Don't ask too many questions, think more about the host.
You should put yourself in the other's shoes. Everything you say and do should make people feel "comfortable". Don't forget, "many people don't blame you", you must appreciate the beauty of the details you notice in time!
Although you are visiting a person, you should show the same respect, sincerity and friendliness to his family, which will make the host very happy. According to the generation and temperament of the host family, give them proper names in good faith and talk to them properly, and you will win their appreciation and the dark praise of the host family. If it is a short visit, please greet the host and his relatives and friends present at the first time. If it's a small stay, if time and environment allow, the old people like to play chess, then let's discuss it; Children like games, so they might as well take part. If a friend's house is quiet, just say hello politely, and try not to affect their life rules when getting along with friends.
You like green tea, and the host family only has coffee, so make do with it; If you are a smoker and your host doesn't smoke, you'd better not smoke. When you are a guest, if the host asks you to stay for dinner, you must pay attention to etiquette and the host's habits. If you have any dietary taboos, try to bring them up. If the host has a diet taboo, don't make it. During the visit, don't be picky about food and waste when eating, and don't ask for extra meals. Even if you drink too much, don't indulge in drinking at the host's table. Once drunk, it will bring a lot of unexpected embarrassment to both the host and the guest. When a guest is dining, even if you really don't want to eat a dish, don't say it and don't show it on your face. If the host asks "why don't you eat this dish", you can leave it alone. You can say, "I'm full, thank you."
Cheng Xiao and Zhu Xiao have been good friends for many years. They work and live in different cities. Once, Cheng Xiao passed by the city of Zhu Xiao on business. After finishing the business, Cheng Xiao was invited to Zhu Xiao's house for a few days. When they met, Cheng Xiao first gave Zhu Xiao a big hug, then casually kicked his leather shoes on the living room floor, walked around every room in Zhu Xiao slippers, and made a "tut-tut" sound while visiting. This kind of carelessness is like living in the same dormitory style. Due to years of friendship, Zhu Xiao didn't show any unhappiness. Zhu Xiao's wife prepared a sumptuous dinner for them when she came home from work. Cheng Xiao even praised Zhu Xiao's wife for her beauty, which is better than the school flowers that Zhu Xiao chased. Zhu Xiao and his wife are embarrassed. After dinner, Cheng Xiao had a long talk with Zhu Xiao and talked with Zhu Xiao until dawn. Cheng Xiao lived in Zhu Xiao's house for five days. He went through Zhu Xiao's newspapers and magazines everywhere. After Cheng Xiao left, Zhu Xiao's wife scolded Zhu Xiao for making friends, and Zhu Xiao's image as a good friend was greatly reduced.
How would you feel if you received an old friend of this style? I am afraid it is more annoying than the joy of reunion!
Don't move without talking about "indecent assault" During the visit, don't mention topics that the host doesn't want to talk about. You know, but don't mention the past that is bad for the host. Don't make too many jokes, or you will leave an impression of being uneducated.
In a friend's house, no matter how close your is, don't bring the concept of * * * from the school days to the dormitory, don't tamper with the owner's things, and don't walk around the room at will. Don't touch anything in the room without the owner's permission. If the guest who arrived earlier than you leaves, you should also stand up with the host to see him off.