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I saw a news in today's headlines the day before yesterday, and I was shocked to read it.

At Hangzhou Maternity Hospital, 26-year-old Chen Xiao has entered the delivery room for delivery. When the palace button opened two fingers, Chen Xiao could no longer bear the pain and proposed painless delivery.

However, in the face of his miserable wife, the husband firmly shook his head and refused to sign the consent form for painless delivery. He said: "Anesthesia affects children, but it is not good for adults." "No matter how the anesthesiologist explains it, her husband's attitude is still firm.

"I hate you all my life!" Helpless Xiao Chen cried and shouted such a sentence to her husband.

I don't know what will happen next, but netizens have already exploded on the internet.

Many netizens left messages saying that such selfish people are not worthy of having the next generation and have no sympathy at all. What should I do if dystocia occurs?

In my opinion, in the hospital, it is the most humanized place. From the man's attitude towards your delivery, we can see whether this person is worthy of your life.

At the critical moment, even for a stranger, we will have compassion, right? Not to mention their own relatives.

Last year, a pregnant woman in Yulin City, Shaanxi Province couldn't stand the severe pain of childbirth. She repeatedly begged her husband and mother-in-law to fail and jumped off the window sill of the hospital, killing them.

Pain really kills people, not to mention physical and mental pain.

We should be glad that this pregnant woman in Hangzhou didn't jump off the building.

However, this incident will be a shadow that will accompany her life. If she hadn't divorced her husband.

In her husband's eyes, she is just a production machine. Her husband is worried that anesthesia is not good for the child, whether she lives or dies. Is such a marriage still necessary?

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Men have never tried the pain of giving birth and will never understand it.

The average person's pain in childbirth reaches at least level 8, especially the fetus is bigger and the pain is more intense!

I once did an experiment in the hospital.

Let some boys experience a wave. Although the pain index is one-tenth of that of normal delivery and the experience time is less than one-eighth of the actual time, they are already deformed with pain. ...

You can imagine how much pain the real production will suffer.

However, men who have never experienced giving birth generally say, who doesn't feel pain when giving birth? Just "endure" If they were allowed to have children, would they still have children?

Childbirth can be said to be the death of a woman. The results show that 50% pregnant women feel unbearable pain, 44% pregnant women complain about obvious pain, only 6% pregnant women complain about mild pain, and more than 90% pregnant women have fear-tension-pain syndrome during delivery.

I saw a news on the internet that a pregnant woman was diagnosed as a critically ill ectopic pregnancy, but the pregnant woman herself agreed to the operation, but her husband did not agree to the operation, and scolded the medical staff present and shouted loudly: "What are you doing? I don't agree with your handling! We have to transfer. I don't believe you! " Turn off the infusion tube.

Finally, the doctor decisively said to the pregnant woman: "According to your current condition, you want to transfer to another hospital. Time is no longer allowed. Most likely, you will die on the way to the hospital! Life belongs to you, not to your husband. I finally want to listen to your opinion! "

Subsequently, the pregnant woman agreed to have an operation and was out of danger.

After this incident, the doctor lamented: If the patient does not make his own decision, there is nothing we can do. Can we only watch a young life disappear before our eyes?

Sometimes we don't need men to make decisions for us. We should learn to make decisions for ourselves and be responsible for our own lives.

It is said that giving birth to a child is a matter of two people. In fact, only women are really faced.

In 20 17 years, every 5 102 pregnant women in China will die.

Therefore, before giving birth to a bed, men should put themselves in others' shoes. Motherhood is a test of life, not just "forbearance". Why can't you bear it?

A woman gives birth to a child and finds that her husband is not the one who really loves you. At this time, she should love herself and be kind to herself.

Love in marriage is unreliable, and a reliable husband is unreliable. Women can only stop loss in time and be kind to themselves.

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When can you best show that a man really loves you? I don't think it's love, and it's not that you are in love with me, but when you have children and you are in pain.

The same is the birth of a child, a woman surnamed Liu in Zhejiang Provincial People's Hospital. Her request for painless delivery received a positive response from her husband.

Originally, Xiao Liu was going to be born in a hospital near her home, but the delivery was really too painful and unbearable. When asked in obstetrics, she said there was no painless delivery. She cried and said, "Giving birth to a child is the most painful thing in the world. I don't care. I want to have a baby in another hospital. It doesn't hurt! "

My husband spoiled her very much and immediately sent a circle of friends to ask which hospital gave birth painlessly at night.

Knowing that the provincial people's hospital can do it at night, they immediately drove to the hospital for an hour and a half.

Before she came to the provincial people's hospital, she showed signs of childbirth and her stomach ached badly. In order to give birth painlessly, she rushed to the provincial people's hospital from the suburbs in the evening rush hour.

As the painkiller slowly took effect, Liu Anan, who had been crying, calmed down.

The next morning, when the baby was born, Xiao Liu recalled the experience of giving birth to a child. "I think in the process of giving birth, it hurts the most when I arrive by car, and I can bear it without pain."

A man loves a woman, how can he bear to make her suffer? The man who really loves this woman will respect her choice.

What is human nature? It was when you were most helpless and needed support that your husband said, "Don't be afraid of me!" " "

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On Zhihu, I saw netizens voicing their best husbands in news events.

-Lin

When a baby is born, it is painless to call her husband when the delivery room is crazy. My husband replied, it's up to you. I'll sign it. If I meet the husband in the article, I will definitely tell him that if one day you go to the operating table, I will never sign the anesthesia bill again.

-South and Little North

Such a husband is extremely irresponsible.

-Pretend to be in new york.

Is it time to encourage pregnant women to sign their own names? A few years ago, when I lived in the city all my life, the doctor said that my mother had signed it and decided for herself.

-Bean sprouts

Really, having a child can test the true feelings between husband and wife. Life is different.

-Dongdong

Ignorance is the most terrible thing.

-Axe Yamaguchi formation

Giving birth to a child is a matter for pregnant women, but everyone has a say in deciding how to give birth, except pregnant women. That's weird.

-Yan Kailin

I remember when I asked for a caesarean section, I signed all the words myself. If my son grows up and gets married and my daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, everything I do is for the best interests of my mother. After all, when a woman gives birth to a child, it is a line of life and death. Daughter-in-law is also a treasure in other people's hands. Why can a husband decide others' choices? It's light to hate him all your life! It's true that you divorced that bastard immediately after the baby was born.

If marriage is a contract, we really should think that homesickness is actually the maximization of the interests of both husband and wife. Instead of just thinking about personal happiness, regardless of the other person's life or death.

It is not easy for a woman. The girl who was lively and active before giving birth, after giving birth to the first child, the second child and the third child, has crisscrossed folds on her sallow face and stomach.

Like Xia Jinju in Birth Gate, a 33-year-old high-risk pregnant woman has been hospitalized for several months. Premature delivery, massive bleeding, hysterectomy, dying, heart stopped beating twice, and my husband was still doing business in Guangzhou at this time, and farewell was only a moment.

Many men don't understand women's difficulties. They are used to the fact that women always have pain when they give birth. This "pain" is normal. It's like having seven or eight piglets. It doesn't matter if they are different.

Women are often more difficult to get along with than men. Women have children, which means a lot of sacrifices. You can't wear beautiful clothes around children. Children and the smell on their faces have become their biggest concern. ...

If you are a man, you should always accompany your wife when she gives birth, because the life of her and her children is to maximize the family interests, and always give her the idea and courage to survive. This is what a man should do!

Finally, women are also independent individuals, not parasites who live by their husbands, so sometimes men are unreliable and we have to rely on ourselves. Never learn Yulin obstetrics and gynecology, make your own decisions in your own life!

If you meet a man who doesn't love you, choose to give up as soon as possible, because it is safe to live with cold-blooded animals and let go of yourself as soon as possible!