I think having children has a great influence on women. It can be said that it is a change that thoroughly remoulds a woman, and it is also a sign that a girl turns to a woman. The birth of a child has made a key change in women's focus, from paying attention to themselves and their husbands to paying attention to children. Why is mother great? She can give up everything for her children.
So, what effect does having children have on women? Let's discuss with you the following contest:
First of all, the physiological changes of women after giving birth to children are great. Most women will lose their proud figure, some will grow various spots when they are pregnant, and fat and unacceptable stretch marks will appear in the smooth lower abdomen, while the breasts will sag. Some people will be severely deformed because of postpartum obesity, and their posture is no longer beautiful. At the same time, the physical changes are also obvious. Some mothers will have gynecological diseases such as cervical cancer, pelvic organ prolapse, hemorrhoids, constipation and postpartum vaginal relaxation. Therefore, we must pay attention to rest and diet during the postpartum recovery period to maintain a healthy and happy state.
Secondly, women's psychology changes greatly after giving birth. There is a saying that "women are weak and mothers are strong", which means that women have great psychological changes after giving birth. Before having children, she was a weak little girl, but after having children, she was a child-centered tiger mother. Having children will make women mature at once, but it will also make women more susceptible to emotional control and thus more prone to depression.
Third, women's ideas have changed a lot after giving birth. Before having children, women were self-centered and lived a very free and relaxed life. When a person is full, his husband loves to be caring and attentive. Clothes, jewelry and cosmetics are all what he wants, and he dresses well every day. After the baby was born, these things were different. You can't just leave, don't pay attention to clothes, just be comfortable and convenient, life becomes irregular, you don't get enough sleep, you don't like dressing up, and so on.
Finally, women's behavior changes greatly after giving birth. Many women could have had a successful career, but because they have children, they can't let go anymore, and they will put their children first in their hearts. Many women choose to be full-time mothers and bid farewell to the workplace. They are no longer independent and have no source of income, so they give up their careers. Of course, some people choose to be women in the workplace. Although they can bring more income and respect, they are full of concern and guilt for their children while working hard in the workplace.
In short, women have paid a lot for the birth of their children, and the bitterness and helplessness are definitely beyond most men's understanding, including Benjun. I hope men can be considerate and tolerant of their children's mothers, because every mother is great.
There are advantages and disadvantages for women to have children, but in general, there are more benefits, as follows:
1. Reduce the incidence of cancer
Women with children can reduce the incidence of female-specific cancer. For example: breast cancer, ovarian cancer, endometrial cancer and so on.
Some research data show that breastfeeding can reduce the risk of breast cancer, and infertility is an important factor of breast cancer. There is a simple reason. Women will secrete prolactin only after giving birth, and then they will start to secrete milk. Then, as children suck, the more they secrete. In other words, it can reduce the risk of breast cancer if a woman breastfeeds her child after giving birth.
Stay away from the pain caused by menstruation
According to my personal experience, the pain of postpartum menstruation is really much lighter. Before pregnancy, every time she comes to her period, it hurts for two or three days, and it is particularly severe; However, postpartum found that menstrual pain was much lighter, lasting more than a day at most, and the pain was particularly low, which would not affect her daily life. The specific reason is not clear, but some experts believe that some prostaglandin in the uterus will be eliminated after delivery. This is a hormone with multiple functions, which can make the uterus contract during exercise and is also one of the reasons for dysmenorrhea.
3. Treatment of endometriosis
Endometriosis is a disease closely related to female reproductive status and ovulation. If women with endometriosis can stop ovulation periodically, the disease will also be effectively curbed. So, if you want to treat this disease without side effects, get pregnant and have a baby.
4. Delaying amenorrhea
A woman has a certain number of eggs in her life, and she ovulates once a month. After ovulation, menstruation almost stops. However, if a woman is pregnant and gives birth, the ovaries in the body will ovulate temporarily due to the effect of hormones during pregnancy, and normal ovulation will resume about 4-6 months after delivery, or later, which means that pregnant women will ovulate less than non-pregnant women 10 or 20, naturally.
1. Body aches
Weight gain during pregnancy is a great challenge to bones and muscles. Low back pain, backache and pelvic pain; After the baby is born, some women recover well without any sequelae, but some women will leave some chronic pain diseases, even uterine shedding, which will affect the later pregnancy.
2. Body deformation
Many women's postpartum bodies are severely deformed, their hips are widened, their hips are enlarged, their breasts are drooping, their stomachs are swollen, pregnancy marks are visible, and even their faces are covered with ugly pregnancy spots.
3. Postpartum hemorrhoids
Studies have shown that 90% of hemorrhoids are caused by pregnancy. During childbirth, due to the oppression of the fetus, the anorectal blood circulation is not smooth, leading to hemorrhoids; There is also pregnancy, because of hormone secretion and uterine extrusion, which leads to indigestion in the stomach, coupled with improper diet, which leads to severe constipation and hemorrhoids.
I tell you, when I was pregnant with my first baby, I vomited all the time from pregnancy to delivery, and I still insisted on going to work. Every time the leader looks for me, my colleagues say I vomit in the toilet. At that time, there were occasional retching sounds, because we were a big office. Every time I retch, a group of men look up at me. After a long time, they will get used to it They knew that a woman was pregnant and reacted badly.
I once had dinner with a female colleague. I'm so hungry. I ate a bowl of Lamian Noodles first, even with soup, and more than half of my colleagues left. As a result, I just took a bite and immediately threw up. My colleague said awkwardly, I don't eat either. Let me go out with you. I'm embarrassed to do it myself.
It's already painful to give birth to a child in the hospital 14 hours. It was almost painful at that time, and the baby was coming out. But because I didn't sleep all night, I didn't have any strength, so the nurses gave me a hand together, which really hurt. I shouted, don't touch me, it hurts too much. My tears gushed like spring water. Have you ever seen the people crying in cartoons? Just a lot of tears came out together. That's what I am.
Finally, the child was embarrassed in the fetus, and the doctor was anxious and used fetal aspiration. Do you know what just happened? I fainted at once and didn't know anything. After a few seconds, I found many people calling me. They told me to push hard and quickly, so I looked around blankly. It turned out that I was going to have a baby. I immediately pushed hard and the baby was completely born.
What if I don't wake up? Can't I type here? When I told my colleague that I had a baby, she cried. She said, "Stop it. I can't listen anymore. " . Giving birth to a child, for a woman, is a journey of death. Fortunately, I'm still alive.
I love my mother more when I have children, because my mother is really great. Women who have children will become gentler, more sensible and more considerate of their parents' difficulties. For children, I will be a nurse day after day, regardless of other people's eyes. For children, I will eat and drink desperately, just for higher breast milk production. For children, I will not care about my image.
Many times someone asked me, are you the grandmother of the child or the grandmother? I said, I am the child's grandfather. Is it sad?
However, I don't feel hard. A few years later, I gave birth to a second child because I like children. After giving birth, a woman will get old, her ass will get bigger, her pelvis will get wider, and even her breasts will droop. The kind of clever spirit before actually doesn't exist anymore. In fact, these are all temporary, which is nothing compared with giving birth to a child.
My mother-in-law seriously resisted my having a second child, which meant that she would never have a child. So for the second child, I quit my job to take care of my children at home for two years, and I took care of both children alone. In fact, although it is very hard, there is also a lot of happiness. I think it is also good for mothers to take care of their children. Although I will not be reconciled occasionally, a diligent mother must be like this, right?
Children will make a woman smarter, not dull. The birth of a child will make the mother stronger. In fact, those mothers who don't look so good in the community are really great. Some are out of shape for children, and some are obviously post-graduate doctors who resign and take care of their children at home. I think this is a great sacrifice.
Because the role of mother is great in itself. Salute to all mothers.
Even though I lost a lot when I had children, at the same time, I gained a lot.
Having children has a great influence on women.
From conception in October, from childbirth to breastfeeding, to educating children, the impact of childbirth on women is simply turned upside down.
1, physical appearance
Having children will affect the changes of women's physical appearance. For example: various spots will grow during pregnancy, and stretch marks will grow on the stomach; After giving birth to a child, it is easy to have sagging breasts, postpartum obesity and deformity.
2. Inside the body
Although having children can reduce the incidence of ovarian cancer, endometrial cancer and breast cancer in women, the harm caused by having children to women's health cannot be ignored. For example, having children can lead to cervical cancer, pelvic organ prolapse, hemorrhoids, constipation, postpartum vaginal relaxation and so on.
Before giving birth to a child, a woman's life is free. She can go wherever she wants, eat whatever she wants, buy clothes, jewelry and cosmetics at will, and dress up beautifully everywhere, but a woman who gives birth to a child is different. Can't just leave; Don't pay attention to dressing (especially children), just be comfortable and convenient; Life has become irregular, lack of sleep, and I have to wear dark circles everywhere.
Women's having children has a great influence on their careers. If they don't have children, you can still try your career without worry. If you have children, you have to put them first. Some people choose to be full-time mothers, which means that they will bid farewell to the workplace for a short time, have no source of life, let alone any career; Some people choose to be working mothers. Although they can bring more income and respect, they are full of concern and guilt for their children when they work hard in the workplace.
The psychological impact of having children on women can not be ignored. There is a saying that "women are weak and mothers are strong", which refers to the psychological changes of women giving birth to children. Women always think about themselves before giving birth, but after giving birth, everything will be centered on the child. The psychological impact of having children on women will make women mature at once, but it will also make women more susceptible to emotional control and depression.
In short, having children has a great influence on women. Women must think carefully before giving birth and ask themselves if they can accept these changes. Of course, although having children has brought so much influence to women, I think most women will still find it worthwhile.
It is said that children are debtors of their parents in their previous lives, and raising a child is equivalent to paying off debts. Of course, this just shows the hard work of raising children. But if a woman wants to have children, she does take some risks. So what risks do women take when they have children?
Because the fetus will squeeze the space inside the mother during pregnancy, of course, the pregnant woman's figure will also change to varying degrees. And this change is developing in a bad direction. In other words, a woman who was in good shape before pregnancy may become uglier than before because she gave birth to a child. Especially during pregnancy, those beautiful clothes can't be worn, let alone high heels.
For some women who have their own jobs before pregnancy, if the unit welfare guarantee is not in place. This may mean that women should give up their jobs and concentrate on taking care of their children. Therefore, women's economy will not be independent. This may be gossiped by the family.
To have a healthy baby, including pregnancy and childbirth, as well as breastfeeding. Women need at least a year. During this year, women are likely to have some memory loss or psychological stress.
In short, the above are the main risks faced by some women, and raising children is also a long-term process.
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