Calm down and think about it. For Wei, there is no envy. As long as any woman in the world gets it, it is the most beautiful love legend in this life.
"Ask Ling for thirteen years and wait until you don't return."
Wei Wu envied jumping off a cliff at night and turning to dust. Lan forgot the opportunity of looking for him for 16 years. Every time there was chaos, he came out. The world says that he is "weeding out traitors and helping the weak" and "a model of the immortal family". In fact, he was just looking for a bosom friend and traveled all over the world. "How can I tell you if you want to bring someone back through all these clouds?" . Take it back and hide it ",because he won't be hurt.
I would like to ask a woman now, if a person wants nothing more, if you come back alone, will you love him to the bone and never want to be apart again?
Sixteen years later, I finally waited for Wei Ying's return. I tried my best to protect him, trusted him completely and guarded him. Even if I am a traitor, or even an enemy of the whole world, I will accompany you to the darkness and fight side by side with you for life and death. This feeling is "really not bad".
From now on, I will only protect you, break all the rules for you and bring you the beautiful and sincere feelings of the world.
I would like to ask today's women, if there is a person who is willing to give up the whole world for you and accompany you through this life full of thorns and twists and turns, will you also sigh that "one person in life is enough"?
It's a pity that only immortals have this kind of feeling, and our feelings in reality are much more complicated and calculated.
what is love ?
After all, it's just you and me. Because I love you, I am willing to give everything for you, whether in return or in comparison.
I love you, and I am willing to spend my life with you, instead of haggling over my own efforts and gains and losses and calculating each other on the pillow.
Marriage is never a life-and-death contest in fireworks, but an emotional exchange between you and me. The energy of love is flowing, coming instead of not loving.
Feelings are not noisy or tired, but tortured to death in long-term disputes.
Cai Jing (a pseudonym) and Li Qing (a pseudonym), a couple who have been in love for three years, broke up on the eve of the wedding because of the calculation in the marriage theory. To be more specific, the man doesn't want to add Cai Jing's name to the real estate license.
The day when Cai Jing met Li Qing happened to be the annual meeting of the company. Li Qing is a guest of institutions invited by the company to attend the meeting.
For example, the annual meeting of Caijing Company is often held to show the strength of the company, so it is held solemnly every year, and companies with business contacts are invited to participate.
As luck would have it, the female colleague of the public relations department who was appointed as a guest just happened to be unwell, so she temporarily seconded Cai Jing, who looks sweet, to help.
When she received Li Qing, her beautiful smile touched Li Qing, and she never let go.
At the annual meeting, Li Qing tried his best to get Cai Jing's mobile phone number through his familiar friends, and then stormed out of Cai Jing.
He also knew that it was inappropriate to call Cai Jing rashly, so he invited Cai Jing's colleagues to dinner in the name of appreciation, nominally to contact the feelings of both sides, but in essence to pursue Cai Jing.
In this way, with the help of colleagues in Cai Jing, Li Qing finally got the beauty.
According to Cai Jing, why did she agree to Li Qing's pursuit?
In fact, at the door of the conference room that day, she had already discovered Li Qing's different feelings for her. Because of such eyes, Cai Jing didn't know how much he had experienced since he was a child, and he didn't take it to heart.
What really moved Li Qing was a little thing that happened after several parties with colleagues.
That night, after the party, Li Qing won the opportunity to send her home. It's raining, and there is some water by the roadside. Because it was night and there were not many pedestrians on the road, Li Qing's car was driving a little fast, so when the car suddenly slowed down, Cai Jing felt very obvious because there was no one in front.
She turned to look at Li Qing in amazement. Li Qingchuan is in front of the right car. Cai found a man carrying an umbrella and a basket coming towards the driveway.
If you drive faster, you will splash water on this man. Li Qing slowed down early.
As the car approached, it was an elderly aunt carrying a basket of vegetables.
After the car passed slowly, Li said to him, "As soon as I saw her, I thought of my mother. My family used to be poor, and my mother just took a big basket of vegetables to the vegetable market every day to earn some money for my school. It was really hard at that time. My parents just gritted their teeth and sent me and my sister to school. At that time, all the money at home was spent. My parents are bitter. I really didn't want to go to school at that time and wanted to go out to work. My mother beat me up. Ha ha! From then on, I learned to work hard. Now that I have a job, my life has become better. "
Cai Jing knew that Li Qing worked hard in their company, so she was promoted faster than all the employees in the same period. Now she is the deputy director of the department and has a bright future.
During the three years of contact with Li Qing, Cai Jing was very satisfied with Li Qing, so when she took Li Qing to see her parents for the first time, her parents began to urge her to get married.
Cai Jing's parents are very liberal and democratic in their children's education. As long as Cai Jing decides, they won't object. So, Cai Jing's marriage was negotiated by herself and Li Qing.
Besides the house, everything in Li Qing depends on her.
The house used as a wedding room was bought with a loan from Li Qing. He paid the down payment himself and paid off the loan for almost three years.
Cai Jing means to add her name to the house and repay the loan together after marriage.
But Li Qing refused, saying that he had been in charge since he bought the house. Continue to repay the loan after marriage, and Cai Jing's income is used for daily expenses.
Cai Jing joked, "I lost a lot. In case of a quarrel one day, you let me go, say it belongs to your family, and kick me out of the house. Where do you want me to go? "
Li Qing didn't think she was joking, and seriously asked Cai Jing, "If your family bought a house, would you write my name?"
"Yes, but the two of us must use a loan. Not what you said, your money has been paid back, and my money is used for living. "
Li Qing and I discussed it several times, but Li Qing was noncommittal.
Cai Jing was a little angry and said to Li Qing, "To tell you the truth, my name is not required on the property certificate. But you must agree to several conditions.
First, I only pay half of our living expenses. Do you have money to live after repaying the loan? Don't ask me to borrow it, because I'm embarrassed to let you return it.
Secondly, if your parents are coming to live together, I declare in advance that I have no obligation to take care of them, because I also have parents to take care of.
Third, the cost of living is half per person, and so is housework. I can't quit my job and be a housewife. Even if I have children in the future, I will share the responsibility of taking care of them.
If you accept these three suggestions, you don't have to add my name, and I can buy my own house. "
Now young people get married, and real estate is their big head. Now the house price is high, and it is mostly the whole family who buy suites. Once the marriage encounters an accident and wants to divorce, the property will face division and loss. Therefore, the new marriage law now protects the security of pre-marital property, but it does not protect the intangible contribution of women in marriage.
Just like the economist Xue Zhaofeng said from an economic point of view, "Getting married means running a business and signing a contract", "Both men and women should come up with their own resource packages together", and "Women leave early and men leave late", people who pay late will kill those who pay early, so it is no problem for girls to mortgage before marriage and let them write their names in boys' household registration books.
But obviously Li Qing didn't realize this problem. He replied rudely to Cai Jing: "Getting married means living with yourself? I paid back my money. That's the house where we lived. According to you, I have already paid off the loan, and I deserve to starve to death if I lose money? "
Cai Jing was also angry: "Yes, because the mortgage repayment is your house, and it has nothing to do with me. I shouldn't pay for you. " I will not sacrifice my career to take care of your family. I have something I want to do, and I need to earn money to buy a house. You can't interfere with my development. If you agree, my family doesn't want any bride price. Of course, your house has nothing to do with me "
These two people completely collapsed.
Judging from this matter, some people may think that Cai Jing is too calculating. Is it necessary to calculate so clearly between husband and wife? Some people will say that this man didn't give the girl any protection at all. Where is his love?
But in my opinion, it is actually Li Qing's abacus that is more refined.
There is no girl's name written on the house, and it seems that the loan does not need a girl to pay it back. However, when he repaid the loan and had little money in his pocket, the living expenses were all paid by the girl, and the living expenses were spent, and even the shadow was gone. In case, I said, in case I can't live any longer and want a divorce, where will the girl's contribution come from?
When you meet a man with a conscience, you may leave a cake for the girl. What about a man without conscience? In a word, "I bought this house and paid off the loan. Get out! " "
You come up with it, because you have no basis to prove that you have contributed to this house.
You shouldn't care about marriage, but you should also meet someone who doesn't care about you.
A woman's intention to get married shows that she is ready to make sacrifices for her family. Giving birth to a child, supporting her parents and taking care of her family seems easy, but in fact she is very tired and can't produce visible benefits, but she still has to pay all. Women, really can't afford to lose.
Efforts in marriage should be two-way. If you don't count, I will be generous; If you care, I'll pay you back. But if marriage is to be counted on the pillow every day, is there still warmth and happiness?
This kind of marriage, which only knows how to take and doesn't know how to pay, is not as good as not having it at the beginning, so as to avoid injury and sadness.
Look at what Lan Zhan said to his confidant Wei Ying: "You can try now and see if I will refuse you anything."