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A woman with a strong heart is self-centered
Zhihu had a high fever: "What is inner strength? How to become a person with a strong heart? 」

One of the highly respected answers is that "inner strength" comes from: "On the premise of mature mind, we have a high acceptance of ourselves and reality. Most people with strong hearts will show a constant, supercilious state. 」

This answer won the hearts of the people, and people can't help but think of a girl, Zhu Qianpei, who is known as the most beautiful porter and sister in Hong Kong. In her body, people saw vigorous vitality and unyielding endurance. She deserves the word "strong inside", not only because she is making unbearable efforts, but also because she knows what she wants, can automatically block outside comments and stick to her original heart in a complicated metropolis.

In 20 16, Zhu Qianpei unexpectedly became popular on the Internet because of a group of photos wearing vest hot pants and trying to recite them. At that time, many people questioned that this was hype. They thought that such a beautiful young girl wouldn't really work as a coolie or porter, but she worked for 10 years and was never favored by bosses and customers, becoming an industry star and veteran. She proved by her actions that she really loves this profession and loves this job from the bottom of her heart.

In the variety show "Send 100 Girls Home", the screenwriter Ding walked into Zhu Qianpei's daily life and showed everyone what kind of life and state the real Zhu Qianpei was.

In the busy industrial building handling area, Zhu Qianpei braved the outdoor high temperature of more than 30 degrees, carrying dozens of kilograms of grain and oil, and was so busy that he sweated effortlessly. She is a non-staple food, grocery and car porter. Her daily job is to deliver goods to customers, carry grain and oil, and run back and forth. The lightest goods cost tens of kilograms, and the heaviest goods cost 180 kilograms. Moreover, this kind of heavy and tiring work starts at seven or eight in the morning and lasts until eight or nine in the evening.

Because of severe sweating, she wore the most convenient vest and even practiced the superb skill of changing clothes while walking. And unlike other girls, the daily necessities in her bag are: "food, clothes, antiperspirant lotion, and various repair tools." When everyone thought the job was messy, unstable and disgraceful, and even the host was distressed by her situation, she smiled and admitted that she had done all kinds of jobs, but she loved this job the most. She said: "I think this job is much easier to make money than other jobs. As long as I pay my own labor, I can get the corresponding reward. Maybe it's because I already like sports, and I'm uncomfortable without sweating. 」

Before becoming a porter, Zhu Qianpei tried many careers. She graduated from Secondary Five and worked as a hotel security guard, clerk, salesman, cleaner and lifeguard, but each job didn't last long. Zhu Qianpei believes that people need to wear masks when communicating with others, and they can't just be themselves. There are too many right and wrong, so it is better to be practical in the face of goods.

She thinks it is comfortable to work among men. "Everyone speaks frankly and directly, and is very United. Sometimes they are not strong enough to help each other. Although they sweat like rain day after day in logistics, they enjoy it, save experience and money, and learn different things. 」

In addition, Zhu Qianpei, born with divine power and cultivated by his father since childhood, found a sense of accomplishment in carrying goods. "When I saw the truck full of goods, as if I had conquered it, I was very satisfied. Therefore, when everyone feels unworthy and hard for her, she is full of contented gratitude.

Because for most young people in Hong Kong, if they refuse to suffer hardships, they can only get a salary of13,400 yuan, while the salary in Zhu Xiao has reached18,000 yuan. Although there is not much left in the end except for more than 6,000 houses and more than 5,000 monthly living expenses, Zhu Qianpei has always felt that she is happy and happy to survive in the cruel environment of fierce competition in Hong Kong. After becoming famous, Zhu Qianpei not only worked as a transport worker, but also collected waste paper part-time and went to the construction site to help earn some extra money at night. It doesn't matter to her what the outside world thinks. "I'm so interested in these." 」

She said, "Being healthy and having food, having a good boss, and having food is already very happy, not bitter. 」

2065438+In February 2009, the "New Dating Conference" was launched. Zhu Qianpei, an "older woman", was invited by the program group to attend the blind date meeting because she rarely met her peers at work. At the conference, when the male guest asked her if she could give up this career for love, Zhu Qianpei said frankly: I love this industry, and I don't like to leave in the future, and I won't leave because others choose. When talking about the ideal object, she said: "I want to find a man who is indomitable and down-to-earth, and don't always want to enjoy success and make quick money." 」

For many people, Zhu Qianpei's choice is unwise. After all, she has a good temperament and looks, and is very popular with the audience. She can make a lot of money by opening a live broadcast casually, but "don't always think about enjoying success and making quick money." I have expressed all the values of this girl.

17 years old, Zhu Qianpei began to work hard when he entered the society. Now he is 30 years old. The running rules of this world, and how to take shortcuts quickly to succeed, are not incomprehensible to others. However, it is precisely because of too much experience that he knows what he wants most in his heart. Compared with colorful but fragile life, Zhu Qianpei prefers to enjoy down-to-earth happiness.

Many people think that her present job is high-risk and low-reward, and she can't do it for a lifetime, but Zhu Qianpei has her own plans. She plans to get a driver's license first, change her job as a transport driver and then buy her own van, as long as she can engage in her favorite transport industry. Many people think that this job is not suitable for girls after all, not only hard, but also not decent enough, and it will affect her future love. Such considerations seem clever, but they ignore what they really want. If other people's decency is a constraint on themselves, should they force themselves to get involved in it in order to conform? What's more, if the other half can't treat you as an individual with independent personality, or even interfere with your favorite career, isn't it a disguised form of exploitation to grow old through compromise?

American psychologist Erickson put forward a concept, self-identity, also known as self-identity. In short, I know who I am. And respond to the self you know with a sustained and stable sense of identity.

In Eriksson's view, people are always easily influenced by the evaluation of the outside world and others, resulting in projected identity. For example, the public opinion environment of the whole society generally has a stereotype of women, as well as their personality and positions they can engage in. This stereotype will lead to women's lack of self-identity and fall into the situation of projected identity. For example, when everyone thinks that it is unrealistic for women to be porters, even if a person likes porters again, he will succumb to reality because he doesn't want to be a loser in others' mouths, and eventually engage in a job that looks glamorous but can't really get a pleasant experience, and can't generate enough self-identity. Over time, he will be unhappy, dissatisfied and unhappy.

Socrates famously said, "Know yourself". This famous saying was engraved on the temple in the holy city of Delphi, Greece, to remind the world of its importance.

However, after thousands of years, many people are still dragged forward by the noise of the times, or listen to public opinion and other people's suggestions, rather than their own inner voices. They study popular majors instead of sticking to their own interests; They choose decent jobs in the eyes of others, not the life they really want; They choose to be what others or standards expect, not what they are. They finally forget what they really want to stick to and what they came to this world for. They are confused from time to time.

Mr. Mimoto thinks, "You can't see yourself. Only when you hit something and bounce back will you know yourself. Therefore, it is self to collide with something very strong, terrible and high standard, and then know what you are. Unfortunately, more and more people were swallowed up and lost in this collision. So every collision is accompanied by self-digestion, and eventually they not only lose themselves, but also realize that they are gone. Therefore, before making any judgment, we will only measure the pros and cons, and will not respect our inner willingness to choose.

In Zhu Qianpei's small room of less than five square meters, the sign of "accept yourself" was hung as soon as he entered the door. This self-deprecating girl with simple mind and developed limbs actually has great wisdom that ordinary people don't have. She realized that she was different from others, but she didn't go with the flow and forced herself to be what others liked, but kept trying to be the person she liked.

Many people say that when Zhu Qianpei is at work, the whole person exudes a highlight, which is an eye-opener! In fact, because she has taken off her mask and found her true self, she can bloom with vigorous vitality and toughness from the inside out!

/kloc-In the 20th century, 25-year-old Dickinson found that external information was just interference and meaningless to her, so she gave up all social activities and returned to the most authentic life. She has been reading and writing poems every day for more than 30 years, and has written 1775 poems, which has become a legend in poetry circles.

Dickinson, who sticks to herself, said frankly: "We are not getting old year after year, but getting brand-new day after day. 」

So you see, those women whose hearts are too strong to be shaken are centered on their own feelings and insist on being their own people, because they can be self-sufficient and glorious enough!