In A Dream of Red Mansions, when talking about this Hony Son, two poems are used to describe the main character: "Looking for sorrow and resentment for no reason, sometimes it seems crazy. Even if you are born with good skin, your stomach is rough. Poor and ignorant, stupid and afraid of reading articles. The action is remote and perverse, which is the embarrassment of the world! " And "wealth does not know happiness, poverty and desolation." There is no hope of living up to the good times at home and abroad. The world is incompetent first, unparalleled in ancient and modern times. Send a message to Wanhe: Don't affect this look. "The superficial meaning of these two poems seems to mean that although this Baoyu childe looks very handsome, he is stupid, inexperienced, afraid of reading articles, and so on. In today's words, he belongs to a playboy who embroidered pillows, which is useless at all, but the poem does not say that he is a playboy. However, Baoyu himself once said, "Daughters are bones made of water and men are bones made of mud. When I see my daughter, I feel refreshed, and when I see a man, I stink ",which makes many people cling to pigtails." For example, when Leng Zixing, an antique dealer, gave a speech at Guo Rong Tower, he summed up this sentence: "Are you funny or not? There is no doubt that you will be a goat in the future! However, the more knowledgeable Jia Yucun immediately corrected: "No! It's a pity that you don't know the origin of this person, and this political veteran has also been mistaken for a womanizer. If you don't read much and don't know things, you can't know things "Later, he talked about a lot of people who were born with great benevolence and evil, to respond to the righteousness and evil spirits of heaven and earth. Finally, it generally means that people like Hongyi's son are by no means lecherous people in the secular world, but may be born with clever and beautiful strange people.

Whether Baoyu is a lecherous or a strange man depends mainly on his own performance. On the surface, Baoyu is really close to the girls in the Grand View Garden. It can even be said that he can't live without his sisters for a day. But there are many specific reasons. First, because Baoyu grew up with his sisters, such as Sister Bao and Sister Lin, his feelings for them are naturally extraordinary. But the feelings mentioned here are not so much the love between men and women as the pure feelings of brothers and sisters. Things like him lying in a bed with Sister Lin telling the story of "Daidai Cave", and some things that he joked and roughed up when he was with Sister Bao and Sister Xiangyun, obviously all exude childlike innocence, because in the end, no matter Jia Baoyu, Xue Baochai, Lin Daiyu and Shi Xiangyun, they are just children who are not too old! Second, Baoyu has his own outlook on the world and life. He hates things like "official career economy" most, and men are generally characters in "official career economy", which is incompatible with Baoyu's worldview; On the contrary, girls rarely pursue "career economy". They tend to be more innocent, and Baoyu naturally gets closer to the girls. Third, Baoyu gradually grew up and entered the budding period of youth. During this period, it is normal that he likes girls and has a good impression on them. It seems that it is hard to say that Baoyu is a promiscuous person based on these contents.

When it comes to love between men and women, perhaps only one woman really touched Baoyu's feelings, and that is Lin Daiyu. No other woman in the Grand View Garden, whether Xue Baochai, Shi Xiangyun or Xue Baoqin, can take the place of Lin Daiyu in Baoyu's heart. It can be seen from the story of A Dream of Red Mansions that although Baoyu sometimes has some affection and envy for other girls, these affection and envy are always temporary, not long-lasting and fleeting, while his affection for Lin Daiyu is long-lasting, stable and unshakable. In the twenty-eighth time in the novel, Jia Baoyu saw Xue Baochai's "snow-white arm" and was fascinated for a while. He felt that he couldn't control himself and "unconsciously moved his jealousy heart", but then he secretly thought, "This arm should grow on Sister Lin, or you have to touch it and grow on him." This shows that Baoyu is actually very devoted, and the closest woman in his heart can only be Daiyu, not anyone else. After reading A Dream of Red Mansions for many times, I found that there were only three women who had intimate contact with Baoyu, one was Xue Baochai, the other was an attacker, and the third was Qin Keqing. We know that Xue Baochai finally married Baoyu and became his wife. Naturally, she will have "intimate sexual contact" with him. As for xiren, when she had sex with Baoyu, she was not a very sensible child. To them, the word "promiscuity" seems far away. Besides, xiren is Baoyu's personal maid and will be Baoyu's concubine sooner or later. Even from an adult's point of view, this "first experience of sex" is not too intolerable (this is a very normal phenomenon in feudal society and cannot be measured by today's moral standards). As for Qin Keqing, her intimate relationship with Baoyu can definitely be called a muddled account, but even they can't tell clearly. She was promised to Baoyu by a fairy in Baoyu's dream. This is a dream, and Baoyu himself can't decide. Except these three people, Baoyu has never had lewd thoughts about any other woman! A beautiful girl like Qingwen is still her own maid, and Baoyu has never touched her. Baoyu was framed and forced to rape Jin Chuaner, the servant girl, to death, but heaven and earth conscience, it was an unjust case, Baoyu just said a few words of joke with Jin Chuaner. Jin Chuaner was actually forced to death by Mrs. Wang. Has Baoyu ever promiscuous?

Of course, there are too many promiscuous people in Rong Ning Erfu. "Only those two stone lions are clean.". Jia Zhen and Jia Lian are "dirty seeds" of "seeing one and loving the other". Like Jia Lian, although his wives and concubines are beautiful children, he is not satisfied at all. He "stole chickens and dogs every day, dirty and smelly, and dragged them home", and he spared all the girls and Bao Er's; He secretly married Second Sister You, and he never forgot to take her as his concubine. Like Jia Zhen and his daughter-in-law Qin Keqing, they also want to get their hands on Sister You, who has married Jia Lian. In order to rob and kill Feng Yuan, Uncle Xue Pan, a relative of Erfu, later married (of course, you can't forget to have her maid) and immediately dumped (Xiangling) like a rag. People like them are promiscuous, so they can be called "slutty fools". They hate not being able to use all the beautiful women in the world for my movies. Compared with them, Hong Yi's son Jia Baoyu is absolutely a pure person.

So what kind of complex is Baoyu's affection for girls? In the police fantasy fairy, this complex is called "psychosexuality". What is "psychosexuality"? Fairy fairy thinks this is "infatuation in talent", and it is "only the heart knows but it is not delicious, and the magic can speak without words". But this obscenity is not a dirty thing. Fairy fairy thinks that Baoyu "can be a good friend in a boudoir with this word alone", but people with this complex are "too pedantic, strange, full of ridicule and dazzling." In other words, this kind of complex will not be understood by secular people. If it is easy for people to understand today, I think Baoyu's complex with girls can be called "pure love". This pure feeling is heartfelt admiration, love and respect. It is definitely not for possession, and it may even end in dedication. Baoyu himself once told xiren about this feeling. He said: "Just look at me and protect me until one day I become fly ash-fly ash is not good, and ash still has traces and knowledge. When I turn into smoke and the wind blows away, you can't control me, and I can't control you. I went with me at that time, and I went with your love. " This kind of pure feeling, the average man does not, and the average woman does not understand it. After all, Hony's son is the reincarnation of a waiter in Shen Ying, and his manners and manners have an extraordinary temperament. But to say that the childe is promiscuous or not refined is not to defile the childe's personality!

Of course, Jia Baoyu also has shortcomings, and there are many places that are incompatible with the present society. But please don't forget that he was a literary figure in feudal society hundreds of years ago. Please don't judge him by the standards of today's market economy society! To tell the truth, if childe really lives in modern society and has been baptized by the concept of market economy in modern society, he may become a very successful social elite with his personality, talent, economic foundation and family background! If so, will the girls still say "I don't want my boyfriend to do this"?