Don't get too close to people you don't know. Tell him everything, exaggerated, but realistic.
I know what happened, and I have experienced it myself. If I say that this person has not corrected, don't say it again. Get away from him. A single spark can start a prairie fire. Please keep away from dangerous goods. You can try if you don't believe me, and all kinds of troubles will come to you.
4. It's best not to say a word, look or ask about things that can't be changed.
Don't associate work with personal feelings, and don't think about it, otherwise it will be very troublesome. Although it works well, it also has a lot of trouble.
6. Finding a good way before doing things will save a lot of trouble.
7. Do what you are about to do, and don't care too much about what you are about to do.
8. The worst thing is not intrigue, but doing nothing. You took the wrong manuscript. I didn't remind you that you were going the wrong way, but I ignored it. You will disturb the leader's meeting by talking loudly, while I am busy with my work. I knew what would happen, and I could stop it, but I watched it happen. Am I wrong? No, you're not wrong. This is just a standard of cruelty.
0 1 Don't be cruel to others, just wait for others to be cruel to you.
A unit is like a pyramid, and everyone wants to stand at the top.
If you don't want to stay at the bottom all the time, you must learn to climb up.
If you are too honest, you will become a cushion. Change yourself by learning to be cruel.
Don't talk too much, learn to be silent.
Remember, the most powerful counterattack is not explanation, but silence.
The philosopher Shelley said, "The water is noisy, and the deep water is silent."
No matter who slanders you or even severely suppresses you, don't explain. Whether you are wrong or right, there will be innocence. If you always explain, it will add insult to injury and make your boss think you are picky.
If you don't talk, no one treats you as a mute. The light in your eyes makes others shut up; As long as you insist on making achievements, people who make irresponsible remarks naturally have nothing to say.
Your silence will make the bully shrink back slowly. They don't know what you want, so they are naturally afraid.
The vicious person in the unit, you never know his important contacts, you don't know his next move, and you can skillfully save the day and make the bully feel ashamed.
Don't treat the unit as a family member and an outsider.
In the unit, it is often said: "People who have things together are predestined friends, just like their own family, get along well."
Actually, it's not. You treat your colleagues as family, but they exclude you from the "circle" or climb on your shoulders.
Treating colleagues as family members will be too accommodating and tolerant of others everywhere, thinking that giving benefits to others is just like giving family members.
When your colleagues are promoted one by one, you find that you are the most useless person in this "family" and the one who does the most things.
Treat colleagues as "strangers".
As the saying goes, "tea cools people." No one remembers who left the company, and no one wants to talk to anyone, even if they meet and pass by on the road. Many people can't even say hello.
If you have no power or influence, then you are still in the company, just like "people leave tea", and no one really gives you face.
If you keep buttering up to your colleagues, treat them as elders. Every day, I have to grovel and look at other people's faces, and because of other people's faces, I am humble again and again.
Don't always "work hard if you can", but know how to show your achievements.
In a unit, some people are busy around, busy during the day and working overtime at night; Some people, doing nothing, chatting every day, getting off work early and humming all the way; Some people, pretending to be busy, can't do anything at the critical moment.
When you thought you were going to get a promotion, you found that people who were doing nothing climbed to the heights at once.
Don't overestimate your position in others' hearts, rely on yourself.
Everyone wants someone to lean on.
At work, why do so many people like to form gangs? It's not that they are bored, but that they want to get together and rely on each other. At the critical moment, they are a team.
Are you an honest man? Honest people generally become timid because they were suppressed and scolded by their parents when they were young, or what about their parents? Honest and timid, honest and frugal, and then after years of subtle influence, it leads to an honest character. It is this honest character that makes honest people suffer. Because I am soft-hearted and easy-going, I am always sent away, because I dare not lose my temper, so I am always taken care of, because I am too honest, so I am always bullied by people who steal and cheat, and because I am not good at talking, I am always regarded as a dull fool in Muna's place. How can honest people change themselves from being bullied? Remember the following points: First, learn to be shameless and persist in being shameless. Doing well is called excellent psychological quality. Second, don't be too timid, or others will think you have no bottom line. Third, don't laugh too much, or others will think you have no temper and are easy to bully. Fourth, don't be too enthusiastic about others, who think you are buttering him up. Don't talk too much, get to the point, or you will be rejected everywhere. 6. Don't be too modest. People think you are easy to talk to, so it's not your turn. Remember, your own is your responsibility. Seven, don't be too active, others think you have no strength, don't make yourself so worthless, make your hair cleaner and more social, make your body stronger and dress more skillfully. Nine, look at people's eyes, don't dodge, don't be rational, don't be ruthless, focus on others, so you will feel oppressed and more confident. Ten, the voice should be loud, strong and clean, don't hesitate, don't whisper, reflect your tough, bold and decisive style. Eleven, don't be too obedient to others, don't want to answer, then be silent, don't want to do anything, then refuse. At most, I will live for decades. You said you were timid. What are you doing? Kindness is stupid once it loses its IQ, sincerity once it loses its principles, and kindness once it loses its standards. Mark my words, whether he is your father or mother, whether he is your friend or colleague, or anyone else, if they make you suffer in a moral way, if they talk about feelings. Let you be fooled. If they humiliate you with their so-called love, you just need to smile and listen to them, prove that you are polite, and then turn your back on him and tell him that he was born as a man and has his own bottom line, principles and dignity!
How can an honest man become a cruel man?
Eat more losses, be cheated more, be bullied more, learn lessons after many bumpy experiences and make up your mind. Before becoming a cruel person, you should get rid of unnecessary softhearted, easy-talking, rational, mature, wise and calm, practice super insight, and most importantly, have the ability to make money.
What is a cruel person? Lonely, able to handle many things, control emotions, be quite self-disciplined, and see through the essence at a glance? Putin the Great is cruel! Do Biden, Trump, Merkel, Hanwu Emperor, Genghis Khan, Buffett and so on count? In fact, they are all vicious. How can they not be vicious if they can reach that position and have such success and wealth?
How can an honest man become a cruel man? Honest people are often bullied, so they can protect themselves from being bullied easily and safeguard their legitimate interests. This is the first step to become cruel people.
Then move forward step by step firmly, continuously, steadily and practically. Small victories depend on wisdom, and great victories depend on morality. Fate is often difficult to control, but how to deal with it is particularly important. In history and reality, there are both small steps to run, eternal hatred, and examples of stopping at a critical moment, changing fate and even life and death.
Conclusion:
In fact, many people are ordinary people or honest people before they become vicious people. Always remember: life is important! Strength is very important!
When the tiger is away, I show off when I am a sick cat! When your anger accumulates to a certain extent, you can't stand it anymore. You must have a fit to let the other person know that you have a temper.
Honest people are generally more introverted, don't talk much, and don't refute others.
A colleague's work is serious and down-to-earth, which gives the leader the impression that this job is absolutely reliable. Because of this, persimmons are soft and pinched. The leader often gives him something urgent and difficult to do, even if he works overtime, he does it silently.
After a long time, leaders get used to it, often arranging work at the last minute, and directly demanding results in a short time regardless of whether there are other more important things at hand.
Once, he finally couldn't stand it. He patted the table with the leader and said that he could do it, would do it, and would not shirk it. Leaders don't treat themselves as people, and they try their best to squeeze. This is obvious bullying. I have more important things to do. I can't do what you arranged and I don't have time to do it. It's up to you
This trick fooled the leaders. From now on, the leader will pay attention and ask for his advice first. Are you free to do it? Can you do it?
Since he lost his temper, his mood has been much better! The leadership is also polite to him!
A lot of trivial work needs someone to do. Have you found it? It is often arranged for those who are resigned to their fate and like to be honest. In the end, it was done without credit. Once they encounter difficulties, or things that no one wants to do, they will naturally be handed over to him.
If you turn yourself into a donkey, don't complain about others riding you.
Although the leader keeps saying that he likes honest people, you find that he is surrounded by dishonest people, flatterers and bold people who don't follow the routine.
An honest man can't be an official or get rich. No matter how good you are, you will easily accept everyone's demands. You will become a camel and everyone will command you.
Stick to your own bottom line and principles, and refuse without hesitation when it is time to refuse.
There is an honest man in the office who is not good at words and even looks a little dull. But no one can bully him. It turns out that he can play Tai Chi.
Work assigned by department leaders should be done if it can be done, and delayed if it can't be done. When the leader asks, he has no choice but to ask step by step, which annoys the leader. Later, in order not to trouble themselves, the leaders would rather assign some work to competent people, go on and keep silent.
This honest man is naturally relaxed, and the leaders dare not provoke him.
You think that if you are kind to others, others will be twice as kind to you. You are wrong!
Kindness is given to the right person, and others will treat them with courtesy. If kindness is given to the wrong person, people will think you are weak and easy to be deceived. Be modest about people and things!
Invest in yourself and make yourself more valuable. You can still live a high life without pleasing anyone.
Before answering this question, we must first clearly know what is the most fatal shortcoming of an honest man:
1. hesitant
2. Short-sighted
Stick to the old way
If an honest man wants to be ruthless, he should know these fatal shortcomings and must correct them!
In this regard, Zeng Guofan once said:
First, we should be bold in doing things, and avoid looking ahead and looking back.
Secondly, only seeing the small will make Pepsi fail and cause a hundred lines to fall.
The third is to follow two things and make mistakes all my life. Only by inspiring the spirit can we break this disadvantage.
So how can we become a cruel person?
Every day is composed of one habit after another. 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, good habits will make every day the most efficient, and bad habits will only devour our time.
If you want to be a cruel person, you must learn to say goodbye to yourself who was full of bad habits in the past and learn to reshape yourself with good habits.
People say that an extremely self-disciplined person is a top-level luxury life, because everyone's life is limited, and an extremely self-disciplined person broadens his life. Every day is valuable, meaningful and taken seriously. Such people will do a lot more than others and enrich their lives.
Being cruel doesn't mean that the daily schedule is full. On the contrary, such people enjoy the greatest freedom.
After finishing a day's work and study efficiently, they have more free time to do many things they love and release themselves.
From the moment you click in, you no longer have to doubt whether you are honest or not.
What does an honest man mean?
Is an honest man a diaosi?
An honest man is the receiver?
Do honest people lick dogs?
Honest people deserve to be unloved?
Honest people deserve to be bullied?
Shouldn't the original meaning of an honest man be an honest and trustworthy good citizen? Why is it now a derogatory term, a representative of straight men who don't understand amorous feelings, and a small diaosi who doesn't trim his appearance? Why do women love bad guys and always let honest people take over?
How would you feel if others were honest about you?
I don't want to be an honest man anyway. If someone calls me an honest man to my face, I will immediately kick him in the stomach, make up two big mouths to make a transition, and give him a ko in the last combination. At the moment he fell to the ground, I had to warn him loudly: "don't call me an honest man again!" ! Okay？ ! ! "
Even if we are introverted and don't like to express ourselves, we want to hear the adjective "calm, inner show, treasure boy" instead of "damn honest man!" ! "
Why do some people dare to treat us as honest people when they don't know us?
For example, we must first unify the concept: what is the definition of cruel people? Malicious people have the following characteristics:
First, eliminate the temptation of the outside world. The temptation of the outside world is everywhere, and you may accidentally fall into it at any time. Therefore, it is impossible to completely eliminate it, but it can be minimized.
They are a waste of time, and it is easy for people to become more and more addicted. Slowly degenerate.
The "temptation" here means that when you want to do something, there are always some unimportant things that interrupt you.
For example, brush short videos, brush soap operas, play games, eat snacks, even stare blankly, pick your fingers and so on.
These temptations can always find gaps and let us fall into them. Here is a way to get rid of temptation.
1. That was a blow. When we find ourselves trapped, we can say no to ourselves, which will wake us up. (Personally, it is forbidden. It is best to say only one word, such as: stop, no, and so on. )
2. At this time, it is necessary to compete with yourself and let yourself get out of the temptation. Sometimes you can't come out immediately after a fight. You can say to yourself, "What should I do at the moment?" and leave where you are sitting.
3. Go back and do what you should do.
Second, malicious people know their choices. They can give up what they like and do what they don't like, as long as it is useful to them, even if it is difficult.
Third, they can accept a lonely and boring life. They know that some things can only be done by themselves.
4. Malicious people can strongly demand themselves and know what they should do.
Fifth, know how to refuse others. Don't be a bad person, know what to help and what to refuse.
We are human beings, not gods. If we help everyone, we should not be exhausted. Besides, I have my own things to do, and I can't take care of everyone.
Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish between some unimportant or other people's requirements, those that can be pushed and those that cannot be pushed. Don't have too much psychological burden.
Whether to help or not depends on whether this person is important to us or not, and whether it will waste time.
Honest man, honest man, honest man is honest because of cowardice? No, a former leader told me the key to honesty. I was 22 years old at that time. Point it out to me. Under her guidance, I changed.
Yes!
In reality, people's characteristics are softhearted, which leads to softhearted people. They are not afraid of being retaliated by those wicked people, but the wicked attacked him today.
When the situation is still smiling as before, the so-called honest man immediately relieved and put it down, but he was still angry and his mood was different.
In people's festivals, being completely suppressed by people's spirit, whether you are happy or not depends entirely on others.
Another is that there is no bottom line and it is stimulated by bad words. He was afraid, unwilling or embarrassed to fight back. I don't advocate fighting, but I'm telling you,
As long as someone says something you don't like to hear, it's as bad to catch him and scold him to death. What? You are full of energy. You can say vegetarian
Quality? Fuck you!
As long as someone is aiming at you and doesn't say it clearly, you can criticize others, say bad things, be angry with him, operate on him, and do more harm to him. This is called standing.
Wei! But remember, don't start first, scold him to death and let him start first!
The following set of books was recommended by my former leader. He said that if you read it a few more times, you will see through all the disgusting things and know what it is.
How to move, how to use it, how to dismantle it, how to take the initiative to attack ... I have watched it four times and I am still watching it. Society belongs to us.
For ordinary people, for big people, it is really tangled. Without the number of ways to rule the people, how can we seize resources? How to get more mating rights
And then what?
I have seen people who can fight very well, and they are squeezed out by a group of people in the workplace. Why are people not afraid of you? It's that you are soft-hearted and have bad intentions.
People test you, constantly provoke you to go offline, and eventually become the object of everyone's exclusion and bullying.
I've seen short people. If you don't listen to yourself, you will turn your face. Nobody dares to mess with you!
You are dishonest, you are not timid, you are not scolded, but you are poor in emergency response, hesitant and thin-skinned. How many thorns have you met?
People bully and crowd out? Unless he enters the society!
The biggest feature of a villain is not his courage, but that he really can sow dissension, gossip, slander others and swear words.
Injuries, etc. There are very few people who really dare to fight back or clean up them. If there are such people, they will also converge. If you don't resist, they will recognize them.
Because you are a soft persimmon, it's getting worse. You are tolerant and generous, and no matter how much you shrink back, it won't affect their morality.
The ancients said that it is very reasonable to deal with a man as he deals with you. What tricks does the villain use against you, which proves that he thinks so.
Tricks are absolutely destructive weapons. When you have a weapon of destruction, he will start to reason with you!
Therefore, we must be strong in our hearts, learn from these mistakes, and constantly attack and fight back until we win completely! Sometimes, with little people.
Resistance depends on willpower and patience.
Moreover, villains also have shortcomings. For villains, there is no martial arts. If you make personal attacks, you will expose your shortcomings. this
Squeeze him out. Kill him!
Irritate him, let him do it, and then if you want to fight back, fight each other and see your illness. Look at the car if you want, but the compensation for minor injuries is very small.
Tall man.
Put away your lofty and self-esteem, don't be afraid, fuck it!
Now I just go back to bed every day, I am allowed to provoke people every day, and I am ready to lie down and call the police at any time. I want to buy a new car for my wife at the end of the year! increase
Oil ollie. Here!
How can I be an honest man?
If someone says you are honest, do you think it is a compliment or a loss? I think it's mostly the latter.
Honest people are the most inconspicuous existence when they don't break out, but when honest people break out, they will definitely make you afraid. I have seen so many social news, so many murderous killers, and many of them are honest people on weekdays.
Honest people don't lose their temper, they don't get angry, they just don't explode, and some of them are external. By hurting others, some of them are internal, hurting yourself, making your body and mind less sunny and healthy, and getting depressed seriously.
If you realize that your honesty has brought inconvenience to your life, and even begin to deny and doubt yourself, then you should start to change. Don't let honesty become the laughing stock of others, and don't let honesty hurt your life.
1. Honesty begins with learning to refuse. Why an honest man is easily bullied is because he is not good at refusing. Honest people always know their own value through others' evaluation of themselves. If others want something from you, what you often think is whether I will be sad if I refuse ta, not whether I will be sad if I do it. You will find that if you go against your heart and do what you don't want to do, you won't get sincere thanks from others. You seem calm, but in fact you keep cursing. Things are done, but they don't get anything in return, and they make themselves upset. Why do you want it?
Honest people should think more about themselves. Do what you really want to do, do what is really good for you, do what you should do, and those things that have nothing to do with yourself and waste your time must be weighed. Don't please others, they don't care at all. Be selfish and live more for yourself, and you will be happier.
3. Stay away from those who give you negative emotions. There are always a few dishonest people around honest people. They often tell honest people what to do and laugh at honest people. After a long time, you deny yourself more and more and doubt yourself more and more. Don't you get bored that all your emotions are guided by others?
You should weigh the advantages and disadvantages before you do anything. You are not encouraged to be a selfish and alarmist, but there are too many things in life, and we have taken care of ourselves. Don't spend too much time on people who are not worth it. It's easy to think about whether to do something or not. What are the advantages of doing so? What are the disadvantages? If I can accept this shortcoming, I can do it.
4. Give full play to the advantages of honest people. Honest people have no advantages? Honest people have many advantages. They are better at listening, observing and caring. They are gentle people. But you should know that not everyone deserves your kindness. Some people just need to maintain superficial interpersonal communication, while others deserve deep friendship, so they are good at giving full play to their advantages.
All the labels are comments imposed on you. Must you be so obedient and prove yourself really like that with your actions?
Personality can be changed and perfected. Paying too much attention to other people's opinions will only make you lose your balanced heart and thinking ability. What kind of person you want to be depends on yourself.
Being bullied by wolves for a long time will turn into wolves.
First, how to form the so-called honest man:
1, a harsh family
Harshness is reflected in material economy, behavior habits and so on. Normal families should at least meet the basic requirements of children's food and clothing, and be too diligent and thrifty. For example, children only wear the clothes of their brothers and sisters without any pocket money, which will be affected and become inferior and timid. Even some children will be driven by vanity to steal, cheat, sell their dignity and go astray.
2. Authoritarian parents
In the process of children's growth, parents' educational methods determine their character. Parents are too controlling, and when they grow up, their children lack the right to make their own choices, and their personality will appear weak. Dictatorship education may get a child with good obedient results, but they have no sense of accomplishment and pride in their hearts, lack opinions, and are easy to go with the flow without adults.
Second, an "honest man" usually has the following characteristics:
1 indecisive
Faced with the choice, people will be afraid that they are not doing well enough to hurt others, and often take the way of escaping, shrinking and making excuses to escape.
2. Let nature take its course.
Lack of utilitarian heart, happy-go-lucky, don't fight for it, do whatever you arrange, don't want to compete with others, it's easy to stand still in work and it's difficult to get promoted.
3. Too humble or even inferior.
Modesty is a virtue, but putting your posture too low will inevitably make people look down upon it, and this sense of inferiority will accompany you for a long time.
Step 4 be aloof and aloof
Principles and bottom lines are higher than others, inflexible, incompatible with reality, and outsiders seem to be above and difficult to communicate.
Third, why "honest people" make a determined effort more crazy than the average person:
1. There won't be much resistance when injured, but it will break out at key points with the accumulation of injuries.
2. You can't vent when you should vent your emotions normally, and a little negative emotion will get out of control.