It turns out that I only saw the first half of the sentence. The complete sentence is "20 days after caesarean section, I found that I really don't love my daughter." I care more about my stretch marks than she does. Is this normal? " It turned out that a novice mother who had a caesarean section was complaining about her figure. After giving birth to her daughter, her flat stomach and ugly stretch marks made her too busy to care about her love for her daughter.
Do you still want to care about your daughter's normal figure? In fact, it can be seen that she loves her daughter in her heart, but the huge contrast between her body before and after pregnancy made her fall into a trough and even began to be depressed. "Do I love this child?"
The joy of not being a mother for the first time after childbirth is not excessive. Many novice mothers have gone through this stage. A treasure mom in the comment area said that after giving birth to her daughter, she doubted for a long time, "Did I give birth to this product?" Not only did I not feel generate's maternal love, on the contrary, when the child cried, she felt no waves in her heart and wanted to eat a loaf of bread ... It took me several months to truly feel that I was a mother, and I loved and liked her.
Even if you are out of shape and depressed, you will still feed him, bathe him, put her to bed at night, and watch him smile at you and cry at you ... You grow bigger and bigger from a "small meat ball", and you can see changes every day, so you fall in love with her in this day-to-day relationship.
Don't question "motherhood", every mother is not easy, and the 400,000 post comment area hides the bitterness of women.
The quiet "I'm a mother" in the hit drama "Riding the Wind and Waves" made everyone laugh. The "mother" she refers to is sentimental and always cries for her sisters in the same team. In the past, she was resolute and uncompromising, and this program changed her.
Being a mother for the first time has also gone through the process of "becoming a mother" from being indifferent to children to loving them. A treasure mother commented that the child was born ugly, she only had a sense of responsibility for the child, and she didn't like the child herself. Feed them when they are hungry, and get bored at night. But later, I became more and more maternal to this "little guy". I will patiently play with her, make complementary food for her, and buy beautiful clothes for her to take pictures.
Dear Ma Bao, don't question your "maternity", it is only temporarily covered by the "scars" on your body.
When the child was born, the mother and son were unfamiliar, and the newborn only lived in the mother's stomach for a few days. Compared with those strange "little people", mothers care more about the changes in their bodies.
The treasure moms who responded in the comment area have left messages telling their most sad experiences after childbirth:
@ Erer: When I was born, I was cut sideways, natural hemorrhoids, and irregular milk blocking, which killed me. My biggest wish is to wake up naturally when I sleep Maternal love? What is that thing? @ Ba Shen Taro: During pregnancy, I gained more than 40 kilograms, and my side cut did not hurt. I don't want to experience it again in my life. The child is always crying, and after drinking the night milk, he puts it down and groans. I cried and burst into tears, and I regretted thinking about it. Women are always "emotional animals", just as you prefer a cute meow to a bench. Children open their eyes and smile at you. When they see you, they embrace you with open arms. When they see that everything is curious, no amount of postpartum sadness melts into "maternal love".
Message at the end of the article:
The most important thing is to love yourself before you love your children.
Only by taking care of yourself can you have the strength to love others.
Mothers, please be kind to yourself!