1. When you are a mother who cares too much about other people's eyes and lacks self-confidence, recommend a picture book: Marilyn the whale. Text: David Cali, picture: Sang Ya Bova/Mickey Barker.
Whether in major parent-child network communication platforms or parent-child lectures on various topics, "What kind of person do you want your child to be?" What is the most important quality you want your child to have? "Optimism and self-confidence" can be said to be the answer that most parents expect or say.
When many mothers buy picture books, it is easy to unconsciously hold the goal that must be achieved. For example, they want to buy a picture book because they want to use it to teach their children to become "optimistic and confident", and even ask, "Excuse me, can those picture books help my children learn to be optimistic and confident? I think my children are not optimistic and confident enough. 」
In fact, when parents can't really understand and do many positive behaviors or traits, it is impossible for children to have all kinds of positive traits that parents expect immediately because they read a picture book, just like eating an elixir. In other words, if parents have the opportunity to take care of their body and mind first, they will have the opportunity to calm down and re-examine their growth experiences, feelings and values, and then open their hearts to learn and feel again.
The landlord said that "self-identity" is actually a compulsory course for everyone when they grow up. From the moment I realized that I was different from others, it covered my appearance, characteristics, ability and possession. What impressed him deeply was that several times when he shared and recommended picture books about making children like themselves and establishing self-identity, the feedback from the mothers who listened to the speeches at the scene was that these books actually helped them re-examine themselves, face themselves well and find their own feedback.
In the inevitable and countless comparisons, appearance is often the most difficult lesson. From the current trend of many medical beauty clinics, the popularity of micro-plastic surgery, and the eternal hot sale of diet foods, it is not difficult to find.
The fat girl in the picture book Marilyn the whale is laughed at by her classmates because she always splashes when diving in swimming class. So she began to boycott swimming lessons, feeling that splashing water every time she jumped into the swimming pool was a very, very shameful thing.
But Marilyn actually swims very well. Aware of her resistance and thoughts, the coach asked her after class, "don't you like swimming?" You swim very well! Marilyn admitted that it was not that she didn't like swimming, but that she felt too fat.
After listening to this, the coach gave her an interesting suggestion: "If you try to imagine that you are light, you will swim well.". Do you think birds and fish feel fat and heavy? Of course not! Sometimes our minds think that we will decide what kind of person we become. " Marilyn really carried out the advice given by her coach, which not only overcame many difficulties in life, but also better, she no longer needed to imagine that she was light and confident.
At the end of the story, a girl gave her a difficult problem and asked her to jump into the water from a high diving platform. Marilyn knew that this classmate was deliberately embarrassing her, but she accepted the challenge. This time, Marilyn no longer imagined herself as a light fish, so as not to be laughed at after jumping into the water and splashing. Instead, she imagines herself as a "super invincible whale". Who is she throwing at? Of course, it was the female classmate who deliberately waited to see Marilyn make a fool of herself. Judging from Marilyn's cheerful smile, she has been very happy to be a whale. No matter what others think of her, she can really accept and like herself!
Extended reading:
A wrinkle on grandma's face, a seed.
Twain: Simon Shiloh/Sanmin: Liu Yushan Society
2. When your other half is not around, recommend a picture book: "Hug Me" Twain: Simone ● Herolo/Sanmin
The seal landlord shared that once in a picture book lecture, he told the story of "Hug Me". The protagonist of this story is a small cactus. He doesn't need water much, but he needs love very much. However, his family didn't want to look him in the eye, listen to her or hug him. So the cactus decided to run away from home. He thought he could find someone willing to hug him outside. However, things did not develop as he imagined. At first, he had expectation, desire and initiative, and later he was puzzled, disappointed and angry! So he decided to shut himself in a house, put a sign outside the house and decided not to let anyone near him!
Until one day, the little cactus heard someone crying outside. He couldn't help being curious. He still opened the door and went out. He found that what he was crying was a small stone that was unloved and longed for a hug as much as himself, so he opened his arms and reopened his heart, changing from a role eager for love to a "lover".
To the surprise of the seal landlord, when he shared the story, a mother raised her hand at the scene. At that time, she was holding a little boy who looked about 4 years old. She seemed to be moved by the process of listening to the story, and there were tears in her eyes when she spoke. She said that she felt really lucky to hear the seal landlord share this story. This story reminds her of herself. She has been sad since her husband left.
She feels like a little cactus in the story, and the small stone in the story looks like her son. Maybe his son has been waiting for her hug and comfort, but she is obsessed with her own pain. The thought of her own behavior of closing herself up makes her son, who is only over 4 years old, seem to be forced to grow up and learn to take care of himself. She felt very sad and shouldn't, so she wanted to cheer up and start over.
Extended reading:
"Mom Ticks" and "Mom Becomes a Ghost"
Twain: Tao Luxiao Twain: Reliance/Bell Publishing Company.
Lack of self-confidence, easy anxiety, physical and mental fatigue, the other half is not around … not afraid! The power of mother's picture book 3. If you are an anxious mother, recommend a picture book: "Into the Garden of Life" text: Tilly ● Lenan, picture: Olivier Tarek/Mickey Barker.
The landlord of Seal mentioned in his book Picture Book Education Map: Selected Children's Picture Books 180 that some parents are worried that their children will go to the world and let them find their own answers in the world. Then, they might as well look at the picture book "Into the Garden of Life", which imagines the possibility of their children coming into this world from another angle.
Children are not blank sheets of paper. They have their own innate temperament, innate ability and even a sense of mission. The author of "Into the Garden of Life" looks at children from the perspective of life philosophy in the new era.
The child sat on his island, watching the world and thinking.
The child witnessed the famine.
He thought, we should catch the clouds with ropes and let the rain irrigate the desert.
There is a river with water and milk to be dug.
The child saw the sadness.
He thinks he should learn to add, subtract, multiply and divide,
You should learn to share money, bread, air and land with others.
The child saw the sea.
He believes that the ocean should be purified,
Then sit in front of the sea and dream freely. ...
This is the last time the child sees the world on his island.
Then he decided ...
The ending of this picture book is really unexpected! I was deeply moved after reading it myself. Many adults are disappointed and worried about their children's growth. Perhaps in the child's mind, he will have his own ideas, more creative, more courageous and even stronger than adults! However, this kind of courage will inevitably infect September deeply, giving birth to a child and treating the child as a precious mother.
After reading it, I really realized what the landlord said. He hopes that the ending of this picture book will not be written, because it will reveal the most crucial secret of this story. He said that if he were asked to list the most important things that can affect a child's (or your child's) life, he would definitely include this book, so readers should read it themselves.
Recommended picture book: "When I Eat Lamian Noodles ..." Twain: Yoshifumi/Liu Yuan
The picture book When I Eat Lamian Noodles tells that people in different places are doing different things or meeting different things at the same time in the world. The seal landlord shared it with us. Once he shared this picture book in his speech, and one of his mothers gave him impressive feedback.
The mother said that she was a picture book lover before she had children, so she often bought picture books for her own liking, not for her children. She bought this book at first because she liked the book written by Yoshishi Tanigawa, a graphic art parent of picture books.
Once at home, she read this book to her 4-year-old son until the end: "When the country next door is pulling cows, girls in further countries are selling bread. When a girl from a farther country was selling bread, a boy from a country far away in the mountains fell down ... "Unexpectedly, her 4-year-old son suddenly burst out laughing when he heard this and pointed to the boy who fell on the book and said," Ha ha ha, a dog fell and ate shit! Mother was very angry at that time. She felt that her child had no empathy and was too angry to study any more. She closed the book at once and put it away.
After a while, she took her son out to eat, which happened to be eating Lamian Noodles in Lamian Noodles's shop that day. Suddenly, her son said to his mother with a very firm attitude, "Mom! I will eat all Lamian Noodles today! The mother was shocked by her son's sudden attitude and words and asked her son, "Why? The son replied, "Because the last time I ate Lamian Noodles, you said" ... "I feel sorry for the little boy who fell on a hill in another country and had nothing to eat! Mom said suddenly she was really touched. She almost forgot that she had read this picture book before, only to find that children are such wonderful creatures. Many times, we don't know when something has actually entered the child's heart silently. These things may not be deliberately explained or taught by parents.