The finale of "This is the First Time in My Life", a 3 V 3 HE without any suspense!

Let’s briefly talk about the plot of the whole drama.

At first glance, it seems to be the same as last year's "Escape is Shameful but Useful" by Gakki next door. The male protagonists are both programmers' settings. The male and female protagonists were originally strangers. They hit it off and got married by contract. "stem.

However, the Korean version seems to be more advanced than the Japanese drama, and the screenwriter has a better story than the Japanese version.

The Japanese version focuses on emphasizing women’s awareness of independence and society’s misunderstanding of the value of housewives; the Korean version only talks about one thing: marriage.

What is marriage? Who to marry? Under what circumstances do you get married? Are all marriages the same? Can a marriage be happy without love?

Of course, behind the main line of marriage, the screenwriter also intersperses the dream of every young man who has left his hometown and has no property.

Today, Lao Chong will talk about this drama from the perspective of marriage and love.

The circle of "This is the First Time in My Life" is so small that the last husband of three high school best friends turned out to be programmers from the same company.

Female 1 Yoon Ji-ho, a top graduate from Seoul National University, chose to work as an assistant screenwriter for a difficult screenwriter for 5 years because of her love of writing. However, she later chose to resign because she was almost sexually assaulted by the director's assistant. Went to work odd job in a coffee shop.

The heroine is a very crazy person. In order to get rid of the fate planned by her father that "girls can only study as teachers", she secretly changed her choice and went to Seoul National University; in order to save rent and survive, she also She chose to have a "contract marriage" with her landlord Nan Shixi.

Yin Zhihao, who has lived in Seoul for ten years, gradually realized a truth: he will not be much better in ten years than he was ten years ago.

Zhihao’s landlord, the male protagonist Nan Sexi, is the chief designer of an app company. He seems to be a dull and indifferent man, but in fact he chooses to live alone because of the pain in the past. In Fang Yimao's life, marriage is not in his plan. "Marrying" the heroine is just to find a compatible roommate in the name of marriage to relieve the pressure of loan repayment.

Female 2 Suzy is an agent of a large company. She lives under the pressure of performance and sexual harassment from her boss every day. She does not wear underwear and smokes, which is her small resistance to the fucked up life.

Compared with the gentle Zhihao, Suzy is aloof like a strong woman. She has a cold face and an aura of keeping strangers away. Every minute she feels like a black boss woman. , looking from a distance, you would think that she does not need love, money is her destiny.

The male 2 horse representative is completely opposite to Suzy. He is obviously the CEO of the app company, but in front of Suzy, he behaves like a little white rabbit, and he also likes to cry. He will cry when he is touched, and he will cry when he is abused. He has been trying his best to melt Xiuzhi's cold and closed heart.

When Suzy was bullied, she would rather mess up her investment; Suzy hid her secrets, but he walked forward fearlessly and told Suzy that she was not alone; when he thought Suzy was screwing, he said frankly , this world is not what Suzy thinks.

The love represented by the horse is obtained entirely through one's own bravery.

Female 3 Haorang, the head waiter in the restaurant, compared with the single mother-to-be Zhihao and the veteran driver Suzy, Haorang's love is single-minded and long-lasting. A 7-year relationship was also a 7-year period of personally training my boyfriend.

Haorang is the representative of pink. Her dream is not like Suzy, which is to be a strong woman and have her own career. She just hopes that she can become a good wife and mother and live an ordinary life with the person she loves. A lifetime, but in the face of reality, these are very luxurious for her and her boyfriend, so luxurious that the two of them will break up because of when to get married.

Male 3 Yuan Xi is a persistent app entrepreneur, but he has never been able to find investors. His biggest asset after graduation is Haolang.

Yuan Xi was successful at a young age, but still had a failed career in middle age. He loved Hao Lang, but could not give Hao Lang a good life. Marriage was pressure, burden, and fear for him. He hoped that he could have more time, Hao Lang How about waiting for him, maybe dating for another 5 years?

After 12 years of dating and then getting married, this is Won Seok.

Three men and three women, six attitudes, three kinds of love.

The first couple is pragmatic, and you can get married without love; the second couple is about carpe diem, don’t get married, just be happy; the third couple is the conventional route, looking forward to a normal love like Bi people. Get married, have children, and live an ordinary life.

When the 14th episode was aired, the barrage began to have disagreements, that is, after Haorang and Yuanxi broke up, should they get back together?

Judging from the finale, the screenwriter gave the composite card, which is also in line with the screenwriter’s logic from beginning to end.

The screenwriter laid down a clue a long time ago. Ma represents the company's app - only falling in love and not getting married. Personal data such as class, interests, and hobbies are automatically matched through the backend system to help you find someone. The "other person" of the opposite sex, that is, the person you meet, meets you because the conditions in all aspects are very suitable.

But Haorang and Yuanxi did not choose to be together based on numerical matching. The two met in college and have been in love for seven years.

In seven years, Yuan Xi’s career was in shambles, and he finally had to join Representative Ma’s company to work as a programmer; Hao Lang had been waiting for marriage since he fell in love, thinking that he would get married if he proposed, but he didn’t wait What happened was that Won Seok wanted Haorang to wait another five years...

In the face of reality, love is not worth money and time, so they broke up!

Is it a pity? not at all.

After the breakup, Hao Lang met a man on the app because of fate. He matched Hao Lang in every aspect, a warm-hearted and considerate person; Yuan Xi also discovered the company's only female programmer Pumei. There is also an unknown side.

In fact, the speed-dating team they formed after they broke up seemed to Lao Chong to be a harmonious couple, and he didn’t want them to get back together at all.

But these were all defeated by Sesame.

Four people, new and old, were dining at the same table. Hao Lang’s new accountant man wanted to add sesame seeds to her dishes, but Yuan Xi stopped him and was told: "Hao Lang doesn’t eat sesame seeds." = "I know her better than you do."

It is at this point that the screenwriter puts Hao Lang and Yuan Xi on the road to reconciliation.

To be honest, this joke is really bad. Yuan Xi and Hao Lang have been dating for 7 years. It is normal for him to be familiar with Hao Lang’s taste and habits. The accountant man just had a meal once, so I don’t know. Haolang's behavior is also normal.

Just because of this small detail, it proves that the love between two people, emmm, is powerless and unreasonable.

And why did Lao Chong say it was inappropriate for them to get back together?

Yuan Xi is a person who doesn’t have much responsibility. When he and Hao Lang are together, the two of them are just kids playing house. No one is more mature than the other. What Hao Lang wants is a sense of security, stability, and a family that he can rely on. ; What Yuan Xi needs is someone who can comfort his injured heart anytime and anywhere, and encourage and support him to stick to his dream.

Two people who are both demanding types, when they are together, they completely take away all the energy from each other.

On the contrary, a gentle and willing accountant man is more suitable for Haorang. She can act coquettishly, dream of her princess, and become a good wife and mother; while Yuanxi's entrepreneurial dream also requires Boomei's decisiveness People who constantly scold him wake him up, so that he can see the reality clearly as soon as possible and grow up quickly.

Between a matching love and a suitable lover, who to choose is a question for the screenwriter.

Starting from episode 15, the barrage style suddenly changed again, and it was dominated by "bad endings" and "female protagonists".

This starts from the end of episode 14. The plot is reversed. It changed from the previous sweetness. Nam Se-hee, who was originally going to confess to Zhihao, did not say it, but fell in love with Nam Se-hee completely. Yoon Ji-ho decided to terminate the contract and leave Nam Se-hee.

Obviously in love, but not together, this is the unfinished logic mentioned by the barrage.

However, Lao Chong does not agree with the bad ending. Yin Zhihao is not a liar, she is deeply in love, so she must be cautious.

She was deeply in love with Nam Se-hee and rejected the screenwriting invitation from Nam Se-hee's ex-girlfriend's company on the grounds that she could not handle this complicated relationship. This was her honesty.

Yin Zhihao’s decision to terminate the contract is not hypocritical, but brave.

Yin Zhihao's dream has never been to be a screenwriter, it is just something she likes. Her dream is: love, meeting a person of destiny.

Who is that person? Nan Shixi.

So Yin Zhihao would tell her mother-in-law that marriage is not sacred to her, love is.

And this sentence also coincides with the character of Yoon Ji-ho who initially agreed to sign a "contract marriage" with Nam Se-hee. Two strangers who had no relationship chose to get married for the sake of their livelihood. The best choice in life, where does the sanctity and grievance come from? Everything can be measured by money. For example, taking a bus is cheaper than taking a taxi, renting a wedding dress is more cost-effective than buying a wedding dress, and the cost of the wedding is shared evenly...

But everything changed from the moment she fell in love with Nan Shixi.

"Room 19" is told in episode 14. The housewife in the novel longs for a small room where she cannot be discovered by others, not even her husband. There is a real her in that room, so she will In order to keep that room, he did not hesitate to say that he was cheating.

Nan Shixi also has "Room 19". That room started when his ex-girlfriend had a miscarriage, left, and gave him a book that said you are not worthy of loving anyone anymore.

It was this sentence that made Nan Shixi stay away from love and live a life of one person, one room and one cat. Whenever he wanted to love or express his feelings, there would be a voice in his ears. While repeating "You don't deserve it".

Yin Zhihao broke into Nan Shixi's room 19 due to an accident.

I wanted to borrow a novel, but I didn’t expect that it happened to be the one given by Nan Shixi’s ex-girlfriend, so I naturally found out about the existence of my ex-girlfriend and that marriage was not the first priority for Nan Shixi. This time, she learned about Nan Shixi's past, but she only knew this, and Nan Shixi never mentioned it to her.

Everyone needs room 19, a small space to breathe, a place where the true self is hidden.

However, in the final ending of "Room 19", the husband still discovered the room.

From another perspective, what is Room 19 like in marriage?

According to the settings set by the screenwriter, different families, couples, and individuals have different boundaries for Room 19. It can be exclusive or shared by both husband and wife.

From another perspective, rather than saying that Room 19 is a refuge for breathing and breathing, it is better to say that it is a time room that returns to the beginning and makes the heart beat.

In this room, the couple will see the best of each other and the best of themselves. Every loving memory diluted by trivial matters can be retrieved in this room. The husband discovered that his wife was not a nagging yellow-faced woman; the wife was shocked to realize that her husband was not a greasy middle-aged man who had accomplished nothing...

Room 19 locked time, kept the certificate of love, and was a long marriage. The supply station on the road tells every couple how much you loved each other, why you chose him/her in the first place, and that you can do it no matter how difficult it is in the future...

And for couples who are passionately in love, Room 19 is about honesty and trust in each other.

So, when Representative Ma bumped into Suzy’s room 19 where her lame mother was hiding, Suzy yelled at Representative Ma crazily. She felt that Representative Ma had broken into her restricted area because that was where Her own secret.

But the crybaby horse represents a very manly man. Instead of running away, he chose to go up and face Suzy together.

The screenwriter uses the pair of Suzy and Ma to convey to the pair of Nam Se-hee and Yoon Ji-ho: Room 19 is, if you are tired, I will carry it; if you are unhappy, Please tell me; I am not someone else, I am someone who can cry with you, laugh with you, and be someone you can rely on.

Zhihao envied Room 19 like this. She envied Representative Ma. As Nam Se-hee’s best friend, he had seen Nam Se-hee drunk, swearing, and crying.

But Yin Zhihao has never seen it once. In front of her, the door of Nan Shixi's room 19 has never been opened.

Therefore, Yin Zhihao’s departure was not pretentious, but because he wanted Nan Shixi to be able to get rid of the feelings drawn by his ex-girlfriend and pursue Zhihao bravely, and express it, just like he did to his father. The years of resentment between father and son were revealed.

A year later, Nam Se-hee got angry at Yoon Ji-ho for not contacting her. That was what Yoon Ji-ho wanted, love!

The screenwriter of "The First Time in This Life" should be a person with a lot of stories, and she has a very thorough view of marriage and love. What is even more brilliant is that she has always used the values ????that we agree with to overturn it. us.

When Yoon Ji-ho and Nam Se-hee decided to sign the contract, Yoon Ji-ho’s lines: Marriage is not needed for me for the time being.

As for Nan Shixi’s model of being alone with people, houses, and cats, most people can’t agree more. Compared with the trouble of two people getting along, the model of landlord and tenant is more practical and fixed every month. With the rent income, there are people to share the garbage sorting, and the cats are no longer afraid of going hungry.

A marriage that does not require love is the best annotation of a good marriage.

However, marriage is never a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. From the moment they met their parents, Nan Shixi and Yin Zhihao knew that the matter was not simple.

In order to get consent, they have to say nonsense like "we are not together" and "we are together because of love".

At the wedding, Yin Zhihao’s mother’s words to her son-in-law made people cry, but Nan Shixi’s words of comfort were cleverly responded to: because it was a contract marriage, he had no more responsibilities. The only thing he can do is not to become a tie-up to Yin Zhihao.

In other words, within the term of the contract, when the tenant Yin Zhihao unilaterally decides to terminate the contract, he will only agree and will not retain it. This happened in episode 15.

The married life of Yoon Ji-ho and Nam Se-hee started with "us". Because of the wedding, they gave each other the illusion that the contract marriage was a real marriage, and the role positioning was deviated, which also made the two people's The relationship breaks down, and the writers keep reminding viewers that they don't know each other that well, that they are just a fake marriage, and that they are nothing more than a landlord-tenant relationship.

However, after the "Funan Incident", the relationship between the two people changed subtly-both began to care for each other.

Real family life also tells two people that getting married is not as simple as they thought.

The heroine will be called back by her mother-in-law to work for free, but the hero blames the heroine. Why should she go when she can clearly refuse? The angry female protagonist, in order to let the male protagonist understand the feeling of being unable to refuse because they are family members, did not ask the male protagonist to make financial compensation, but instead asked him to go to the female protagonist's house to make kimchi in reciprocal terms.

Therefore, when the female protagonist scolded the male protagonist for why she did what she did, the male protagonist also understood the female protagonist’s previous grievances and inability to refuse.

In the end, the two people confirmed their feelings for each other - their ex-girlfriend appeared - and they got divorced. This is what happened later.

A marriage that started without love ended in divorce with love.

The screenwriter seems to be saying, look, this is the contract marriage that you agreed with at the beginning, a relationship without any emotions, but in fact there are too many people involved in this relationship, family members, Friends, and myself, once we get into true love, we find that we want more, more...

So, when other idol dramas are talking about love and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dramas are talking about marriage, "This Life Is" "The First Time" is like a transitional drama.

Marriage - love - marriage does not seem to be a linear progressive relationship, but a circular cycle, but the most important thing is that it will happen and continue because of love.

We are all born for the first time in this life. Please give us your guidance for the rest of our lives!