Share successful cases of educating children 1 When my daughter was 8 years old, I asked her to manage a sum of 6,000 yuan? Huge sum?
Every new year, children will receive a lot of lucky money. When the daughter has no concept of money, she will already vaguely feel that it seems uneconomical to give all the money to her mother, but it is impossible to keep it all for herself.
What our family made was that when she was 3 years old, we made a hand-painted family passbook together. After she received the money, she saved it one by one. We will tell her that if the money is not spent for a while, it will generate interest. So, she is right? Interest? Formed a shallow concept. A relative gave her some foreign currency, so we went online with her to see how much RMB the money could be exchanged for. Exchange rate? Tell her this concept.
Then we will guide her, since these are all your money, you have the right to control it, but you need to discuss with your parents where to spend it.
When she was 8 years old, I tried to get her to manage 6000 yuan? Huge sum? The budget for our mother and daughter to travel to Beijing. At first, she felt that she was a millionaire. But she looked up a circle of information on the internet and came to tell me that we were going on a poor trip.
She analyzed that if we had a simple lunch in one day, we could take a taxi. If you want a good meal, you must take the subway. She will also tell me which scenic spot to go after four o'clock in the afternoon, because the tickets will be half price.
When she went abroad to study in junior high school, we also made an annual plan with her. The monthly pocket money can be adjusted and controlled by yourself. In addition, we have set up some special funds, such as special tourism projects. Some special projects have no names. She can decide where to spend them, but she must apply to her parents in advance.
Now that she is about to enter the university, we have also agreed on a plan together. According to the financial analysis list provided by the school website, we take the average of each expenditure item and calculate the total amount for her, but the specific distribution can be decided by her.
As you can see, with the growth of age, this box is slowly expanding. We not only gave her free space, but also guided her.
Share successful cases of educating children II. Cultivate the awareness of rules from the time children go out to play.
Parents should make a rule with their children in this matter.
For example, in primary school, when you go out to attend class reunion and other activities, your parents must pick you up at any time; Junior high school can only participate in activities at lunch and tea time, and must go home at dinner time; In high school, the time limit can be relaxed and you can come back before 9 pm. After entering the university, children become adults and are no longer restricted by these rules.
When you communicate this matter with your child, he will feel that it is a very fair thing. This not only established his sense of rules, but also made him? Look ahead? Understand and look to the future. There is a lot of learning to draw this box well. Here, it is very important to give parents a suggestion: once you observe your child's hobbies, don't directly suppress them even if you don't agree with them. Because, maybe the final result will surprise you!
My daughter loves to dress up since she was a child. She can stay alone in front of the mirror for a long time. When she had only tens of dollars of pocket money a month, she began to buy expensive fashion magazines. Maybe conservative parents will suppress this hobby, but we chose not to interfere.
As a result, I was particularly moved that in the year when she went abroad to study, she gave me 30 sets of clothes, from coats to scarves to bags. Each set was posed on the bed and photographed, and finally printed and posted on my closet door. She wants her mother to sleep a little longer every morning, without worrying about the matching of clothes, and she can guarantee that she will not dress again for a month. Now my daughter is probably the most fashionable among schoolmasters and the best among fashionable girls.
Contradiction may be a good opportunity for communication.
One summer vacation, my daughter went to an internship in a foreign-funded pharmaceutical company. At the end of the internship, the company wants to invite her back to open an internship forum. My daughter said that the company was too far away from home to go, but she felt that the company was good to herself. She didn't know how to refuse and began to sulk at home.
Ordinary parents will definitely find their children's performance inexplicable. However, you should try to see the essence through the phenomenon. After analysis, in fact, she wants to go, but she is a competitive person. She thinks that other interns are college students and will perform better than her, so she is worried.
I found her psychology, I didn't find it directly, I just gave her an idea. I might as well make a video to express my thoughts. On the one hand, it can be modified continuously during recording, and at the same time it shows courtesy and respect. As a result, after receiving this video, the company wrote her a long letter to express her gratitude, and she was very happy.
Therefore, in the event of conflict, parents should see the root of their children's troubles, but not find them, but help them find ways together. This is a key in parent-child interaction. But only if you know your children!
Understand your child's advice 1 and spend quality time with your child.
When you are with your child, if you just stare at his homework, you will nag him about how good other children are. This kind of communication has no quality. When he really needs your help, you will be at a loss. Recently, I received a parent, and her communication with her children was blocked because she felt that she should insist on the dignity of being a parent. I told this parent that the consequences could be serious. Because once the child has a problem, you won't find it the first time, and he won't tell you the first time. When you find out, it will be a big deal, and you can't handle it.
Therefore, for parents, it is necessary to leave a communication door between you and your child. Communicate with quality more, usually there are not so many principles of right and wrong.
2, might as well * * the establishment of some family plans.
The way I often take is to take my daughter to travel. In this process, don't look at your mobile phone all the time, or drag your children around chasing scenic spots. But to plan the itinerary, budget and take beautiful photos with him, so that he can fully participate. In this process, I believe you will find the same topic.
In addition, children can also participate in some family projects, such as family gatherings in the New Year, and can discuss with him. Now that there is a party at home, my daughter will make an illustrated WeChat and make a registration form in the background, which is responsible for counting the attendance list. She will also arrange the seats herself and spend a lot of time designing and making them. Sometimes she can spend more than half an hour decorating a Sika. At this time, don't interfere with her, because she is doing her own work.
3. Seek the balance between parents and children.
I used to take her to Shanghai Book City to read and buy books on weekends. At first, her reading taste was unacceptable to me. I wanted her to read famous books, so she plunged into comic books. If I force her to read famous books simply and rudely, it may disgust her. If she is left alone, there will be no guidance.
So, I made an agreement with her: as long as you are willing to go to the bookstore with your mother to buy books, you choose two books and I choose 1 book. We will buy them home together and share and communicate with each other after reading them.
At the beginning of the implementation of this plan, I read many books such as cross-network novels. Although I feel bored, I will keep reading, so that I can have the same topic with her. Slowly, she also began to read the books I recommended to her, and her interest in reading began to change.
So, when there is a contradiction, don't let the line between you break. Take care of it first, there will always be a turn for the better. Until now, we have some different plans and ideas, and we will compromise each other and find a balance point.
4. Children's mistakes are the best communication opportunities.
I communicated with a parent two days ago. Her child made a mistake at school, and her parents were sitting in my office, very depressed. But I told her, you know what? Now this is a great opportunity for you to get closer to each other.
A child will feel a little guilty when he knows that he has made a mistake. Communication at this time is actually very effective. But at this moment, many parents are either furious or depressed and crying. In fact, it is not desirable.
At this time, if you hit him, he may feel that he has already taken the consequences, and this matter is over. If you cry and show weakness, children may feel sorry for you and feel guilty for a while, but it is not a long-term solution.
What you need is to give your child some positive incentives, set goals for him, make parents promise to help him, and make children promise to make corresponding efforts.