Author＼Dr. Selena

The well-known host Yu Meiren has always been a happy and good wife and good mother in the public mind, but after her marriage changed a few years ago?, ? There were great challenges because she ended a fifteen-year marriage. Because for a long time, the image of Yu Meiren in front of the screen has always been full of wisdom and confidence, even a little aggressive, as if nothing in this world can trouble her, but once she faces the most vulnerable marital problem for women: marital change On this occasion, she completely broke down and burst into tears in front of the camera for the first time, revealing her inner fragility and completely disintegrating her long-standing image of a strong woman in front of the screen. It turns out that no matter how powerful the beauty is, it is just a wrapper. A heart that has already been scarred in marriage.

After the marriage change, Yu Meiren originally thought that jumping off the cliff (divorce) would lead to an abyss, but it turned out to be a great journey (laughing). She told the media that after the two separate, it is really better for us to live our own suitable lives than to be together reluctantly. In fact, there was a rift between me and my ex-husband very early on. Our personalities, values, etc. are all very different. He is a cautious person who does everything within limits; she herself is a conflict person who does things first and enjoys them first. Her ex-husband has been thinking about the same thing for two weeks and has not yet come to a conclusion, but Yu Meiren may have finished it in two days. When two people with such huge differences get along, Yu Meiren herself is in pain, and her ex-husband is also in pain.

Yu Meiren said that her marriage seems to be like a dark tunnel. Although there may be light at the end, she doesn’t know how long it will take. It wasn't until the tunnel collapsed one day that you finally saw the light. Even though you were bruised and bruised by the gravel, the exhausted person still had the strength to smile and look at the sun. In addition, every girl must learn to slow down her pace and develop a sense of rhythm that is comfortable for others or herself. In this way, no matter what love state you are in now, you will cultivate a sense of rhythm that makes you comfortable and contented. This is definitely the key mentality that makes every love and marriage happier. Finally faced with a marriage that has been unhappy for a long time?, ?Rather than being stuck in it and not letting go?, ?Sometimes bravely letting go is the best happiness, right? Now let us learn ten courageous turns given to girls by Yu Meiren!

The first courage to turn around:

Marriage only has good or bad endings, there is no right or wrong. But if there's a right or a wrong, that's my problem. It's that I can't be the perfect other half in his heart.

The second courage to turn around:

The end is his beginning. It’s also the time when I take off my wetsuit and let the real me come up. I am very grateful to him and wish him well.

The third courage to turn around:

There is no so-called success or failure in marriage, it is an eternal process. It's always changing. Don't lose your depth for the sake of other people's superficial perspective.

The fourth courage to turn around bravely:

Those who truly dare are those who have gone through the entire journey of life. Whether they are divorced or not is just a different path. People who don't divorce are actually choosing a more difficult path.

The fifth courage to turn around:

When all the conditions in the marriage become obstacles and tensions, it is time to let go.

The sixth courage to turn around:

If you are afraid of divorce because you are worried that you will not be able to bear the loneliness, I want to tell you that the loneliness of two people is more serious than the loneliness of one person. horrible.

The seventh courage to turn around:

When a marriage is not satisfactory, you will inevitably think of "Should I get a divorce?" as one of the options to solve the problem. But I want to tell you, if you are not sure whether you want a divorce now, I would advise you not to divorce, because you will not be able to divorce and will not be able to divorce. Divorce is a matter of no doubt, and you must have the determination to retreat and have no way out.

The eighth courage to turn around:

If you are still hesitant, it means the time has not come yet. If in your marriage you feel like you can't breathe anymore and will suffocate if you don't come to the surface, then maybe the time has come.

The ninth courage to turn around:

The emptiness, loneliness and helplessness after divorce often give rise to many thoughts. You will imagine some support, thinking that others will give you You rely on it, but no, you must first imagine yourself in peace, and slowly you will calm down and feel that you are full of opportunities and full of new power.

The tenth courage to turn around bravely:

As long as you believe, no matter how many thorns there are on the road, the blood you have shed, and the injuries you have walked through, you will be healed one day; bless you once If you are injured or still healing, you can bravely welcome your new life.

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