American Nathaniel Breeden said that sex life is an expression of love, which strongly expresses our love for life, ourselves and couples.

After middle age, why do women's married life become less and less?

In fact, many times, for middle-aged people, husband and wife life is a watershed to test the quality of marriage.

If it is not handled well, the couple will lose trust, and the marriage will become a stagnant pool, and even eventually separate. If handled well, marriage will revive and life will gradually get better.

Four middle-aged women expressed their thoughts.

Ms. Zhang, a full-time wife, is 46 years old and lives in Sichuan.

My husband and I are free to fall in love and get married, and our feelings are better. He is a very capable person in his career. Therefore, since I became pregnant, I have resigned and stayed at home to give birth.

After giving birth, my physical fitness is much worse than before. When faced with the choice of children, family and career, I am very entangled. Later, he directly suggested that I be a full-time housewife at home. Considering his income is not bad, I also thought that children were more important a few years ago, so I agreed.

He is very busy at work and often has to work overtime. When children are young, their careers are also the busiest time. It is often after I have slept with my child that I can see him dragging his tired body back. Afraid of disturbing our mother and daughter, he went to sleep in the next room. It is very hard for a person to take care of children, and these hardships can only be borne by themselves. Compared with his work, it is also very important for me to do a good job in logistics support, otherwise I don't seem to know how to think of him.

He is a qualified husband and a qualified father. He devoted himself to his children and his family. When the child was three months old, I was thinking, when the child is old and the career is stable, it will be fine to get through it slowly. But the child went to kindergarten, and I found that I still didn't go to school. There are fewer and fewer words between us, and he is devoted to his career, saying that it is to give me and my children a better future.

Feelings are still there. He cares about my life and my children's life every day, but I think this concern is cold and without temperature. We haven't even had a fight for so many years. I don't know whether this relationship is good or bad.

I seem to be used to this mode of getting along. He is busy with work, and I am busy with children and life. I am a couple who have no intersection.

Ms. Huang, a retired teacher, is 56 years old and lives in Hangzhou.

"You and I have no chance, everything is for the children."

"I used my life to prove a sentence: different ways do not seek common cause. In the words of you young people, there is no need for strong integration because of different circles, "Ms. Huang said. "

As the saying goes, lovers talk more, which also applies to feelings.

If my marriage with Lao Wu is a matchmaker between my parents, there is no such thing as love. I got married early then. In our time, I was an old maid before I got married at the age of 24. When I just turned 20, my family married me off early. 36 years, I've been with him for 36 years, and I've been arguing for 36 years.

He was an electric welder in the factory, and craftsmen were very popular in those days. My parents just took a fancy to his craftsmanship. My parents also chanted: Look at our time, where we paid attention to what love was, it was introduced, and we almost got married, which delayed us critically. So my marriage was arranged by my parents. In fact, I am not bad myself, teaching Chinese in experimental middle school. I like poetry and songs, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. How is he? He has no culture. He is a clown. He drinks and chats with people in the factory as soon as he has a rest.

I don't like him being with a group of friends all day. He said I shouldn't wear strange clothes at school. I hate that he stinks and goes to bed without taking a shower. He said I was poor and picky, so I basically slept in separate beds when I was a child. It's too difficult to live with a person with different views.

If I were you, I would have divorced him. At that time, there were few divorces, and parents had to be taken care of.

Ms. Sun, 50 years old, head nurse, coordinates Zhengzhou.

"I have always had a knot in my heart that I can never untie."

This knot has been buried in my heart for almost 20 years, and I will never forget that night. Around 2000, I was still a nurse. I often had to work at night, and my work was very busy. At that time, he was already the director of a department. In addition to sitting and consulting, the rest of the time is studying abroad.

I never thought that he would cheat. We work in the same system and usually talk about many topics. Every year during the annual leave, we will set a time to take our son out for a trip. At that time, I felt very happy, with a loving husband, a lovely son and a decent job.

After the incident, he knelt in front of me and confessed that he had just drunk and done something out of line, begging me to forgive him for my son's sake and not to report him to the unit for the sake of my husband and wife for many years. He hugged me and cried all night.

That night, I thought a lot. Children are my weakness. I don't want my children to have no parents. I just wronged myself.

I have a diaphragm heart. I don't want to sleep in the same bed with this man anymore. I feel sick.

Not all women can leave resolutely and never forgive their husbands' betrayal.

After all, I have paid so much and invested so much. With children, no one wants to give up like this.

Ms. Liu, 46 years old, married 10 years, in Wuhan.

My husband and I are both married for the second time. He took his son, and my son was awarded to his ex-husband.

Are you asking me about the happiness of my second marriage? When I answered ten years later, I gnashed my teeth and swallowed blood. The pain in my heart is buried deep in my heart. When I talked about my second marriage, I was scarred. I thought I had escaped, but I didn't expect to jump into another fire pit.

I remarried him for ten years. My colleague introduced me to him. When I first met him, all kinds of attentions. Basically, I go to my unit three or four times a week, but I can't resist his tenderness. I decided not to remarry, but I went to the thief boat for his sweet words.

When I first fell in love with him, I got along well with his son. At that time, we met once every ten and a half days and had dinner together. The little boy is also very polite. At that time, I thought it would be good to give a son for nothing.

Married, I take him to and from school when I have time, buy him clothes, gifts and toys, and often take him out to play. Later, I was pregnant with a second child and didn't have so much energy to take care of him. Coupled with the instigation of his ex-wife, the relationship with his son is getting worse and worse.

After the birth of her daughter, her ex-wife often said to her son, "Your stepmother has a little sister, and your father doesn't like you. It was your little brother who took away all your love. "

Mixed in such a complicated family relationship, our feelings are almost gone, and wars break out again and again. Neither of us can balance this relationship. The more you look at each other, the less pleasing to the eye, and the more contradictions accumulate. It has reached the point of starting a quarrel. If we don't have a second child, I may divorce him and never want to get married again.

A second marriage is like mending a broken glass bottle. If you are not careful, you will hurt yourself.

Write it at the end

Good feelings, always have a common language, love each other, hand in hand to the end of life.

In a loveless marriage, we are barely together, and each other is suffering, inseparable.

Many things have changed unexpectedly when people reach middle age. The person who once loved may not be the person he used to be, and he is tired of watching it and getting more and more unhappy. I want you to go home early, but you just won't. How can such a relationship not go wrong?

Eat color also! Husband and wife's life is the spice of feelings and the bond to maintain marriage. It's not that middle-aged women don't want to live as husband and wife, but that husbands force themselves to do so.

Sometimes life seems to be a lack of husband and wife life, but in fact it may be a lack of expression of love.

Mr. Mu Xin said, "Impotence is a small matter, but love is a big thing."

May all men be kind to their wives and take care of their families.

May all women have sex and love.

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