Reading Desire and Sex —— Thoughts on Pandora Uncursed

Have you seen Polly? Jane Eysendra's Gender and Desire —— Pando is not cursed

After the book La, I was very inspired and learned that many modern women refused to eat or drink.

Self-control vomiting, laxative abuse, excessive exercise, torture themselves to the skin and bones, they

Desire to be thin and slim, which is the most beautiful and attractive in their consciousness.

People's attention is the same, and some women can continue plastic surgery.

Breast augmentation surgery, compulsive shopping demand, they unconsciously met what they called.

Beautiful, so why do they have such crazy behavior? What is thought?

Support the spread of their behavior? I want to talk about Polly? Yang ai

Zhuo Sen's views on these issues.

First, the object of desire

Yang? Before answering these questions, Dr. Eisendra first understands desire.

She quoted Lacan's theory that desire is a kind of knowledge.

A desire for something that brings happiness or satisfaction. Desire is the lack of something.

Understanding is to confirm that something is comfortable, pleasant, exciting and satisfactory, and this one

Existence is lacking now, which leads to the pursuit of motivation. desire

It contains a feeling of lack of objects. These women, they identify themselves.

Because of their endless desires, they can't recognize themselves and their desires.

Don't. She thinks that if people are driven by desire and can't tell the essence of desire,

These people will become a group of evil spirits-their lives will become erratic,

Lack of foundation; The reason is that these people are always empty inside, and you will always chase after me.

Beg. These people unconsciously become prisoners of their own desires.

If those women don't realize their desires, because they put them

Project it on others, try to control others to meet your own needs, and you will

Unconsciously become a prisoner of your own desires. Don't know your wishes and needs

Begging, even if you don't know your own needs, will be obsessed with the desire to become others.

The object is infatuation with the desire to possess others. So, these women will never

I think she is the subject of my own desire, that is, the master of my behavior and feelings, but I think self-awareness

I am controlled by the desires and needs of others. These women's desires (usually nothing)

Conscious, hidden) is to ask others to have desires and express their recognition and praise for you. this

How did this strange state come about? Jung believed that the ego in the human mind

Non-ego basic division; Subjectivity is embodied in self and non-self. waistband

Personality elements with "non-ego" nature are often unconsciously cast for a long time or temporarily.

Shoot other people. In infancy and infancy, this projection is bound to appear, and

It went on and on for a long time.

For various reasons, in the development track from infancy to adulthood,

At a certain stage, a person may feel that the impression he makes on others is very important.

Wonderful and indispensable; In contrast, for their own will or the Lord.

The physical experience may seem dull and dispensable. Therefore, individuals can

Unconsciously, it gradually narrowed the scope of self-complex, and tended to just follow parents or remain unchanged.

Age partners and other important people want to act and take positive impressions from others.

Be content. In this way, individuals only live according to the wishes of others.

But we can't realize our subjectivity and form a healthy sense of independence.

The ego complex is getting narrower and narrower, and finally even the consciousness of free will will disappear.

No trace. Individuals will believe that they are influenced by the beliefs, desires and needs of others.

Control, rather than believe that everyone can control their own desires and behaviors. Zainv

In the process of gender identity and women's self-development, the probability of this outcome is

Many times, individuals regard themselves as the object of desire, not the subject of desire.

To be sure, to some extent, we all want others to like us. this

This goal itself is very healthy, as long as it can lead to equality with others-both acceptance and acceptance.

Giving again-the development of the ability to love: love the first caregiver and then love the same person.

Companions and friends eventually love their partners and their children. Basically, Jane Eysen

Dr. Zhuo believes that people's motivation to become the object of desire is to get the affirmation of others.

The motivation of sexual images stems from a primitive need: to give love and feel oneself.

Our love is beautiful. For a variety of reasons, this normal demand may become a kind of.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder tendency, that is, hope to appear cute, interesting, valuable or attractive in the eyes of others.

Kid.

In our society, all the above changes are in the development of girls or adult women.

The process is quite ordinary. As mentioned above, young women sometimes lose confidence in themselves.

Desire (especially the desire of competition or sexual impulse), and blind pursuit.

Seek to be the object of others' desires. It should be that she became the object of others' desires.

Her own, but depressed because this fact is completely ignored, she will feel.

Being completely passive in a cage can only obey the wishes and needs of others. oneself

Every move in life seems to be dominated by people, not independent individuals.

Experience. In fact, at this time, it is subjective self-absence, just because

Projection looks as if someone is manipulating or containing it. Due to release

Giving up the autonomy of their own behavior, desires and needs, such people seem to lack self.

My complex. In fact, there is still some ego, but it is completely consumed in an illusory sum.

In a strong desire: I want to find my image in others. one

If a person lacks consciousness of his own desires, then the control of desire over her is unintentional.

Knowledge played a role. The early environment for promoting the initial formation of self-complex is

Good enough, children may still encounter self-development problems because of hope.

The normal desire to be cared for by others becomes too strong, which hinders the sense of autonomy.

The development of. Due to the confusion of self-consciousness, many unconscious beliefs and intentions are projected.

For others, the pursuit of being the object of others' desires has become the only goal of self.

So how women become the object of desire actually permeates us.

Pandora myth plays a normative role in cultural reality. Chinese mugwort

Dr. Sendero analyzed the Pandora myth.

Second, the role of Pandora myth

Long ago, there was no fire on the earth. People eat raw food, are afraid of the cold and live in the dark.

In the dark. The gods Prometheus and have mercy on mankind, regardless of the week of the Lord God.

Zeus's ban stole fire from Apollo, the sun god, and taught people how to use it.

Law. Zeus felt that it was against his will, so he came up with a poisonous plan. He was killed.

In Mars mythology, the god of war, who is good at sculpture, sculpted a woman and named her Pandora. Zeus

Giving Pandora life, the gods each gave her a gift to make her beautiful and smart.

Wisdom and sexual desire can attract human beings. Then Pandora gave Zeus to her.

A box, came to earth to perform a task. At that time, human beings were all men. For Pando,

Radu is curious. Prometheus and his brother stayed because they violated the dogma.

On earth. Prometheus guessed that Pandora's arrival was a conspiracy of Zeus, so he warned

People stay away from her. Everyone worships Prometheus and listens to his warnings. surname

Dora has been wandering around the world for many years, but she hasn't finished her task. See you later, Ipomoea.

Theseus finally couldn't help but forget his brother's words and was attracted by Pandora. When he relies on

Close to Pandora, Pandora opened the box, disease, disaster, sin, greed.

And so on, flying out of the box, from then on, human beings are no longer just happy. When you want to take something from the box

After flying out, Pandora closed the box forever, so people have been looking for it all their lives.

Hope.

Today we know that Pandora's box symbolizes the evil that people always want to escape.

Evil and disaster, while Pandora metaphor reckless and impulsive curiosity will bring great disaster.

Difficult. However, Dr. Jane Eisendra has a newer and more comprehensive view of Pandora's myth.

Yes, she thinks Pandora's story can help us understand the sufferings of contemporary women.

Understanding the physical beauty of women has become the mystery of commodities. The beauty of a woman seems to be

As the only legal resource for women; It is a social phenomenon that girls enter adulthood.

Open the only source of strength that gives her. People are obsessed with and pursue such women; she

Beautiful appearance, empty heart; Charming but not credible; look like

Zhou Zheng actually lacks a heart that a person should have. But many women also want to show off.

Get rid of Pandora's myth, but she will encounter another dilemma. She won't or won't.

Being able to play a virgin role that stimulates desire is tantamount to pretending to be an outsider, because

And it will be unacceptable to the whole female (and male) society. This is Yang? Eisen

The result of the psychological contradiction of "two-way fetters" proposed by Dr. Zhuo. It's like what we have

Just like "avoidance-avoidance conflict", neither situation is good, so we have to choose one.

The result of choosing "two-way fetters" is unacceptable to society. So take over.

Let's talk about how to solve the "two-way fetters" and how to get out of Pandora's myth.

Third, establish psychological space, get out of Pandora myth and transcend it.

Back to some questions mentioned at the beginning of our article, many women refuse to eat.

Force yourself to vomit, abuse laxatives, exercise excessively, and torture yourself to the skin and bones. he

Why are children so thin? Indeed, if each of us regards Pandora as God,

In the belief of maintaining life, everyone will be eager to be thin and slim. Similarly, the whole

Cosmetic surgery, breast augmentation and compulsive shopping demand can also get similar excuses.

The fundamental reason lies in our belief that female beauty is a myth of strength. If we want to put

Pandora's myth becomes a metaphor, and she walks out and looks on coldly.

Psychological significance, we should personally feel its two-way fetters and see that he is not present.

Reality, but just a false theory to explain reality.

Yang? Dr. Eisendra believes that psychotherapy can open a dialogue space.

Between, so that some kind of psychological impulse or conflict experience in popular mythology.

The way of representation can be presented, that is, it opens a transcendental psychological function or

Psychological activities. Once this dialogue space or psychological function is opened, the parties

It is possible to look at her experience of psychological conflict in a new way. complicated

The mythical reality always tries to avoid the exploration of them by our conscious function.

We make emotional adaptation behavior repeatedly, but we don't think about it.

Tracing back to the source, this is human nature. Now an existing myth is beginning to disintegrate.

After that, the topic of psychological development is to open a space of self-cognition and reveal

The connection between psychological experience and experience symbolization.

She thinks it is necessary to change deep-rooted beliefs such as truth and world outlook.

A solid unconscious tendency, people must first believe: people themselves feel used to it.

Self-image, self-worth and self-defense style are precisely the reasons for the previous interpersonal relationship.

The real reason for the relationship failure needs to be clarified. In psychotherapy, once the disease

When the form is solved, the parties will get a feeling of self-examination, an inner "emptiness"

Between "; It enables people to reflect on themselves and realize their subjective identity. This topic is empty.

Time provides a vision that enables us to look at ourselves from several different angles.

Faith, so as to become more critical and inquiry consciousness, less opinionated, more.

Don't be self-righteous. Through this transcendental function, we can understand that we are concerned about reality.

The perception of existence and truth depends on the angle and way we look at the world. We look at the world.

The way we treat things always has the color of our emotions and associations. if I ... ...

Children can realize that their likes and desires are largely generated from us.

Emotion and fantasy, we can begin to understand how to stop the correct judgment of desire.

Elephants and prisoners. Insight into the subjective factors in our perception will awaken us and make us

We know that desire is not purely caused by external stimuli; It turns out that we

You are the subject of desire. We will realize that our desires are subjective.

Yes We understand that the culprit who has brought us a lot of trouble is not others.

People are ourselves. The problem that bothers us turns out to be our self-inflicted heart.

Drama; It may be shocking to realize this, but it will also make people feel relieved and full of emotions.

Comfortable. Shockingly, I never thought that a single thought would make the sky uneasy.

Give birth to such right and wrong; What makes people feel comfortable is that when I look back, I suddenly realize that I just need to change myself.

Our attitude towards life and lifestyle will greatly change all aspects of our lives.

Have the ability to introspect their own desires, which are compulsive and impulsive.

Weakened, the autonomy of experience has been enhanced, and people's hearts have become more open-minded.

There are both right and left strategies.

Yang? Dr. Eisendra provides us modern women with a new perspective of thinking, which makes us

Those women walked out of Pandora's myth, perfected their self-complex and realized themselves better.

The development of lattice.