It is the nature of all mankind to like the new and hate the old. It is precisely because we like the new and hate the old that the wheels of new movies, new cultures, new products, new machines, new countries, new systems, new history and the new world era will roll forward. Since it is human nature to like the new and hate the old, and the society is developing with each passing day, how can a woman not be eliminated by the times and how can her husband not change his mind?
Article 1: We should strengthen our own quality and culture and keep pace with the times.
So as to keep pace with your husband or boyfriend. Great changes have taken place in modern men's values and family concepts. A silly, obedient girl who doesn't know what's going on in the world can't bind the heart of a strong man.
From ancient times to the present, I have never heard that a well-known dignified and refined family can get the exclusive favor of men, while those who make men want to die, such as Ji, Cixi, da ji, Li Shishi, Su Xiaoxiao, Sai Jinhua and so on. They are all smart and witty, proficient in chess, calligraphy and painting, and talented. Many opinion polls have found that men prefer and need smart, fashionable and intelligent partners. In modern society, taking children to cook and wash clothes is no longer a wife's job, but has long been replaced by nannies, kindergartens, high-end hotels and restaurants.
Rule 2: Be fully confident.
Men like confident women. Self-confidence can make a mediocre face shine. We should cultivate and protect our charm. Charm doesn't come from the face. I object to cutting my face with a knife or a gun. I don't think I will have plastic surgery. Nature and truth are the most beautiful. We just want to be careful to protect ourselves. It is possible to delay aging. My sister called me from France and told me that she wanted to have plastic surgery. I immediately told her categorically: "If you have plastic surgery, I will never like you again. I like you the way you are. The face is not important at all. "
Rule 3: Don't lose yourself in love.
This kind of woman is most likely to be abandoned by men. They pay the most and lose the most. If you give all of yourself as a gift to the other party, the other party will find it too easy to get and will put it aside without pity. Many of my male friends are divorced or have bad relationships with third parties, and my wife is not at fault. I asked them why. They said they didn't know either. After thinking for a long time, they answered me, maybe I didn't chase it!
Article 4: Give each other some freedom and enough space.
It is important for both husband and wife to keep a certain distance. If you strangle a person, he will hate you. Keep the other person fresh for you. If he hangs out with you all day, he will find it boring one day. Let him do his own thing. It's enough to be with you eight hours away or at night.
Article 5: Remember that marriage is only an obligation, not a right.
Never hurt a man's self-esteem, always give him face! Many women regard men as their private property after marriage. They always show their faces, slam tables, throw benches, or remain silent in anger. They leave before others, and so on. They often make a hullabaloo about, and disciplining their husbands in public places is not as gentle as women, and they look overbearing. At the beginning, the politeness and gentleness of falling in love disappeared, revealing its true colors. If you know that a man married you but didn't sell him to you, why are you angry with others? Everyone has face, especially men. If you don't give him face once in public, even if you are willing to cook for him a year later, it won't make up for it.
Even if you go home and argue with him, it's much better than arguing in front of people. However, it is best not to quarrel, especially for trivial matters. Some things are called the end, don't be unreasonable.
Article 6: Adapt to each other and don't try to change each other.
Remember not to talk. Stop being a bitch. Remember that no one is perfect. Your own rules are not perfect. Seeking common ground while reserving differences can get rid of nagging women's diseases that all men hate.
Article 7: Whoever leaves can live. Don't hang yourself from a tree.
You and your husband were strangers at first, and then you accidentally became husband and wife. The so-called "a match made in heaven" is just an adjective. No couple in the world are born. Stay together, stay together, or part if you don't agree. No big deal. You can still sit without carrots If the sky does not fall, the world will not end. Don't pin your hopes on others. Don't give the reins of fate to others. Take control of your own destiny. So you won't be at a loss when you change. Pessimism is a mess.
Article 8: If you still want to lose him after your efforts, don't want him.
There are such men (including women, of course) in the world, born in easy virtue. He plays with the opposite sex to satisfy his own selfish desires. Such a man doesn't deserve a family at all. If you are unlucky to meet such a person, it is your bad luck. When you admit that you are unlucky, you should abandon all illusions about him and leave him to find a new life. Don't just wait for him to change his mind. On the contrary, making it mine will waste your time. First of all, you should take care of yourself in this world. If you don't take care of yourself, then I have to tell you that no one will take care of you. Don't care too much about the age difference. You don't have to find a better man than you. It is better for two people to be close to each other than anything else.