I think this little friend may have "appearance anxiety"!
In today's society, we are surrounded by all kinds of cosmetic advertisements every day, magically circulating the beauty of double eyelids, big eyes, high nose and small V face, and conveying to you a value that "all your unsuccessful and unhappy are just because you are not beautiful enough".
I have to say that after staying in this atmosphere for a long time, people will always feel that their faces and bodies are too imperfect.
It seems that everyone becomes anxious and desperately wants to be close to their perfect self, so they all feel that their double eyelids are not wide enough, their noses are not stiff enough, their chins are not sharp enough, their hairline can be adjusted, their decrees are too deep, their Lissori muscles are not full, their arms are too thick, and their buttocks are too flat.
The moon wild rabbit has been secretly observing a friend for a long time because she is so beautiful. She is tall, fair-skinned and delicate. She can wear clothes of general size to give a feeling of haute couture, and her whole body exudes the charm of beauty.
But after getting along with her for a long time, you will find a problem: she always feels ugly, sometimes her eyelids are ugly, sometimes her skin is not delicate, sometimes her face is not V, and sometimes her arms are a little thick. ...
Every time I listen to her, Sailor Moon couldn't wait to find a hole in the ground. Beauty is not satisfied with this, and it also makes us ordinary women unable to live.
In fact, the moon wild rabbit also fell into appearance anxiety. I always feel ugly, I feel extremely inferior to my looks, I dare not wear off-the-shoulder clothes, I dare not look at others when I talk to them, I feel my face is too big, and I don't like taking pictures.
Looking back on that incident, I feel that there is no glory at all.
So, today, I'm going to tell you how I overcame my "anxiety about appearance". From hating yourself to accepting yourself, you can even challenge off-the-shoulder clothes, navel clothes, recording and shaking audio and video, and look in the mirror and feel that you are "incredibly beautiful."
Sailor Moon was a person who didn't know much about his appearance before the age of 25, so there was no so-called "appearance anxiety".
My real anxiety about appearance began with my first love. At that time, the moon wild rabbit loved her brain a little. She thinks her lover is the most handsome boy in the world, with beautiful eyes, eyebrows, nose, mouth and eyebrows ... even her fingers are beautiful. Looking back at herself, she has a wide face, small eyes and long spots on her face ... this is really the ugliest girl in the world.
In addition, my lover inadvertently said, "Your eyes are not enough, your collarbone is not enough, and there is too much meat on your shoulders ...", so I became less and less confident about my appearance, and the whole person became more and more inferior. I don't believe I can do it. I deserve it. My intuition is right.
After breaking up, Sailor Moon suddenly realized that caring too much about other people's emotions is actually a very dangerous signal. In feelings, before saying "I love you", you must know how to say "I".
Countless nights, I asked myself: Is he really that good? Am I really that bad? Actually, he's not that good, and I'm not that bad. Just because I like him, I bring him so many dazzling auras.
I began to convince myself to accept everything unconditionally, regardless of the advantages and disadvantages under secular standards. Re-find the right to define your own beauty and ugliness and regain the right to speak about how to pursue beauty.
If I can be more beautiful, I want to be more beautiful in a freer and healthier state.
When I return to a person, I feel less entangled and more indifferent, and I also use a more practical way to reconcile my appearance anxiety.
Try to keep running, the effect is good, 104 kg is as thin as 90 kg, and develop healthy eating habits and lifestyles; Shoulders are thick, a little hunched, insist on practicing some small moves, stand against the wall, and the posture is getting better every day. Now I like to wear all kinds of off-the-shoulder clothes and skirts;
Learn makeup from bloggers, use eye shadow to enlarge eyes, use facial makeup, blush, earrings and modify face, only to find that she is also a beautiful girl;
Learn to wear, start to consider the style, color and style of clothing, and go further and further on the road across the United States;
I cut my short hair neatly and didn't dye it or perm it, only to find that black hair suits me best and that the girl with a square face is also very beautiful.
I also began to spend money to speed up my study. When the speed of accumulation can't keep up with my self-expectation, I have to spend money to speed up my study. After reading a lot of books, learning self-media operation courses and writing courses, it seems that I can hear the sound of my "joints" growing wildly.
Jiang Sida once said in the Story of Seven Pavilions: "You can be Fan Bingbing in one day, but you can't be Arlene Yin Hui in one day."
Appreciate that sentence. Beauty can be copied, but wisdom cannot be measured.
You can make it beautiful, so can others. Instead of worrying about your "appearance" all day, we should cultivate a correct psychology, learn to accept ourselves, shape ourselves healthily and make ourselves better.
I am Sailor Moon, born in 1990s, an older girl. I love code words and life, and I am willing to work with you. In 2020, we will grow up to be purposeful and powerful people together.