Lead: This is the real experience of a friend of mine. Coincidentally, she met a yogi, who opened his eyes and said that he was from heaven. My friend asked me to write her story, hoping to inspire and benefit more people who are lost in love and marriage.

Xiaoru is very beautiful and refined, and cherishes her appearance. It is standard to apply at least one mask every day, and where a person spends his time will be rewarded. When she went out to play tennis at the age of 30, she was mistaken for a high school student.

It was also at the age of 30 that she encountered a marriage crisis. Before that, her marriage was very enviable. Her husband is her high school classmate, and he bought a house and got married two years after graduating from college. My husband is tall and handsome, well paid, and gentle and considerate to her. It is inevitable for men to socialize in sales. He spent six years before he got married. Good. In the seventh year, she found that men were traveling more and more, and the days when they didn't travel were getting later and later. Until Xiaoru accidentally found another mobile phone in her car, all doubts surfaced.

After that, the two experienced one big battle after another. Like all marriages with an affair, Xiaoru was hysterical and miserable. The man apologized and vowed to give gifts until both of them were exhausted and refused to let go.

In this way, 14' s love and marriage are slowly exhausted, and both of them avoid meeting each other because they will quarrel if they can't say two words. Men's initial guilt is almost exhausted and they are indifferent to each other.

The turning point appeared at the end of 20 15, and they drove home for the new year. On the way, the man received a vague phone call, and the sensitive Xiaoru realized that the relationship that her husband had agreed to break off was not broken.

Trembling with anger, she made a scene and cursed the "dog man and woman" in the most vicious language. The man drove uncharacteristically silently, neither scolding her nor giving any explanation. When she was resting, the man said calmly, is this life what you want? Let's go through the formalities after the Chinese New Year.

Xiaoru felt that her brain exploded and the whole person was blown to pieces. She can't speak, she just wants to leave the person around her at once, the one who took all her youth and hurt her to pieces.

She unfastened her seat belt in a car traveling at a speed of120km/h, opened the door and tried to jump out of the car to escape from the man.

The man didn't expect her to have such a move. He stretched out a hand and pulled her hard to prevent her from jumping out of the car.

Crackle, everything just happened. The truck behind hit, and Q7' s butt and back seat were twisted into a pile of iron blocks.

Xiaoru woke up in an ambulance for the first time. She didn't feel any pain, but she felt cold all over. She slowly remembered that she had just had a car accident. The first sentence was: Where is XX (her husband)?

The nurse told her that her husband was fine and safe. She put down her heart, but she felt something was wrong and looked at everything in a daze.

She reached out and rubbed her eyes, and the place she touched was concave and hard. As if she knew something, she tried to sit up and screamed hysterically: "My eyeball is gone!" " "

The medical staff quickly stopped her and injected her with sedatives and other drugs, which made her sleepy.

I woke up in the hospital bed again, and my parents were crying beside me. The only good news is that she hasn't lost her eyeball. After the car accident, the blood on her face formed a thick scab, covering her eyes.

Strangely, in such a serious car accident, she only hurt her face, which she had always cared for most carefully. For a long time, her family hid the mirror and she couldn't see her injured face.

She had 65 stitches on her face, and she counted every stitch. The doctor was very sad when he saw the photos of her before the accident. He said while sewing, Oh, there is a little less skin here, and there is a piece of meat here, so young. ...

Her mother cried and pulled her hair. She sat in a daze, not crying or talking, as if all this had nothing to do with her.

Her husband broke his leg in a car accident

Xiaoru told me that during the hospitalization, three nurses and her mother helped her wash her hair, and the blood on her hair solidified and needed to be slowly untied with hot water. Her long hair was dyed chestnut from waist to waist, but now it's tangled like rust.

The nurse can't stand this laborious and long cleaning process at first, but if she is careful, she will tear off a lock of hair, one in the east and one in the west. The nurse said politely, I'll cut it short for you before washing it. She didn't say anything.

The nurse asked again, and she answered slowly, this is all I have left.

I don't know when Xiaoru's husband appeared at the door of the ward. He came up behind her in a wheelchair, told the nurses to leave and began to clean Xiaoru's hair.

After washing all afternoon, both of them were silent. Xiaoru's mother received hot water from the basin, and the clear water turned into bright red blood. She used hundreds of pots of water that afternoon.

Xiaoru said that when she was in high school, she especially liked watching a shampoo advertisement made by Chow Yun Fat. In the camera, Brother Fage gently washes his female companion's hair. That tenderness and happiness touched her deeply, and she also asked him to wash his hair when he was in love at that time. Unexpectedly, the only time he washed his hair in this life was like this.

On the second day after discharge, Xiaoru and her husband went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce. She remembered that it was Valentine's Day.

(2) She grabbed me from the sky and scared me out of my wits with a knife in the middle of the night!

The car accident caused Xiaoru's facial bones to be distorted. After the divorce, she had several plastic surgery at home and abroad. Needless to say, the pain of the operation was a disaster for her. Looking at the unfamiliar and familiar faces in the mirror, it is difficult for her to convince herself to accept and let go. There is no end to plastic surgery. In the end, she didn't give up the operation or put it down, but there was not enough money in the bank account.

Xiaoru didn't go to work after two years of marriage because she didn't earn enough money for her. She spent 4000 yuan on a sweater and 6000 yuan on a pair of small white shoes.

Her husband also supported her not to work and provided her expenses. The arrival of the marriage crisis made her realize one thing, that is, she gave up her independence at the moment she gave up her job, and her demands on her husband were doomed to be empty.

When divorced, the husband wanted to transfer all the house and bank deposits to her name. She wouldn't say, you earned all these hard, and I can't take them. Thank you for taking care of me in the past.

She only took the plastic surgery number a few times, and when she ran out, it was gone, just like her past love.

She moved from a high-end apartment to a dirty and messy group rental house, found a very ordinary job, changed her mobile phone number, and still made a mask every day. Beauty is not in the skin. Even after such a cruel car accident and marriage change, she is still beautiful. After the operation, her slightly baby-fat face turned into a tight oval face, and her facial features remained picturesque, but her skin lost its delicacy and luster. If you look closely, you can see slight stitch marks and light blue marks.

She thought she could live a quiet life and hoped that her ex-husband could see her change and fall in love with her again.

It was not until she heard the news that her ex-husband remarried that she woke up and was heartbroken. In the middle of the night, after 12, she called me from the kitchen rented by the regiment. She said this: Once I thought "heartache" was just an adjective, but now I know that pain really comes from "heart". Why is it so painful? I really want to insert the knife in front of me into my heart and turn it a few times. I don't want to die. I just want to know if it's too much to cut out my heart with a knife. I was terrified out of my wits, begging her to leave the kitchen and the temptation of sharp knives, and at the same time, I immediately set about taking her home.

Life goes on. 2065438+June 2007, I dragged her into the "Luyuan Jingshe" to study Buddhism. When she joined the group, the group members were discussing what Elysium was like. After listening to this, she didn't get to the point. She only asked: If I learn Buddhism well, can I take my lover to Elysium when I die?

Enthusiastic group friends told her that everyone is full and everyone has their own cause and effect. She was disappointed, saying, What would "Elysium in the West" be like without me?

In a word, she got the attention of many enthusiastic group friends. Someone told her that her ex-husband and she must have a cause and effect, someone told her that reciting the eight-character mantra and the great compassion mantra can open up wisdom and dispel pain, and some even tried to tell her the "situation" and let her see through it. All kinds of suggestions are comparable to weak water 3 thousand, and she finally took a ladle called "asceticism"-pulling bitterness.

Her weekends are full. When a person goes to Putuo Mountain, he starts to walk to Foding Mountain in three steps when he lands. When he came back, he covered the blue on his forehead with bangs as if nothing had happened. As a volunteer, she went to the temple in East Tianmu Mountain to carry sand and stones for the construction of the temple. The heavy laundry list weighed less than 90 pounds on her. She doesn't know where she got the strength, carrying one basket after another and walking back and forth on the rugged mountain road.

She found that the pain from the "heart" disappeared in asceticism.

During the period of "asceticism", she met a new self and another "he", which brought a new round of "test" or started a new practice.

Boyfriends are also divorced people. Seeing that she has been living in a group rental house, she can't bear to discuss buying a house with her. She was moved. After all kinds of asceticism, it doesn't really matter what kind of house she lives in, but she was moved by her boyfriend's seriousness and concern and began to seriously consider their future.

They went to see the house, paid the down payment, and agreed to bear the down payment together with the mortgage. She is an only child, and her parents sponsored the down payment for her house purchase. On the eve of down payment, her boyfriend timidly told her that his mother didn't agree to buy a house with her. She heard the reason from his stuttering explanation. His family thinks that Xiaoru has no savings and her salary is not high. She believes that divorce and the division of property after marriage are detrimental to the interests of the man. After all, her boyfriend's salary is higher than Xiaoru's.

Xiaoru's first reaction is that this man is irresponsible, and breaking up seems to be the best choice.

However, this woman who came down from heaven never imagined that this bumpy time was only the beginning, and she would face a bigger test later!

(3) She was robbed of the celestial origin, and the death penalty can be avoided!

My words: Last night, Xiaoru called me and talked for a long time. She told me a lot of experiences I didn't know, and I cried. It also disrupted my writing ideas. The story of "Tiannv" could have ended today, but I want to share the contents of this phone call last night. Please forgive me! In addition, Xiaoru said that she was very moved to see many warm blessings in the group, so let me thank her. Xiaoru corrected the mistakes in my article. Those mistakes were deliberately misleading me before and told me not to worry about her. Now that Luyuan Jingshe has a special discussion on "Practice and Meeting Love", she is willing to present her real experience completely, hoping to give some inspiration or help to her friends trapped by love. Let's talk about Xiaoru's first love story with her ex-husband.

Xiaoru still remembers that in high school, the whole class went to the seaside for a picnic. She sat in the back seat of her ex-husband's bicycle, which was the age when the seeds of love attracted each other. The sea breeze was strong, and he rode her against the wind. The white shirt is windy, covering her face, and her face smells of carved soap. Her face was red and her eyes were blocked by a white shirt. She released her hand from the bike rack, grabbed the hem of his white shirt and straightened it gently so that her eyes wouldn't be caught by the naughty windshield. But she couldn't stop, and the wind poured in from all directions. She only has two hands ... At this moment, he said, it's no use. Her face turned redder.

He accompanied her at the picnic, and the wind was still so strong when she went back. She put her arms around the white shirt in front of her from the back seat of her bicycle, and the wind finally stopped teasing her. She heard him say softly, "That's right."

After telling this story on the phone, Xiaoru said, I'm not good at Buddhism. I've been listening to people in the group talking about being empty and how to be Wukong. I don't quite understand. However, after the divorce, I fell into a love-hate relationship for a long time. Through chanting, asceticism, voluntary service, etc. The hatred and greed in my heart have gradually died out. I don't hate him for betraying me and my marriage. I sincerely regret that I didn't do well in my marriage. I can also wish him and my wife happiness calmly, but I just can't let go of that white shirt. The thought of it is like a bottle of bittersweet seasoning being knocked over.

I don't know what you are talking about, but I think that if one day I can think of a white shirt and I'm not happy or sad, or I just feel beautiful and happy in my heart, then love is really "empty" and I'm trying.

Xiaoru said that in fact, when she called me with a sharp knife in the middle of the night, she wanted to die. That phone call was a subconscious distress signal. She always wanted to die, just to avoid worrying about her family and friends. She deliberately said that she didn't want to die.

How could she not want to die? The monthly rent of the house she rented is less than one-third of the monthly property fee of her previous home. She changed from a person who saw the cockroach screaming in horror to a person who saw the cockroach lying on the bed at night and just silently photographed it with a newspaper. It is also a great pain for her to get up and look in the mirror every morning. Watching the centipede's scar recover, she knew it would never recover. The most unbearable thing is the complete departure of her ex-husband. She thinks there is still love between them. Divorce just gave him time and space. She believes that they are soul mates. He not only loves her face, just as she believes that "holding your hand and growing old with your son" is love.

But he remarried and a third party intervened.

Xiaoru said that the only thing she couldn't let go of was her parents. She is an only child. She can't imagine what her parents would do if she died. The car accident and divorce broke her heart. How did they face her death? She thinks about how to die all day. She thought about leaving a letter to her parents, telling them that she has become a monk and telling them not to look for her. For her parents, becoming a monk is definitely better than suicide (Amitabha).

When Xiaoru repeatedly thought about suicide, God played a joke on her, as if someone had fulfilled her wish to die and helped her.

It was the eve of the first Spring Festival that she rented out after her divorce. Other tenants in the group rental house have already set foot on the road to their hometown for the New Year. Xiaoru is not in a hurry to leave early, because she is only two hours away from home by high-speed train. That night she got up and went to the bathroom, and the lock was broken. She was locked in the bathroom.

The bathroom is very small. It's no use pulling the door and turning the door handle. She didn't bring her cell phone into the bathroom. There is no heating in winter in the south. She was shivering in her thin pajamas. Suddenly, she realized that the occupancy rate of this building in the suburbs where she lived at this time was not high, and she was the only one left in the house. Not only has no one rescued her at present, but her roommate won't be back for 10 days, and she didn't let anyone know her address because of her good face. She was scared out in a cold sweat.

It is one thing to want to die actively, and it is another to die passively, not to mention this kind of death. Xiaoru frantically smashed the door for a while, then stopped to catch her breath. She saw a small piece of glass on the door. She took off the tank cover of the toilet, jumped up and smashed the glass above the door, again and again.

Thanks to her slim figure, she didn't even climb out of that small glass window. She made a witty remark on the phone last night, which made me burst into tears. She said, "I climbed out of the broken glass window and fell to the ground (the window was too high). There are many cuts on my body by glass slag, and blood is dripping. This is called: I can't escape death, haha, I think God is punishing me for wanting to die in this way, but I was careful this time and didn't hurt my face ~ "

What she said is really based on facts. She asked the landlord to repair the door lock. When the landlord learned that she had broken the glass, he flew into a rage and asked her to pay for it. She also said that the lock had been fine before, and she must have broken it and had to pay for it. A strange thing happened. Two men went to check the door lock and found it was all right, not broken at all. Xiaoru suddenly had a strong sense of unreality about the world in front of her. What is true and what is false?

After this robbery, Xiaoru didn't want to die. Xiaoru said that when she climbed out of the bathroom that night to clean the wound and the glass on the floor, she thought that if a man proposed to her, gave her a home and was willing to take care of her parents with her, she would marry, and she would do her wife's duty all her life and be good to him and his parents and family.

When the current boyfriend proposed to buy a house together, she suddenly returned to the night when she was trapped in the bathroom, with real and unreal pain, strange door locks and blood dripping from the glass slag. ...

She is looking forward to it ...

(4) She was robbed from the origin of heaven, and the phoenix was reborn from the fire!

Xiaoru went to a familiar temple to volunteer at the weekend, listening to the tears from Buddhist music and rituals. The big monk in the temple looked at her piteously and said, "Past lives don't owe this life." Just such an ordinary sentence made her cry to the ground. Her heart has long been twisted into a twist. This sentence is like a warm stove, reflecting her twisted heart full of holes in the red light.

Recalling her early years in Hong Kong, she was introduced to a famous eye-opener and said that she was from heaven, laughing that her next life was doomed to be uneven. At that time, I was just joking. Now I understand that my debts and my career are so many. Can I pay them off in my life? How does she know whether she owes new debts while paying off the old ones?

Just like if she hadn't struggled to get out of the car on the expressway, could she have avoided the car accident, the injury of herself and her ex-husband, the pain of her parents and family, the trouble brought by the rear-end collision to the truck driver, and the cost of plastic surgery? If the money is used for charity, how many people will benefit?

After her boyfriend repented and wanted to buy a house alone, she didn't say a word. Sometimes silence itself is an attitude and a kind of strength, which is more powerful than crying twice and hanging up three times.

She tried to understand her boyfriend, who also came out of a failed marriage, and his mother's worry was normal. If he is also a person who is destined to "see" in this life, or a person who wants to pay debts, the difference in the house will not change the front edge of the two people. She tried to shift her attention from the house to her boyfriend. She needs time to observe each other and her heart. Then she found that the decision to buy a house together was too hasty. She asked herself: Is it more important to expect your other half for decades, or is it more important to expect a house with your own name?

The days passed peacefully. I don't know whether I feel guilty or I realize her beauty. Her boyfriend is becoming more and more considerate to her. She was originally a gentle and virtuous woman. On the day when I officially met my boyfriend's parents for the first time, her usual pure beauty added a little dignity, and her boyfriend's mother had a faint sense of alienation from her. Just as everyone was sitting down to eat, the doorbell rang. She saw her boyfriend's mother suddenly get up and open the door happily. Outside is her boyfriend's ex-wife.

This meal is delicious. In sharp contrast to the embarrassed boyfriend, the boyfriend's mother is attentive to his ex-wife. Xiaoru said she left early after dinner. When she walked out of the door and took a deep breath, she knew that she had lost another fate. The feeling of losing your destiny is so relaxed and happy that even the air is sweet.

There is also news from her ex-husband that she wants to get back together with Xiaoru. After any vigorous love is dull, the question is whether you can act as a "dull" chef and cook the taste of "Qing Huan" in dullness. Xiaoru told her ex-husband that she felt dull and happy, and the man burst into tears.

The ex-husband went to see Xiaoru's mother, not to get back together, but to give Xiaoru's mother a sum of money and buy Xiaoru a house. Mother accepted it and told Xiaoru nervously, peeking at Xiaoru's face as she spoke. Xiaoru smiled and hugged her mother: "Is this it? I will accept it. "

Xiaoru said that her ex-husband felt guilty and fantasized that Xiaoru didn't want any property when she divorced, which not only fulfilled his kindness, but also fulfilled his reputation and let him put down his fantasy. I almost cried again because of Xiaoru's kindness and ease. As the person who knows her ex-husband best in the world, she gently cut off her ex-husband's wishful thinking, fulfilled him, and made him move forward easily in his new marriage.

Xiaoru said that true love is selflessly satisfying everyone you meet.

20 17 165438 In October, Xiaoru came to see me on a business trip and got to know the free teacher in Lvyuan Jingshe. At that time, the teacher was writing an inscription for a group of paintings presented to volunteers for the "Light the Heart Lights" warm winter charity action organized by Luyuan Jingshe. When Xiaoru left, the teacher came out of the office and gave Xiaoru a painting with the inscription: Never ask for it. I was surprised because the teacher's other inscriptions were all blessings, but Xiaoru was very happy. She folded her hands and saluted the teacher, saying that this was exactly what she needed.

The teacher is also very happy. He told Xiaoru that all the sufferings you experienced were lucky, because you saw a brand-new world through these "sufferings" and you began to face the world calmly again.

Although these processes are somewhat "cruel", they are much luckier than those who are still struggling. They never stopped. They thought they could win the game in time, and even thought they could conquer them.

And you, finally began to face up to life and find yourself. In this process, you not only conquered "disasters", but also became your food.

A person who has the ability to see the sun can only feel the inner light. For you, the other shore won't be too far. What you have to do is not to stop moving forward!

Xiaoru has tears in her eyes. ...

Conclusion: Xiaoru bought a small house with the money sent by her ex-husband and bid farewell to the "group renting career". Once she met her new boyfriend, a middle-aged man who unfortunately lost his wife. The successful new boyfriend is also elegant, with a 7-year-old daughter.

This is undoubtedly another chapter of "Meeting in this life". Fortunately, Xiaoru and her boyfriend get along very well this time, especially the 7-year-old daughter is very similar to Xiaoru. Both of them love small animals very much, and both of them are good at bragging. They walked the dog together, cleaned the closet together, took a nap together, and two people grabbed a lipstick ... The daughter asked her father in front of Xiaoru: "Can I call Xiaoru's aunt and mother?"

At present, Xiaoru is enjoying her love, which is also her practice. (End)

On the eve of Valentine's Day, on behalf of Xiaoru, I borrowed a blessing from Sodagi Kampo to all those who are reading this article: I hope you don't have to go through the pain I experienced, and I hope my happiness is within your reach.

My conclusion: Xiaoru's story has come to an end for the time being. I didn't expect this story of "Tiannv" to touch so many kind hearts, and my WeChat and backstage were crowded with warm wishes. Xiaoru originally wanted to "take a photo" to thank everyone and enjoy everyone's mindfulness thinking about love and marriage, but I gave up "taking a photo" after careful consideration (it can't affect Xiaoru and her boyfriend's family).