Qiqi is in the third grade of primary school this year. As a teacher, I am very concerned about the situation of every child in my class. Behind this is the trust and concern of many parents. During the roll call recently, I found that whenever Kiki was called, Kiki would be very nervous, rubbing her clothes with her little hands, like a child who made a mistake. I also truthfully communicated this abnormal situation with Kiki's mother.

Through chatting with Kiki's mother, I know that Kiki's situation is because Kiki is at home at ordinary times, and her parents always call Kiki's nickname. Only when Kiki did something wrong or made her parents angry, her parents would call Kiki's full name severely, which led Kiki to realize that she would be criticized when she heard her full name, so she was so nervous.

After the child is born, parents at home will give the child some meaningful names, including birth name, big name and so on. Usually parents call their children by their birth names, which will bring them closer. Although a name is just a name for a child, it is the imprint of a child's life. There is a difference between how to call a child's name in life and his birth name. If it is not right, it may have some psychological influence on children, which will seriously make children's personality become self-enclosed and unconfident.

The name of the child is very particular. If they are called incorrectly, they will feel sensitive and inferior. 1. When a child makes a mistake, call him by his full name and be careful to leave a shadow.

Many parents are like this. Whenever a child makes a mistake, he will shout his full name loudly and sternly, thinking that this will show majesty. In this case, when he called his full name, he was extremely scared and uneasy. I don't know why his parents are so fierce. When this habit lasts for a long time, the child will associate this emotion of his parents with his full name, so that when he hears his full name, he will know that he must have done something wrong again, so he will be nervous, uneasy and psychologically backward.

2. Call the child's birth name directly in public, and be careful that the child has no face.

At home, parents will call their children by their birth names, probably because they are used to it. No matter what occasion, parents will naturally blurt out their children's birth names. In the eyes of children, being called by birth name in public will make them lose face, and children will also have the psychology of saving face. In particular, some parents give themselves birth names that are not shouted in public, and children will feel particularly humiliated in front of acquaintances. These scenes and experiences are not conducive to the healthy psychological growth of children.

How do parents correctly address their children by their first names? 1, be careful when naming your child.

Parents should be careful when naming their children. In order to make their children's names interesting, many parents sometimes give their children "funny" names, such as Shi, Niu Xiaoer and Luo Yang. When children grow up, they will definitely have the urge to change their names. In addition, we should avoid uncommon words when choosing names. The strokes of uncommon words are complicated, which will make children write their own names until they collapse. Don't use the names of rotten streets, because many parents like names like "Zixuan", "Zixuan" and "Zi Xuan" so much that there are more than a dozen children in the same class, which will cause great inconvenience. Names for children should be easy to understand and beautiful. Parents are advised to read more famous books such as The Book of Songs and Songs of the South for inspiration.

2. Pay attention to the difference between calling children's names on different occasions.

Although every child has a name and surname, there is no need to distinguish between them on different occasions. At home, parents can kiss you or call their children by their first names. In public, calling children by their first names shows respect for them. It should be noted that parents should not let their children associate their names with their parents' emotions. When parents call their children's names, there should be no emotion in them. This will only make children feel that their names will only be called when things are serious. Whether parents are happy or angry, they always call their children by their real names at home and by their full names in public.

Therefore, parents should learn to address their children in different ways on different occasions. The wrong name will have a psychological shadow on children, which is an irreparable trauma.