If a woman sees what a man looks like when he loves her the most, she can see through it at a glance when a man no longer loves her.

In fact, women's "sixth sense" has scientific basis, because women's natural insight is higher than men's. At the same time, when facing problems, women pay attention to each other's emotional attitude, while boys pay attention to logic and results.

This can lead to a very interesting love phenomenon.

One sentence that women like to say is "I find that you don't love me."

One sentence that men like to say is "I found that I don't love you."

These two sentences have very different meanings.

In fact, what women call "not loving" means that men can "love" themselves more.

When a man says "I don't love you", it is the result of careful consideration. Once a man proposes to break up, this relationship is likely to come to an end.

In fact, the "no love" in a man's mouth is to hope that the other person can "recognize" the reality.

So, when a man breaks up with you, his motives can be roughly divided into the following six situations:

Therefore, when a man calmly proposes to break up with you, it shows that he has begun to clarify personal boundaries and draw a clear line between each other's identities.

If women have been entangled and stuck together, it will only make men more determined to break up.

So, how do you save your ex-boyfriend?

Your so-called "breaking off diplomatic relations" may be wrong.

"Breaking off diplomatic relations" is the most frequently mentioned word, and everyone should be familiar with it. But many people have come to the misunderstanding that when they cut off all contact with their ex, the other party will completely let go of your feelings and look for new love.

I just made the word "broken" and I don't know how to "connect".

So what is disconnection?

Break: recognize the change of your identity, reduce the defensive psychology of the other party, and keep the other party relatively comfortable and not embarrassed.

Union: remould oneself and stimulate each other's sense of crisis. Re-attract each other through a new identity.

Therefore, the disconnection period is 3~2 1 day, during which it is best to cut off any contact with the other party. Giving each other time to re-examine love will also give each other a feeling of regret. I really lost you.

So what is a "couplet"?

During disconnection, if you don't change and improve, then disconnection will have no effect.

What you have to do is to make positive changes in your thoughts and actions, refresh the other person's understanding of you, make the other person feel that you are no longer the same as before, and thus have the impulse to know you.

We should know how to reflect on "what caused your to break up", whether it was the accumulation of long-term disappointment or fierce conflict.

You need to find out what the other party can't accept, so that you can make targeted corrections and changes.

0 Eliminate the negative expectations of the other party

Men are "face saving". He broke up with you, which means he won't accept it easily.

Men who say "I don't love you" have a hard time.

Therefore, whether it is "secondary attraction" or "rebuilding love", the premise of all this is to eliminate the negative prejudgment of men.

To save a man who loves you, you just need to improve and change.

To save a man who doesn't love you, you have to rebuild your self-image.

Self-reconstruction is divided into two parts.

External molding

External remodeling is easily overlooked by many people, but it is also a key factor in restructuring.

After all, redemption depends on "attraction", and attraction often begins with "seeing the color and thinking".

Through external packaging and image optimization, let the other party have the idea of "wanting to know you again" from the visual impression, and then grasp the initiative to save.

Similarly, the new you also give each other a sense of crisis. Men are subconsciously controlling. When he finds out that such an excellent woman doesn't belong to me, it will make the other party have a questioning mentality: "Breaking up is a wrong decision."

Internal remodeling

It is undeniable that 99% of men like smart women from the bottom of their hearts, and 99% of men break up not because women are not beautiful, but because there are cracks in her heart.

Therefore, expanding knowledge, strengthening high-quality social communication and improving personal value and ideological level are the keys to internal reconstruction.

Travel, fitness, reading and high-quality social activities can all be your new attractions.

These will make the other person see a brand-new you, and the other person will think that "you can be such a colorful person".

Improving self-worth and ideological realm is the key to awaken men's love.

The gradual escalation of intimacy.

For a man who has no love and patience, many women often fall into it.

Such a misunderstanding: a man wants to upgrade his relationship with a slight affection, which exposes his sense of demand and makes him feel "you are very cheap".

Accepting, trusting and relying on this escalating relationship is the correct way for men's love to rejuvenate.

What is our most important potential advantage in the face of a loveless man?

It's the nostalgia behind the memories.

He can sincerely deny that he "doesn't love you at this time", but he will never forget "the good memories of being with you".

Therefore, what needs to be done is to "break the ice" and create new topics with memories. Similarly, we should not rush into each other's lives as friends.

For example, "Where is the hot pot restaurant you mentioned earlier?"

"When I was just packing, I found that your stomach medicine was still there. Do you still have a stomachache recently? "

Don't make a long speech, stop here.

The biggest fear of reunion is "embarrassment" and "strong purpose".

Therefore, it is necessary to start with the sense of memory and arouse the other party's nostalgia for memories. At the same time, such a topic-sensitive way of chatting can not only arouse the other party's interest in chatting, but also won't feel pressure because of the relationship at this time.

0 tried to send a tentative invitation.

Reunion is not the result of redemption. For some men with weak insight, if you chat as a friend, he really lists you as an ordinary friend.

So when is the "window period" for redemption, and we need to take the initiative to upgrade the relationship?

Even after you get rid of your negative impression, the other party does not reject discussing their relationship with you.

Simply put, for some sensitive topics, the other party's attitude is not to deny or refuse.

When the time is ripe, you can ask exploratory questions. For example, "smelly man, are you plotting against me?" "Some people may never eat my breakfast again ~" and so on.

When faced with these sensitive relationship temptations, the other party does not reject or even begin to echo your topic, which means that you can upgrade your relationship.

At this time, you can tentatively invite him to create a second attraction.

But be careful: the previous invitation didn't make you ask for a reunion. If the purpose is too strong, it will break the ambiguity of the other party and be rejected.

The previous date was to break the stereotype and rebuild the attraction of self-creation. In the follow-up date, if you start to have some ambiguous behaviors and words, which prove that boys have reached the golden window, you need to seize the opportunity to upgrade your relationship.

Real life simulation

On a night when two people are having a good time, when he walks you downstairs, the separation at this time is the time when men have the strongest sense of nostalgia.

"Hugging" is a vague intimate behavior between friends and lovers, and it is difficult for men to refuse this kind of "uninvited" request.

When you are back in a man's arms, you can continue to push "promise me that you will never leave me again, ok?"

He didn't deliberately emphasize the relationship, but pulled back the role of lover in an ambiguous and comfortable way. Driven by this "halo effect", men will rekindle their inner love.

"Disagreeing with you" will make men feel that they have no manners, so they cleverly "force" men to a desperate situation.