There is something wrong with your communication style, which can be called "alienated communication style", because the result of communication is not what you want anyway.

I believe that when you communicate with each other, that is to say, when you want to answer each other, you will always attach your own comments on each other's last sentence.

Comments on other people's words and deeds hint at our values and needs. Unfortunately, the proposition put forward in this way is likely to lead to hostility, making it more difficult for our wishes to be met and our views to be accepted. It is usually unwilling to accept criticism and make concessions in time. If they cater to us in fear or guilt, sooner or later we will find that the other party is not so friendly. Of course, they also paid a price. Giving in to internal or external pressure is likely to make them resent and hate themselves.

If you know the language you love, you will speak your values directly without blaming others.

In fact, violence is often implied in our communication. The root of violence is that people ignore each other's feelings and needs and blame each other for conflicts. This idea is very dangerous.

I think the next time you talk to others, don't try to comment on what others say. You can express your values at will, but just observing and listening to other people's words and deeds, without comments or comments, is the highest form of human wisdom, because only in this way can we be truly objective.