When a boy hears his girlfriend sum up why a relationship can last for six years, the answer you give is just a habit. How can he not be disappointed in you?

And since you use habits to define why you were able to be in love for six years, please admit it. Admit that you actually had too many dissatisfaction and unhappiness in this relationship. And your recovery after the breakup some time ago was just that you were unable to take care of yourself after the breakup. On the contrary, your life was worse alone, so you could not accept the fact of the breakup, so you could recover the boy, and after the boy had After the new love, I was indignant and came to Zhihu to post this question.

This is obviously not a good motive to redeem him, because you are not trying to redeem him out of true love for him, you are trying to redeem him out of the motive of wanting him to love you like before, and How is it possible to make a boy feel that he can be happy by being with you again? Because even your motives for recovering after a breakup are selfish. Read on:

And your description here is meaningless, because you must be telling your relationship story to your friends with subjective emotions, and the information your friends receive is not Objectively, they will definitely speak for you more from your standpoint, so do you think their evaluation that you pay more than your boyfriend is objective?

And even if this is the case, but you think about it: In love, as long as you pay more, you will always be loved? Silly girl, alas...

Also, you are saying that although you have many things wrong with you, when he is short of money, he will do it because "he wanted it, so I gave it to him." Here I am I won’t analyze the incident itself, but I think why you described this is because you want to express that you have sacrificed a lot in the six-year relationship, and I also hope that all Zhihu respondents can recognize and support you, but I I think you need to be wary of your subjective cognition here, which is likely to be obvious.

It’s been eight months since a boy broke up and he has a new love. It’s his personal emotional choice, and it’s not a seamless relationship. There’s nothing worth condemning. In fact, I believe you can understand this matter yourself, but you don’t currently understand it. The mood of willingness cannot be accepted in the short term.

Silly girl, believe me, it’s nothing. Don’t listen to some of the respondents’ answers to your various off-topic questions. You are just unwilling to accept it. You don’t love him that much. You have been used to the relationship that you have had for six years. To define it, it proves that this relationship has not made you happy, you just don’t dare to step out of your comfort zone to seek change!

Recognize your unwillingness and selfish nature, use the opportunity of breaking up with him to grow, and stop insisting on recovery, let alone any messy recovery consultation.

Learn to love yourself and hone your ability to live a good life alone. Best wishes.

Above.