This is a problem I met in Zhihu. There are four or five thousand answers. Every answer, every line of text is sad:

What's more sad is that this is an anonymous answer ... she doesn't have the courage to disclose her identity, perhaps for fear of being recognized by acquaintances and laughing at herself for "ugly people make more trouble."

In fact, most of the respondents answered anonymously, and you can only try to figure out what kind of mood they are typing these words through the screen.

This era is really unfriendly. Ugliness seems to be the original sin of men and women. Obviously, girls are hurt more.

Although they can't decide the beauty and ugliness of their appearance at birth, and even have done nothing wrong, they have to bear the malice from the world in this life.

In the world of adults, they don't directly write their dislikes on their faces, which is somewhat convergent. Students in their prime of life are far from such scruples and consideration for others.

Think about it. In your class, are there always one or two students who are keen on the evaluation of face value, choose four beautiful women or invent various "vicious" words in donkey kong: black girl, ugly, useless? ......

This kind of labeling is lasting, which leads to the victims often being isolated and excluded for more than three years until they go to school or transfer, and then a new round of ridicule is ushered in.

If you are unlucky, you may spend your whole childhood and adolescence laughing. The deeper you are hurt in the most critical period of shaping your character, the shadow of inferiority will always be around like a ghost.

The world in adults is full of hypocrisy. What children think is right or wrong, what children say hurts the most, and good and evil are always in a moment.

As a student, there is often a comfort law: most beautiful students have poor academic performance, and ordinary students must have good academic performance. Only when I left the society did I find that the aura of excellent performance is far less than the resources that beauty itself can obtain, and more efforts should be made. This is really frustrating.

There are still many small details of grievances hidden in life.

Sometimes when you take a group photo, you will always be the green leaf; I dare not take selfies, my circle of friends has not been updated for half a year, and I don't like to look in the mirror; The social circle is narrow, and I dare not make friends, for fear of being hit, so it is normal to be single.

Even if I hear my friends joking about their looks, I will cover it up with an embarrassed smile without losing etiquette, and I don't have the courage to refute it, because ugly people don't have the privilege of "relying on beauty to be proud."

Whenever there are some criticisms on the internet, the "ugly girl" will often become the party who touches porcelain, even if her body and mind have already been damaged, even if she is the victim.

It is an unavoidable fact that most people who shout baldness all day in public will not lose their hair. Those schoolmasters who are dejected and say that they failed in the exam often get good grades in the end; Those who say that they are fat, black and ugly with a sad face always have a group of admirers around them.

People who are really silent are often the most hurt, because they are afraid of being discovered, being told what to do and being isolated. If their minds are particularly sensitive, the pain will be magnified countless times.

I also saw a very helpless sentence, if you have children, if you are as ugly as yourself, how uncomfortable it is for him, and I will let him experience this inferiority complex again.

You never know how strong those girls who can still laugh after suffering the malice of the world are all the way down.

Even Zhong Wuyan, a famous ugly woman in history, described it in ancient books: "Her forehead and eyes are sunken and shriveled, her nose is facing the sky, her neck is fat, her hair is sparse and her skin is dark."

But Sammi Cheng will still be invited to play in the movie, so as to highlight the bitterness of being left out by Qi Xuanwang, which makes people feel pity ... because no audience really likes actors who are close to the prototype.

It is human nature to love beauty and hate ugliness, which cannot be changed, but when everyone is keen to comment on women's appearance and take pleasure in it, it is obviously abnormal.

As the Internet says:

There are also some comforting voices that people will grow old and their value cannot last long. Only your own ability is the most important. This sentence is always correct and will never really change their inferiority complex.

Many people are doomed not to reach the height of Ma Yun in this life, and make up for their appearance disadvantages through money and status; It is true that few people can reach the position of the industry and fail to reach Hawking's profound knowledge, thus making people ignore the distorted face.

In fact, most girls are destined to live an ordinary life all their lives, which means that they are more vulnerable to ridicule from many aspects of life, which is inevitable and can't be really understood by outsiders except their parents.

On the other hand, when everyone thinks that girls are ugly and can't live without looks, this universal view is equally terrible. It seems that "ugly women" should accept their fate and even have no right to pursue beauty.

A long time ago, I thought the confidence gained from plastic surgery was quite sad. I preconceived that this is a false life. But in others' eyes, it is a new life. At least after you become beautiful, you can build your self-confidence, find a good job and establish good relationships.

When self-confidence is really cultivated, it can also dilute the desire for beauty.

A very simple truth: If your appearance really makes you unhappy, if your facial features are too serious to look straight at, if you want to engage in an industry with high requirements on face value, you can consider plastic surgery or partial fine-tuning to let you compete with others on a fair starting line.

Plastic surgery or not, this is your right and your bargaining chip. The premise must be to please yourself, not to live in the eyes of others.

What I always don't understand is, is it pitiful for a girl to be ugly?

If a girl's efforts all her life are to get praise from the opposite sex and enjoy the hospitality of the opposite sex, I think it is really pitiful to regard this as the most important thing in life.

Even if the plastic surgery gets better, they will look at the "ugly man" around them with deja vu, and divide people's appearance into three or six grades with the common beauty standards in society. I don't blame the unpredictability, but the current atmosphere. In fact, people can choose a road that is not pitiful, and this road is not just cosmetic surgery.

When we really know whether we live for life or for beauty and ugliness in others' eyes, it is the first step to truly reflect on the past and get out of the vague meaning of life.

Only by getting rid of inferiority completely, not striving for the peak, but striving for a little progress every day, can you win more respect. At least the moment you say it from your mouth, you will feel guilty instantly and feel that you are underestimating you.

You may miss actors, stewardesses or models because of your appearance defects, but you will definitely become a great designer, painter and pianist with your talents.

As time goes by, you will find that face value is not the only thing, and all the friends around you are intellectual and elegant, and their conversations are full of connotations, because people who look at their faces on the surface have already disappeared behind you.

Girls are ugly and don't need anyone's pity.

If you are glad that you have a good skin and have not suffered from malice from the world, please be kind as always.