There is a clothing store that we often go to because the shopping experience is good. In the chat with the boss's wife, I was inadvertently inspired. Maybe "bad girls" are more open and happier in society.
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There is a clothing store here, which my sisters and I like very much. This shop is newly opened, with good style and good quality. The proprietress is fat, with a lovely 3-year-old daughter. Every time I buy clothes, I have to listen to my daughter's "bad", and I will be invited by my parents every once in a while, which will upset her.
In order to comfort the boss's wife, I told her calmly: "girls should be almost free from provocation, so that we won't suffer, and you don't have to worry about your daughter being bullied in the future."
The proprietress frowned and said helplessly, "She bullied others and hit other little boys today." I'm ecstatic. This chick will definitely be able to walk sideways in the future.
It's time to bargain again. "Let's get started." I stared at the proprietress meaningfully, and the proprietress patted her thigh. "Steve, you have to bargain with me again. I am most afraid that you will come to me! "
My brother blinked MengMeng's big eyes. "The teacher elder sister is counting on you." I smiled indifferently. "I won't bargain for three clothes one by one. I'm so tired today. Tell you what, let's make a 20% discount, shall we? "
Mother-in-law "I am so fierce." I really want to kick you out!
Young was obviously frightened, and his eyes were full of doubts. I suddenly became a little grievance. "How can you treat customers like this?" The proprietress covered her face with her hands. "Well, don't forget to come to my shop after the Spring Festival."
How can a daughter be bullied by such a fierce mother? It's good that she doesn't bully others. Before going out, I said to the proprietress, "I won again today, haha." I will come here often because of the boss's supercilious attitude.
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Tell you a story about a "good girl".
A good friend of mine, Mei Jia, has been a "good girl" for a long time under the education of her parents. To sum up, she has achieved that most people like herself and she doesn't like herself.
This feeling is hard to describe. Cross-border description is like the "humble love" of the host Dany. People around you recognize your kindness, but don't think you are important.
In the past, Mei Jia took the initiative to do housework in order to be a "good girl" that her parents liked. On the other hand, her sister always takes study as an excuse and doesn't take the initiative to do housework. But her mother took the initiative to find her clothes to clean.
Although Mei Jia is praised by her parents for being sensible and diligent, she yearns for her mother and can take the initiative to care for her like her sister.
Mei Jia talked about a very gentle boyfriend in college. Sensible, she has never lost her temper with her boyfriend and never asked her for a gift.
Every weekend, Mei Jia buys two bags of fruit, one for herself and the other for her boyfriend, but her boyfriend broke up on Mei Jia's birthday and got back together after a period of depression in Mei Jia.
A sister had long been tired of Camry's boyfriend's calculation, found an excuse to take Camry to the playground for a walk, and shared a short story about her brokenhearted and destroyed.
Mei Jia immediately understood her boyfriend's thoughts. It is not that he is not good enough, but that he doesn't want to give love at all, let alone a little money.
Mei Jia learned a lesson from it, but decided to get back together with her boyfriend who felt guilty. For a while, Mei Jia accepted it steadily, but the girl didn't send fruit to her boyfriend every weekend as before.
After a period of time, Mei Jia broke up with her boyfriend, and no matter how her boyfriend kept her, she was unmoved.
Mei Jia finally said a word, completely blocking her boyfriend's retention.
Probably: I really loved you when I wanted to be nice to you, but now I feel that I don't love myself enough. How can I expect others to love me? When I was so nice to you, you were unmoved. Even for that little money, regardless of my feelings, you broke up on my birthday. Sure enough, "good girl" is not cherished, go to TM "good girl"!
Since then, Camry has completely let go of herself. Facing the girl who always lets herself bring breakfast, Camry deliberately left empty-handed. "After buying breakfast, delay my time, the last time you didn't give me money. Give it back to me this time. " The sisters in the dormitory suddenly have a little respect for Mei Jia.
After work, Mei Jia once cleaned up those "talented" employees. Since then, no one in the office is a demon. Facing the difficulties of the leaders, Mei Jia is neither humble nor supercilious, which makes those leaders who try to replace her look up.
We often complain about the unpleasantness when we work together. Garnett said quietly, "I'm fine. I feel that when I work, everyone has a word to say, a word to get along with, and there is little intrigue on weekdays. "
Mei Jia, who became a "bad girl", is still single, but it is strange that no one in the unit urges her to get married and her family respects her opinion. At the dinner party, the leader dared not laugh or say anything. She was awake all the time, but she often replaced wine with water. In short, she leads a dissolute life.
Mei Jia always said that she didn't care what others thought of her, and happiness was the most important thing for her.
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Now more and more parents feel that they have taught their daughters so well that they don't even know that they have suffered. What should they do in society in the future?
So where is the future of "good girl"?
Are the girls going to continue to wronged themselves? Maybe you can try the following, and try to be a less excellent bullied girl.
1. Learn to love yourself and feel more secure.
"Good girls" have a fear of love in their hearts. They are worried that the love around them will disappear, but more is the lack of love.
"One Hundred Years of Solitude" has long explained the truth of this world: only loneliness lasts forever. It is not that the more you give and compromise, the more you can be loved and avoid loneliness. Even people who love deeply are lonely because there is no real empathy in this world.
But only you won't betray yourself. If you don't want anything from the outside, you might as well want something from the inside, because you know that everything will respond this time and no one will be willing to let yourself down. When you can give yourself enough love, you can understand that if you give yourself a sense of security, others can never afford it.
2. Build self-confidence and respect yourself.
Compromise comes at the expense of dignity. You are afraid to express your true thoughts because you are afraid that others will be unhappy. At this time, you will blame yourself: I am too cruel, which is not good for him. Forget it.
When you choose to sacrifice your feelings again and again, your psychological energy is taken away. Psychologically, people who don't consider their feelings are inferior, and such people will not be taken seriously.
There is a saying "You can kill me, but you can never beat me".
What is emphasized here is the power of one's mind. Our daily ups and downs come from our abundant spiritual strength, which is based on love and respect, so you need to respect yourself and tell others that you must be respected.
3. Put aside moral kidnapping and say "no" bravely.
"Good girls" are easily kidnapped by morality, and "bad girls" have been resisting the shackles. All the words will be returned to each other here, and I will never let others play with me in a few words, and I will always stick to myself.
"Are you willing to make me unhappy?" You are all adults, and you are responsible for your unhappiness. Of course I am "willing".
"If you do this, everyone will think of you …" In order to control your will, you are required to do what he thinks. If anyone wants to control you with public opinion, fight back and tell him that you are not easy to mess with.
"Why don't you get married? You can't get married without getting married! " Will I get married for you? Unhappy people are particularly keen on getting you married. After all, you can't get out of the fire pit. It is better to pull a few people who really want you to be happy. They will never persuade you like this. They usually tell you: "Don't get married because of your age, let alone live a lifetime because of your age."
I hope you can be as beautiful as you think, as live high expects most. Come on, bad girl!