Choose toys. For example, a big ball, let children kick hard, to eliminate their long-term depressed emotions. Then use music to resolve children's emotions and cultivate children's interest in music. Even the fiercest beasts are softened by music. Contact nature. At first, you can go to some places where the environment can arouse children's interest and attract children's attention with the colorful world outside. Flying kites, swinging or playing football in a beautiful natural environment, outdoor activities can completely release all the energy of the baby. Let naughty children do more. For example, sharing some cooking skills with his parents and making his favorite chocolate biscuits will greatly arouse his interest and relieve his exuberant energy when he finds that mixing all the prepared foods into delicious biscuits like magic. Take your child to the market together, and he will be very excited to help you push the shopping cart and help your parents settle accounts, which will have unexpected effects on curious children. This not only increases children's self-confidence, but also has the function of cultivating good emotions. Is it true that the older the baby is, the more rebellious he is?
How to educate boys correctly according to these characteristics? Here are some suggestions for parents:
First, we should cherish, support and cultivate children's spirit of exploring new things.
When children are interested in things around them and try to discover them, parents should not only be bored, but also encourage and answer their questions. Some questions parents can't answer at the moment, so tell him when you understand. Many famous scientists, their creativity and inventiveness are curiosity that germinated when they were young. Parents must cherish their children's wisdom buds. When answering a child's question, it is best not to give him the answer directly, but to show him how to get the answer, such as through experiments and finding books, so that the child can find the answer by himself. Parents can do experiments and read books with their children. This can cultivate children's ability to solve problems independently, master the methods to solve problems, cultivate children's feelings for books, interest in learning, and understand the meaning and benefits of reading, that is, they will not feel bored when they study at school.
Don't punish children for disassembling toys and electrical appliances, but analyze them in detail. We should affirm his spirit of exploration, but at the same time, we should also pay attention to educating him to cherish things and the fruits of others' labor. Some children, out of curiosity, take toys and electrical appliances apart to find out their internal structure and working principle; Some children also use toys for other purposes, which is the bud of his creativity. As long as it is not intentional destruction, it should not be blamed, but should be given correct guidance. However, it should also be noted that some children tear things apart, which is purely destructive behavior, such as smashing chairs and bowls. Parents must not tolerate this and must severely criticize and stop it. In short, we must objectively analyze the motivation of boys' "deviant" behavior, emphatically affirm and develop its positive aspects, and conduct correct guidance on this premise. If the child thinks that you understand and respect him, he will listen to you and explore things in the right way.
Second, pay attention to cultivating children's self-control from an early age.
Boys are active, such as playing football and fighting, which are beneficial to the body and mind. However, we must deal with the relationship between learning and cultural and sports activities. There are also some boys who are impatient, playful, unable to sit still, careless in class, like to make trouble and always fight. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's self-discipline ability. You can start with things that children are interested in, such as letting children play board games, which requires children to be calm, patient and focused. Some activities, such as standing on one leg and walking on the balance beam, are also sports games to exercise patience. When playing this kind of games, children should first set a goal for themselves (count before stopping), and then try to achieve this goal.
In cultivating self-control, it is very important to cultivate children's sense of responsibility, which enables a person to control his behavior rationally. To cultivate a sense of responsibility, we can start with small things in daily life; Let him do whatever housework he can from an early age, and let him realize that this is his duty. According to the age characteristics of children, certain requirements are put forward for children in life, study and labor. And complete the specified tasks without discount every day. In addition, we should take advantage of various opportunities to cultivate children's good qualities such as caring for others and caring for children. Formulating a work and rest system is also a good way to cultivate children's self-control, so that children can form regular living habits from an early age, play when they should play, concentrate on their studies when they should study, rest when they should rest, and strictly abide by the work and rest system. As long as parents correctly guide and strictly demand, children will form a good habit of consciously restraining and demanding themselves.
Third, children's excess energy should be properly vented.
Can organize beneficial extracurricular activities, such as sports, scientific and technological production, etc. A dynamic boy. If we don't guide him to spend his extra energy on beneficial activities, he may vent his extra energy through some improper behaviors, such as breaking other people's windows and fighting with others.
Fourth, give children some heroic images that they like and have educational significance.
Boys are strong imitators and worship heroes. Many boys are particularly envious of the bold and brave characters in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, The Water Margin, Three Heroes and Five Righteousnesses, Flying Knife and Shaolin Temple. Children have poor discrimination. If education can't keep up, they may only appreciate and imitate their aggressive martial arts side, and even get infected with the Jianghu habits in society, be deceived and go astray. Therefore, parents should analyze the characters in the works for their children, and let them realize that the most valuable quality of these heroes is to keep fit and eliminate evils. It is best to introduce more stories of contemporary revolutionary heroes so that children can learn from correct examples.
Fifth, in the education of boys, parents should restrain rudeness.
This is a taboo that many parents often commit. Rough education methods do great harm to children, which will destroy the feelings between parents and children, make children become violent, indifferent and aggressive, make trouble outside, and even embark on the road of crime. Parents must not abuse fists and sticks.
In the upbringing of boys, we should also be careful not to grind boys into men and women. Some people think it's easy to raise a boy as a girl. They not only took a girl's name, but also wore girls' clothes. They only let him play with girls and raise him everywhere as a girl. This is not good for children's psychological development and character cultivation. It is not normal that the body is male, but the mind tends to be female. Boys should never be consciously classified as non-male or non-female. Boys should have boys' personality characteristics: perseverance, decisiveness, initiative, enthusiasm and enterprising.
Let his naughty drive his development and exploration, and also take him to participate in some group activities, so that he can feel the correct gameplay and games.