Miss Z has worked as a clerk in a high-end men's clothing store for two years, and she is used to seeing rich local tyrants. She is often immersed in the circle of local tyrants. Although she doesn't have the value of a local tyrant, she has developed the taste of a local tyrant.

At marriageable age, she has experienced many blind dates, but she has never met anyone who is satisfied, either because she has no money or because she is poor.

As far as I know, Miss Z is ordinary in appearance, family, education and work. She only contacts many local tyrants on weekdays, and there are some rich second generation in her circle of friends, so she gradually has the problem of arrogance and blind mate selection.

I remember a popular saying some time ago: Your friend Niu X, what's it to you?

Niu X is your friend, the local tyrant is your friend, and you are just a little pitiful in the diaosi world. Setting such a high standard will only put you in an isolated place.

Don't be superstitious about the silly and sweet ultra-low probability event that the overbearing president falls in love with me.

There is no denying that blind date will attach many standards, just like one set of conditions has to meet another set of conditions. If you are very demanding of each other, do you have a considerable bargaining chip?

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My friend Michael is also notoriously picky in dating.

She is nearly 30 years old, with an average face value and a fat figure. Stable job, high position, self-sufficiency, pursuit of high-quality life. She has always been strict with people and things, so marriage has been frustrated.

A man, too short; B male, low face value. These two directly made her have no interest in continuing to understand.

C male, too soft and indecisive; D male, overbearing big man; E male, with a car and no room, the road ahead is slim; F male, there is no development prospect in his work, and he is not motivated. ...

Anyway, she can find fault with all the objects, saying that she can't make do with it and keep people away.

At this age, she stopped blindly believing in love and began to believe in marriage with material security, but at the same time she was highly sensitive to details. The other person's appearance, personality, aesthetics, temper, and treatment of people ... are too comprehensive, and the blind date has become a knockout.

Of course, those blind dates will also find fault with her, because she is old, plain, overweight and strong-willed ... she likes her, but she doesn't like her after seeing her. If you are tall, you cannot be low. I can only stand still and watch my age grow a little.

Self-esteem is very strong, and your value gradually depreciates on the way of picking and choosing. In fact, in the final analysis, the person you marry is just a certain type that you once disliked. Only later, you didn't feel so disgusted.

I have always been against marriage, but properly lowering the standards and considering the practical feasibility can improve the chances of meeting the right person.

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Another good friend, Dami, is a clever man.

Friends around me have always thought that with the comprehensive conditions of honey juice, finding a partner will be a lot harsh.

So when big honey appeared with the man who looked like a stranger in her arms, everyone was shocked.

Later, Dami told me: Because her father is a strong man, although he gave her good family conditions, she was always depressed from childhood. After watching her mother work hard all her life as a Nuo Nuo, she vowed not to follow her old path.

Dami's boyfriend is now her husband. He is a little introverted, but he is considerate, careful and respects honey. He also likes cooking, making everything she likes. Even if the work is average and the income is average, the two people complement each other just right and live a harmonious and beautiful life.

Dami said that she knew what kind of partner she was looking for a long time ago. Now this affordable husband, let her be herself comfortably, this is the life she wants.

Maybe she can find a man with better conditions, but she knows that better conditions may not be suitable for her. Everyone is good at different fields. She doesn't want to be comprehensive. She only hopes that the one she cares about most is consistent, and other shortcomings can be ignored.

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Although they are all examples of girls, they are only for men and have practical reference significance.

In life, we can always see some couples, and outsiders will think that they don't match in appearance or other conditions. However, the couple lived happily.

Smart people know what they are suitable for and what they want.

Dr Tehran's Imperfection, Only Beauty says:

In addition, if you are very demanding of the object, you must remember to cultivate yourself better and more attractive.

If you are a B, don't expect an A+.

Sloppy, no taste, no self-control, no self-demand, as a girl who pursues drama, goes shopping and gossips to pass the day, as a boy who is not motivated by work and addicted to games, eating, drinking and having fun, there will be no high-quality objects left for you in the sky.

The law of attraction tells us that birds of a feather flock together. When you become a better person, you will have a higher chance of meeting the excellent opposite sex.

If you are too fat, try to lose weight; If you wear rustic clothes, improve your fashion taste; If your cultural level is low, learn more to improve your inner self; If you have less knowledge, your horizons and experience will be enriched; If your salary is low, try to improve your gold content. ...

Always pay, improve, and have greater opportunities. No one will give you a second look.

So when the requirements are too high, you might as well look at yourself. How competitive is it to stand out and make the ideal object pay attention to you?