So of course, we have to test him. You know, the bride price is small, and the man is sincere.
Well, it makes sense to think so, but Yan Fang also wants to ask, what about the woman's sincerity?
Marriage is a matter for both parties. I can understand that the man needs to express sincerity, but the woman also needs to express the same sincerity. What's wrong with this?
Many people talk about the bride price very well, but they don't talk about the dowry. As we all know, if the bride price is the sincerity of the man, then the dowry is the sincerity of the woman.
You know, marriage is a close contest, which actually started when we talked about marriage.
Everyone should get married, and nobody owes anyone. Since we have to pay, we have to pay together. Since I agree to the bride price, you should also agree to the dowry. We can't walk yard by yard. This is one thing.
If you don't want to pay, ask the other party to pay for you, and ask for this unilateral act of sincerity. Really, everyone is ashamed of you.
Of course, no one is stupid. In fact, everyone understands this truth. Just seldom think of things on the bright side, as Fan Xian, the protagonist of Joy of Life, said, some things must be done by someone.
Similarly, there are some things that you have to pay when you do them. There is nothing good in this world for nothing. Sooner or later, the price will always wait in the future.
The price of a small dream came true the day before the wedding. On that day, she was supposed to be a beautiful bride and the happiest woman in the world, but she became a target of public criticism and a local laughingstock.
At first, she thought it was all because of her eyes. As her parents said, she found an unreliable man and her husband's family.
Later, she gradually realized that her own marriage tragedy was all her own fault.
But it was too late for her to understand. After all, there are many things in this world. It's no use just apologizing and repenting. If you miss an opportunity, it will be a lifetime.
I have something to do with Liang Liang. I know his family very well. Liangliang is a simple and honest boy with ordinary family conditions. His mother works in a clothing factory and his father is a maintenance worker.
When Liang Liang was young, his personality was dull, but he was very independent. His parents were very busy at that time. When he was a teenager, he went to school alone and cooked by himself, never letting his parents worry.
His learning talent is average, without the help and care of his parents, he was admitted to a third-rate university after graduating from high school. After studying abroad for several years, he found a factory to work outside, and his life can be said to be dull, and there is nothing worth mentioning at all.
That is, a few years ago, Liang Liang met a turning point in his life. Liangliang likes dogs and has a kind and soft heart. One day, he inadvertently browsed the recruitment of a pet beautician on the Internet, earning considerable income and being very interested, so he was eager to try.
Go home and call his parents, who are old-fashioned and think that the career of pet beautician sounds unseemly and unreliable.
Older people are actually like this. They will deny things that they have never touched or understood, or life experiences that they have never thought about. They prefer their son to go home and find a class first, and they don't want his son to be a pet beautician who sounds very girly.
But in the end, Liang Liang insisted. In spite of his parents' opposition, he resigned and took his savings to school to study technology. He held back his strength. He studied hard and finally achieved something.
Speaking of this job, I think it is very suitable for bright. He doesn't talk much, but he is willing to do it. This job doesn't have to deal with people. Bright is convenient and relaxing.
With excellent professional ability, he later found a good job. Last year, he also participated in the school competition and won the gold medal. His salary is getting higher every year, and he will probably get about 10 thousand this year.
I didn't have any resume before, my family conditions were not very good, it was difficult to find a partner, and I felt very inferior. Although I have been in love once or twice in the past many years, they all ended in failure.
After finding a good job, Liang Liang gradually became confident, and most of his friends got married, so he began to yearn for family and love.
Experts know that in fact, pet beauticians sound relaxed, but they are actually quite bitter. Their rest is not fixed, and their commuting time is not fixed. Liangliang is very busy. She can't get in touch with the opposite sex after work, so she can only expand her circle of friends through blind date.
Later, under the enthusiastic introduction of relatives, I got to know Meng Xiao.
Families in Meng Xiao are more common than bright families. My mother buys steamed bread, my father has no job and a younger brother at home. The family came to work from other places decades ago, and later bought a house in the local area and didn't go. They are also locals.
It is worth mentioning that Meng Xiao's hometown is a wonderful place with backward marriage customs. In order to avoid regional blackness, I won't go into details here.
As mentioned just now, Liangliang's mother once reminded Liangliang, but Liangliang didn't care about this. He fell in love with Meng Xiao at first sight.
Very thin, small nose, small eyes, small face, oval face, sweet appearance, is Liang Liang's ideal type.
In addition, he is also very shy and gentle, and his voice is always small and thin, which makes people feel very clever.
Liangliang thinks that Meng Xiao and he are the same kind of people, and she wants to cherish her from the bottom of her heart.
Meng Xiao at least doesn't hate bright. She listens to her parents very much, and their parents have a good impression of Liangliang. Then they naturally get together.
After talking for a year or so, Liangliang's parents were very anxious about their son's marriage and began to urge them. Meng Xiao is three years younger than Liang Liang. She is anxious to play for a few more years, so she refuses to agree.
Liangliang respected the girl very much and didn't rush to urge her to get married. But later, the two parents were anxious. After half a year, Meng Xiao couldn't stand the pressure at home and agreed. The two families began to prepare for marriage.
As for the house, Liangliang's parents have prepared a house for their son. When they get married, make a paperback and add some furniture. Liangliang's family is not prepared to let Meng Xiao's family pay a penny for the house, so they naturally don't have to worry.
But when it comes to bride price, things are stuck here. As I said before, the marriage and love customs in Meng Xiao's hometown are really much behind the local ones, and the rules are numerous and complicated.
Although Meng Xiao's family had already left their hometown and became local people, Meng Xiao's mother insisted on following the customs of her hometown.
At first, Liangliang's mother was very unhappy when she knew about it, but Liangliang still pushed her way through the crowd and agreed to the requirements of her dream family.
But when it comes to the bride price, Meng Xiao's mother said that it should be given according to the standards of her hometown, saying that their hometown is a fashionable and high-priced bride price, and one mouth is 400,000, without any counter-offer.
This may make Liang Liang's mother angry: "I think their family did this on purpose, saying that it was done according to the rules there." It's just a cover. It's smart to wait here for a long time! "
Liang Liang doesn't want to think so. He was honest and trusted Meng Xiao, and Meng Xiao's mother agreed at that time.
"Our family there to high bride price, mainly on the face. Although we are not here, our relatives are here. Our married relatives will come then. We are not fighting for face for ourselves, but for our daughter, and we won't let you be looked down upon by others.
Besides, our family will definitely marry him. As long as you give him a bride price, your family will be indispensable. You will worry that your daughter will marry you. Can I still lie to you? "
The future mother-in-law said this, and Liang Liang believed it. He thinks that since he is married, he should be honest and trust each other.
But his family really can't afford so much money, but in the bright and consistent impression, he gave a high bride price and he didn't want to earn much. At least he will take out half of it as a dowry, so that the bride price will be 200 thousand.
In the local area, the bride price of 200,000 yuan is already the highest, but it is not too much. He gritted his teeth and agreed.
Liang Liang went back to convince his parents and began to discuss the bride price with them. After all, it is the son's lifelong happiness. No matter how reluctant parents are, they will eventually help.
Liang Liang's family really hollowed out the house by selling iron in the pot, and borrowed thousands to tens of thousands of relatives around him before collecting all the bride price money and sending it to Meng Xiao's parents.
Meng Xiao's parents got the money. Naturally, they were all smiles, and Meng Xiao's mother readily promised.
"Yes, your family is bright. On the wedding day, I will definitely take Meng Xiao to my husband's house. Don't worry. "
Liang Liang has no doubt about this at all, but Liang Liang's mother's attitude has always been pessimistic.
"I looked at it with difficulty and said that I gave it. If I hadn't given it then, I would have seen what our family could do. I owe a lot of foreign debts just to get married. People lent it to us out of trust, and they all said they would pay it back after marriage. I feel that if we don't pay, our family will have to live for the rest of their lives. "
Liangliang always thinks that her mother is alarmist, that she is too petty and thinks too much, but on the wedding day, the little dreamer's behavior made him understand that it is not that her mother thinks too much, but that her mother is too young, too stupid and too naive.
On the wedding day, Liang Liang went to pick up the bride with great joy. Of course, he didn't forget his mother-in-law's promise to him.
But from beginning to end, my mother-in-law didn't mention the dowry, and Liang Liang didn't ask. Until he is ready to return, he can't help it.
"Mom, have you forgotten the dowry?" Meng Xiao's mother patted her on the head: "Hi! Look at my memory, there are so many things that I almost forgot. Wait, I'll bring it for you now. "
Say that finish, mother-in-law turned into the kitchen, and soon came out, holding two big carp, handed it to Liangliang, Liangliang really don't understand.
Two fish is a dowry? Or is there anything else to say? What does mother-in-law mean?
He glanced at the little dream beside him, but the little dream didn't look at him. He just picked his fingers and looked at his mother-in-law, who was quite calm. Seeing that Liangliang couldn't get the fish, he began to urge him.
"Here, hurry up, or you'll miss the time later. It is unlucky when it is auspicious. "
Liang really understood that this fish is a dowry, and a dowry is a fish.
How can Liang Liang not be angry? Because of his trust, he didn't even ask his mother-in-law how much dowry she would refund, because he thought his trust would be rewarded as expected, but the reality far exceeded his expectations.
However, Liang Liang still suppressed the anger that was about to erupt and stabilized her mood before asking questions.
"Our family gave 400,000 bride price. Did your fish return the bride price? "
Who knows that my mother-in-law naturally replied: "Oh, yes, this is not in your hand. What is not a fish? "
"I mean, nothing but fish?"
Mother-in-law replied: "Of course there are others. My daughter herself, the most expensive dowry, is cheaper than you. What else do you want? "
At this point, Liang Liang doesn't want to waste his breath with his mother-in-law. He fully understands that this is a naked trap. He turned to Meng Xiao.
"Do you think so?"
Meng Xiao still didn't look at him, his back to Liang Yuan said a sentence "I don't know".
Liangliang is finally awake at the moment. He threw the fish, turned around and left a message as he walked.
"The marriage is not married. I'll go back and inform my relatives. Your family should also make plans early. Also, you'd better spit out the bride price honestly. Unlike your hometown, our family has never had such a high bride price.
I have never told anyone about the 400,000 bride price. If outsiders know, think about the consequences yourself.
If you don't pay it back, I will make it public, which will make it difficult for your family to have a bright future in the local area and ruin your daughter's reputation. You must bear the responsibility yourself. "
Guess what? The little dreamer cried when he saw the coffin, but he didn't believe in this evil. He still thought that the man divorced first, but she didn't take it for granted, so she made it public.
Small places are densely connected. If 400,000 bride price has a reasonable dowry, it is only 400,000 bride price for two fish, but it is just a joke. The local area spread rapidly.
People are awesome, and the little dreamer quickly returned the 400,000 bride price, but his reputation has gone abroad, divorced, lost his wife and soldiers, which they deserve.
In fact, I think it is no problem for the woman to ask for a bride price. I also believe that most male families will not raise any objections as long as they pay reciprocity.
I often tell you that the bride price should be reasonable, depending on the situation. For example, according to the actual situation and realistic factors of the man's family, everything will be easy if there is business and quantity.
But when I heard the bright news today, I think it's time to change my statement. The article also said that marriage is a matter for both parties, and no one owes anyone. There is no reason for one party to pay and the other party not to pay.
If the bride price is just a ceremony and a celebration, and both parties can treat it reasonably, then naturally there is nothing to say, a little more and a little less.180,000 is negotiable.
However, if the other party really regards the bride price as a means of making a fortune and asks the other party to pay unilaterally by some deception or threats to satisfy some selfish desires, that is another matter.
Even if you want/kloc-0.0 million, as long as you can afford the dowry of the same value, have a sense of reciprocity and think about the other family, then this bride price is reasonable.
But if you don't have it, it's unreasonable to ask for a penny more.
In the final analysis, sincerity is mutual, not only for the man, but also for the woman. If the woman thinks that the bride price is sincere, then the man can also think that the dowry is true.
It is natural to know at a glance who is really insincere, whether it is a woman or a man, whether it is a bride price or a dowry, who just wants it and doesn't want to pay it.