He is ugly, teases him with jokes, and is frank and humorous. He said he was red and green blind, so he was praised for his good looks. Every time the doctor shows him the color card, he always says, "Take a good look."
Speaking of "appearance anxiety", there is another hot discussion in Weibo recently. "If you don't dare to interview, you won't be chosen", "If you don't dare to tell her, you won't get any results", "You only need a beauty camera to take pictures" and "Your skin is so bad that you feel old" ... Some people give up a lot because of their unconfident appearance, while others are afraid to face their true selves.
Men's appearance anxiety is generally in height and figure, while women's appearance anxiety is from facial features to figure, from makeup to wearing, including whether teeth are neat, whether there are double chins and neck lines.
When a girl looks in the mirror, she can't wait to look at herself with a magnifying glass. She always feels that her eyes are not big enough, her nose is not straight enough, her legs are not thin enough, and she has fat on her waist. ...
Just open the homepage of a clothing blogger and beauty blogger, and you will see all kinds of advertisements, such as whitening, freckle removal, firming and light lines ... The hot face-lifting needle for medical beauty in recent two years, the hot Maggie, and even "craniotomy" and "calf nerve block" are all jaw-dropping.
0 1. Appearance anxiety comes from comparison and is based on inferiority.
On the current network, the screen is full of handsome men and beautiful women, and the aesthetic standards of the media and the public are getting higher and higher. It seems that if you are not beautiful enough, you are not qualified to be the goddess of online celebrities, and if you don't have eight ABS, you are not qualified to be called a handsome boy. Merchants and medical beauty industries are also selling value anxiety.
In "Super Speaker", 15-year-old Internet Celebrity Week tells about her experience of spending 4 million yuan on plastic surgery in two years. "When I was a child, there was nothing but thinness", which is her evaluation of herself. At first she just wanted to cut her double eyelids, but when she found that they were not beautiful enough, she continued to feel inferior. So she kept walking into the operating room. "My whole body moved, my eyelids moved 8 times and my nose moved 6 times." Because my eyes are too wide, I can't close them when I sleep, and my face can't make a big expression.
Just this summer, Wang Hong Xiao Ran, a 33-year-old Hangzhou native, died of liposuction infection. Xiao Ran has a good face and likes fashion design, so he founded a fashion brand. Before liposuction, a fan left a message: "Sister is already very beautiful, don't move any more." But it still failed to stop her determination to pursue perfection.
A girl in her prime squandered her best youth in plastic surgery, leaving an irreparable scar;
A talented woman with a face value can't escape the anxiety of the circle and pay the price of her life, which can't help but make people feel embarrassed.
02. Get rid of anxiety, only you can define "beauty".
In the entertainment circle, Yoko's hot eyes are not beautiful women. Small eyes, flat facial features and slightly fat, but these do not hinder her dazzling beauty. Even among a group of glamorous actresses, she can attract your attention.
She can do rhythmic gymnastics, shoot the cover of fashion magazines and shine on the stage of actors. Smart dancing and playful expression are so natural and beautiful.
She said, "For beauty, we have too many choices. What we lack is the courage not to choose." Do not choose to please the standard, do not choose to live in the eyes of others, do not choose to bow to the beauty they think. "How natural and unrestrained wanton!
When our hearts are not firm enough, we often use external standards to bind ourselves.
In fact, no one can define your beauty and ugliness. Only you can make you feel inferior.
Professor Liu Qing said in "The Story of Chipa": "Accept your own uniqueness, keep your own uniqueness, you don't have to follow the crowd, you can be different and unique."
To find the bright spot in yourself and find your unique characteristics.
There are freckles on the face and moles on the palms; Your rounded chin, your thick calves; You are wise and open-minded, and you are knowledgeable; You are lively and enthusiastic, or quiet and gentle; You are good at singing, or painting ... these are the capital you can be proud of, and they are all your own unique beauty.
"Everyone yearns for beauty and hopes that their appearance will be affirmed, but the most difficult thing is often that they are affirmed."
Self-confidence based on others' evaluation is just a castle in the air. Finding self-confidence is enough to resist the ubiquitous appearance anxiety.
03. Live a wonderful life with a full heart.
Qiu Wei, a writer, knew from an early age that she was ordinary, neither exquisite nor beautiful, but she always believed that "a beautiful woman might as well live beautifully."
She has been writing for many years, and has published more than ten novels and essays since she was 25 years old. She knows life and fashion.
She is a best-selling author, a columnist of well-known fashion magazines, a host of many radio and TV programs, and an emotional expert. Some people commented that she was "a woman of Zhang Ailing's style who lived in 2 1 century".
Qiu Wei practiced "living beautifully" in his own way. Her beauty is beyond doubt.
Fu Seoul, who is well-known for his amazing performance in The Story of Chipa, won the championship in the seventh season finals of 20021. Before that, she had been writing silently for ten years, published novels and short stories, and was a resident writer for a while.
Despite her plain appearance and poor childhood, she has always been confident. This woman who is full of words and spirit in the debate field exudes the charm of "poetic and bookish".
Xu Zhisheng said: "People can have various appearances, and there is no need to bear any anxiety and negative emotions for this matter ... Life can't get all the benefits, but it is enough to get the happiness that you deserve."
Fu Seoul said: "We are used to being better ourselves, but we forget to stop and appreciate how good we are now."
I hope more and more "Xu Zhisheng" and "Fu Seoul" will appear, confident and comfortable, with bright laughter and brilliant talents.
Starting today, don't be so hard on yourself, don't live in the eyes of others, and don't get tired of pursuing perfection.
Looks are far less important than you think. Many things have nothing to do with looks.
Focus on enriching your heart and realizing your self-worth, and you will find yourself beautiful and live high wonderful!