Emotional experience.
This is an alternative emotional response ability, that is, an individual can take others as the center, identify with and accept others' views, and experience others' emotions personally. Research shows that it is positively correlated with social skills.
Question 2: What does parenting mean? 1. Learn to put yourself in others' shoes.
Look for the rationality of children's behavior from children's point of view and understand children to the maximum extent. To be exact, this is not a method, but a question of willingness.
Learn to listen
What we want to listen to is not only the content of children's oral expression, but also the observation of children's nonverbal behaviors, such as movements, expressions, voices and intonations. When listening, you should have appropriate verbal and physical responses to show that you have understood, such as nodding, smiling and answering.
Show respect
Respect is still a very important parenting attitude. Respect children's personality and ability instead of relying on their own feelings; Accept children's beliefs and choices or decisions, instead of commenting or trying to make decisions for them; It is necessary to understand children's views and behaviors in a more kind and positive direction, rather than simply adopting an exclusive attitude; Respect peace and express your different views from your children peacefully.
4. Ask less why
When a child expresses his thoughts or feelings, parents should accept his feelings more, instead of always asking "why" and "why". For a child, his feelings are just feelings, just the normal reaction of emotions, and he may not be able to answer why. Before the emotions are channeled, you ask why it will only bring pressure to the children. On the contrary, after giving a child a good impression, the average child will take the initiative to talk to you about something.
5. Respond positively, not necessarily agree with everything.
* * * The main purpose of love is to feel and understand the child's thoughts, especially to let the child know that his parents know him and are willing to listen to him carefully, instead of agreeing with and satisfying all the children's thoughts in everything. There must be rules. Therefore, there is no contradiction between expressing * * * feelings and obeying the rules, just a matter of execution order. Love first, then follow the rules and solve the problem.
6. Express your reaction and attitude in detail.
Don't just say "I understand you" and "I know how you feel", but extract the question and tell the child that you know he didn't cry after the injection today. He must have been bullied by his classmates and felt wronged.
7. Quietly accompanying children is also a feeling of * * *.
People often don't want to talk about unhappy things, and they don't want to listen to others' chatter around. At this time, parents can stay with their children quietly and say nothing. For example, when a mother sees her daughter coming back from school with tears in her eyes, maybe she doesn't want to tell what happened at school at once. Mom can go over and hug her and sit quietly with her for a while. The companionship of parents is the greatest support for children.
8. Don't react too strongly or too coldly.
When children describe some things or feelings to their parents, parents should respond moderately, neither overreacting, bringing great pressure and psychological burden to children, nor downplaying them as if they have nothing to do with themselves.
9.*** Common words in love
(1) to express the understanding of human emotions;
"What are you feeling now ... because ..."
"What do you think ... because ..."
"What do you think ... because ..."
(2) show understanding of each other's intentions
"What you want to say is ..."
"What you want most now is ..."
"You mean ..."
(3) Respect each other's feelings and intentions
"I understand how you feel. I know this is very important to you. "
"I can understand this feeling. I know this kind of thing is difficult to deal with. "
(4) express your concern for each other with concrete actions.
What can I do for you?
What can I do for you?
(5) Methods of expressing different views
"Your words are very reasonable, but I still have a little different opinion ..."
"Your view is quite novel, but I have a little different view ..." >>
Question 3: What do you mean by being more affectionate to children? I think if you are very concerned about children's education, you should know. However, some friends still asked me what to do. What I did didn't seem to work. In fact, this point has not been fully understood. It is sometimes unnatural to pay too much attention to the effect of a person's "behavior". In addition, people expect too much from "one move". I said in Inoue that sometimes people do well, but they just don't insist, and the result is wasted.
Let's assume that when your child loses his temper, you will criticize education first, reason patiently, and let the child understand his mistakes? But in fact, the effect of this kind of "education" is often that children don't know their mistakes, and they don't admit their mistakes, and they will make them again next time. They don't believe in your discipline. External pressure may temporarily calm the child's temper, but it will aggravate the child's inner conflict and confusion, because your reason has not convinced the child that he is "wrong."
So what's the problem? In my opinion, this is because parents don't understand their children from their perspective. You often think that children's thoughts and feelings are still immature and need positive guidance. Therefore, you don't express your understanding and feelings for children in an appropriate way. This is what I want to say "* * * love".
* * * Love can also be said to be empathy, empathy, understanding, putting yourself in other's shoes, etc. It refers to the ability to experience the inner world of others, and it is also an opportunity and outlet for children to vent their emotions. Sometimes, children talk to you just to understand and agree, not to ask for your advice or criticism. Therefore, you should be able to put yourself in the child's shoes, which will not only make the child feel that he is understood and accepted, so that he will feel happy and satisfied, but also promote his self-expression and self-exploration.
When you communicate with children, if you lack affection, children will feel disappointed and hurt, think that they don't understand and care about themselves, and reduce or even stop self-expression. At the same time, it will also cause you not to pay attention to your child's self-exploration and affect your child's self-understanding. Even though you may not really understand your child's problems and needs, your answers are often not targeted.
Love, as I told you in Inoue, includes three meanings, that is, you have to play three roles at the same time: actor, audience and director. Only in this way can you really have sex with your children. However, it should be noted that in daily life, it is not necessary to fall in love with children.
First, how to be a good actor?
Its core is that parents use their children's words and deeds to go deep into each other's hearts and understand each other's emotions and thoughts. In other words, parents should put themselves in their children's shoes and try to feel their emotions. The more accurate and profound you feel about this, the higher the level of * *.
1, give up your own ideas and enter the world of children.
To be affectionate, we must first learn to care about others. Parents should always remind themselves whether they are subjective, fully accept their children and put themselves in their shoes. This is also what we often say about empathy. We can find the rationality of children's behavior from the perspective of children and understand them to the greatest extent. If you want to put yourself in your shoes, I'll tell you a simple way. You can assume that your child has been crying and try to find out the reasons behind the child's "crying" from as many angles as possible.
2. When you are in love, you should be good at using body language.
In interpersonal communication, 65% of information is transmitted in non-verbal form. When you are in love, you can use many nonverbal behaviors, such as eyes, facial expressions, body posture, movement changes and so on. And you can also hug, touch and kiss your child appropriately. These nonverbal behaviors are sometimes not only simpler and more effective than verbal expressions, but also make children feel your recognition and understanding without interfering with their continuous expression.
Second, how to be a good audience?
Its core is that parents use knowledge and experience to grasp the child's experience and his feelings, and better understand the essence of the problem. True understanding includes understanding the motives and abilities of others and respecting their ideas. Therefore, it is not easy to be a good audience.
Parents must learn to listen.
If you want to understand others, you must first learn to listen. Listening means that you can listen to your child's expression wholeheartedly. For this, I already have an article focusing on it. Please refer to my book "Good parent-child relationship comes from listening" Inoue Zhu >>
Question 4: Because of family ties, it is profound. What does it mean to walk with love? There are too many waves in the ocean of love. We think love is deep and true, but in fact love is shallow and light. A bad word will hurt the other person's heart. In order not to hurt each other, some people hide behind love and get happiness, and some people give everything, even precious lives, for love. We cannot control love. Only by adapting to love and cherishing each other can happiness last longer.
Question 5: Meaning of * * * Emotion in Nurse Etiquette * * * Emotion is the ability to experience other people's inner world, which means that both communicating parties perceive and understand their own emotions and emotional states through their own verbal and nonverbal hints, and make correct reflection and feedback on them on this basis, so as to generate * * * feelings and project them into each other's situations to experience.
Question 6: What is the meaning of * * * in nurse etiquette? Nurses' professional etiquette refers to the code of conduct that nurses should follow in nursing professional activities. Nurses' etiquette can be manifested from the individual image, appearance, clothing, speech, manners, posture and etiquette of nurses, and integrated into professional behavior. Five basic principles of nurse etiquette: dignified manners, generous language attitude, friendly operation, skilled and accurate nursing service, positive and thoughtful work style, serious and rigorous image and behavior of nurses, professional clothes and nurse clothes. Nurses' clothing should be neat and generous, clothes of appropriate size and not exposed inside, white petticoat or white belt should be flat, and buttons should be buckled with nurses' hats: the hats should be straight and stable, 4 ~ 5cm away from the hair, and fixed with cards, and the cards should not be exposed on the front of the hats. Round hat: the hair should be completely covered in the hat, and the hairline is not exposed, and the back is not exposed. The front is not exposed and the back is not exposed, and the collar is exposed. Don't wear a headdress, put a uniform hair accessory under the hat.
Question 7: Why is it difficult for me to put myself in others' shoes? I often misunderstand what others mean because I have little contact with them. If I want to be someone else, I can only communicate with them more, so that I can be like others soon.
A person's mistakes often come from thinking only from his own point of view. In order to avoid such mistakes, we must learn to put ourselves in others' shoes. Even the most incompetent people can often speak loudly when blaming others. Even the cleverest A people are often confused when dealing with their own defects. As long as we always ask ourselves to blame and forgive others with our own hearts, how can we not make great progress?