When it comes to "getting married", what comes to mind is "having a wedding"! In the impression of the previous generation, getting married and holding a wedding was never a multiple-choice question, but a matter of course.

Nowadays, for some young people, the wedding seems to have some helpless significance-although the wedding can bring friends and relatives together and record their beautiful love, it is tedious and time-consuming to prepare for the wedding. Facing parents' friends and colleagues, it is inevitable to be physically and mentally exhausted, so many newcomers can't help but ask: Is it necessary to hold a wedding?

When the search engine entered the keyword "wedding", it found an interesting phenomenon: in the discussion about the wedding, the focus was not "how to do it" but "should it be done?" For weddings, many young people feel entangled. It is troublesome and unnecessary to do it, but I am afraid I will regret it later.

The netizen who agreed to get married without a wedding said: the wedding is a ceremony for others to see, which is tiring and expensive. I don't see the need for a wedding at all. Just quietly and honestly prove it. As long as you are married to love and love each other, the wedding is not so important.

Many netizens also said that the wedding is essential: although the wedding is only a form, without the wedding, you can't see the tears and smiles entrusted by the other parents to the children, and you can't hear or say the sentence "I do" full of responsibility. You can't see the tears, feelings and happiness in each other's eyes, and you will miss the ritual sense of marriage and contract together all your life.

Aunt Chen and her son had a disagreement on whether to hold a wedding.

Aunt Chen's son got a marriage certificate last month and was scheduled to hold a banquet on September 19 this year. "This day is too good, homophonic' will be long'. It's okay now, the day hasn't arrived yet, and the money for the banquet has already reached Shui Piao. " Aunt Chen said that the two families were so popular that they almost vomited blood, but the two children were stubborn.

Aunt Chen's son is 29 years old and her daughter-in-law is 28 years old. They are alumni of different classes in the same high school. They are childhood friends with similar interests and have a lot of interaction on campus. In addition, the adults of the two families are family friends, so the two children have more opportunities to get along outside school. After graduating from high school, Aunt Chen's son went to study in Britain one year ahead of schedule, and her daughter-in-law entered a British university one year later. They continue to study and live in the same city. During the summer vacation, two adults will ask the company for annual leave to visit their children abroad and travel by the way.

Time passed quickly, and the two children returned to China after graduation. "My son works in a foreign company in Shanghai with an annual salary of 300,000 to 400,000. Although hard, he has his own goals in life, which he feels is a kind of happiness. Parents are distressed and should try their best to provide him with some support. " Aunt Chen said that the couple had already prepared the house payment, which was enough for the son and the young couple to buy a house in Shanghai.

After the daughter-in-law returned to China, she worked in a school in Hangzhou with a stable income. My two children and I grew up all the way, and it was very smooth for them to go to school and get a job, so the two families who knew everything urged them to get married quickly.

In June this year, two children got marriage certificates, and the two families had a big meal with joy. On the second day after receiving the certificate, the son and daughter-in-law announced the end of the marriage to their parents, but did not hold a wedding banquet, and the money saved was used as the purchase price.

"Our parents blew up as soon as you listen. How can this work? If you don't have a banquet when you get married, how can you get back a lot of red envelopes you sent before? How will others speculate on this matter? Where do we put our face? Is this money gone? " In Aunt Chen's view, the child's idea is too simple.

As soon as the parents of both sides discussed it, they decided to go to the hotel and secretly put on a banquet. "We found the most upscale hotel in Yiwu and invited people to find the best wedding team, and we plan to spend a lot of money to build this wedding." Aunt Chen said that a few days ago, her son accidentally rummaged through her drawer and found that the deposit for the banquet and the wedding was 1 10,000 yuan each. He immediately flew into a rage and had to ask her to cancel the order. "I explained to him that this money can't be refunded. If there is no banquet, the two money will be wasted. "

My son and daughter-in-law are really car-scrapping, so I won't buy them anyway. They firmly told Aunt Chen that the loss would be borne by the young couple and the banquet would definitely not be held.

Looking at the back of her son and daughter-in-law, Aunt Chen felt helpless and sad. "The child is old and his wings are hard. They spent so much money to train them and let them go abroad to open their eyes. Finally, they refused to give us a wedding. Parents are really humble and heartbroken. "