There are several procedures for Beijingers to get married in their previous lives:
One: blind date, when men and women reach the age of 20, there will be a matchmaker at home. According to the principle of door-to-door, parents usually nod first, and then the matchmaker takes the woman and her parents and relatives to the man's house or a selected place to meet. Men and women rarely have a chance to talk when they meet. As long as both parents agree, they are basically a couple.
Two: exchange souvenirs. After both parents agree, both men and women should exchange tokens. Although this process is simple, it takes a lot of parents' thoughts, because even if the exchange of tokens between men and women fails in the future, the tokens will not be returned to each other, so more people exchange pens, photos and other small objects, and even if they fail, they will not lose too much.
Three: release, as long as parents are interested and think this marriage is feasible, release must be through the matchmaker. If the marriage fails, the engagement will be taken back by the matchmaker, but the engagement without the matchmaker will not be taken back. After release, the man basically recognizes the woman as the "wife", and the woman can live in the man's house regularly or irregularly (generally, men and women do not live together)
Four: Gift. Gift means that the man formally informs the woman of the wedding date agreed by both parties, and the wedding date should be selected, paying attention to "the second day of the second lunar month". And give the clothes and jewelry worn by the bride on the wedding day to her. There are also gifts for the woman. Gifts include goose wine (double goose wine or single goose wine); Fresh fish, pork leg, lamb leg, cake, etc. , commonly known as the four-in-one ceremony.
Five: doing things: getting married and having a happy event.
On the wedding day, the man sent a car to the bride's house to pick her up in the morning. The person who picks up the bride in the car can be any relative of the groom, but only menstruation can't pick up the bride, which avoids the meaning of menstruation-loneliness, and the woman can't see her off like menstruation, which avoids the meaning of menstruation-doubt.
When the man's pickup truck arrives at the woman's house, eat as usual. When the pick-up man is eating, the woman will put the dowry on the car, and then the woman will eat a bowl of noodles. Noodles are a kind of long and wide noodles, also called assured noodles, which means that after marrying a man, everything is assured and satisfied. The man should have a brother who is the same age as the groom, and the woman should give a red envelope as usual.
After the car picks up the bride, she can't get off. She asked the groom to take the bride into the house from the car, and then the bride had to walk through the brazier to show that she could live a rich life after marriage, so that the bride could formally enter the man's house. Then there is the wedding ceremony, and the bride can go to the new house to wash her face. After washing her face, the groom's sister will splash water on her face and the bride will give her a red envelope. At this time, the red envelope should be heavier, so that she can get along with her sister-in-law in the future.
The groom's family should find some relatives who can drink to accompany the bride's guests off. It's only good to drink too much with your parents, and then you can send it back. The bride and groom will toast the guests according to the table under the guidance of the matchmaker. At this time, the bride and groom will not be allowed to drink too much, but some brothers and nephews of the groom can make fun of the bride and groom and let them drink.
When the bride and groom enter the bridal chamber at night, there will still be sons and nephews making trouble in the bridal chamber, which is an obstacle for the bride and groom, because those who make trouble in the bridal chamber can come up with many bad ideas to make the bride and groom suffer, but the bride and groom can't drive people out. The groom seldom sleeps well with the bride on their wedding night.
Three days of marriage is the day when the bride comes home, and the groom should accompany her. After returning from the woman's house, the groom began to take the bride to relatives' houses to recognize relatives, and relatives still had to give red envelopes.
Only in this way can the woman really become the man's wife.
The two sides are not from the same region;
Because of the distance, the steps of parents meeting are mostly to combine the two sides to meet and propose marriage. That is, after the appointment of a good day, the man directly went to the woman's house with gifts and money to propose marriage. Because two people are not in the same place, customs and habits will naturally be different. Since the man went to the woman's house to propose marriage, the man had better follow the custom of the woman's house. The woman should ask her family about the local customs and tell the man to get ready.
At this time, when the man proposes, there is no need to care about the differences between the two places. Many people don't blame the first door-to-door ceremony, which will have a good impression on future parents-in-law. The following specific marriage customs are discussed together.
After agreeing on various matters of marriage, it is usually due to the distance, and then contact directly by phone and meet at the wedding.
This post can be used as a reference: How should parents meet? What will the two sides prepare?