Language expression is the most direct way for us to express our inner feelings and feelings to our partners. But many people don't know that inappropriate language expression often turns into a kind of language violence, which makes the other party unacceptable and destroys feelings.

Expressing love between partners is also part of interpersonal communication. How comfortable a person is speaking also determines the height he reaches.

Sometimes, a calm manner and a decent expression are more heartbreaking than an aggressive attitude.

The following story is that the groom angrily left the wedding scene because of improper language expression, which embarrassed the bride.

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The story in the video goes something like this:

At a wedding scene full of guests, the bride and groom were in the center of the stage, reading their love letters under the arrangement of the wedding master.

I saw the bride in a white wedding dress holding a microphone, facing the relatives and friends attending the wedding under the stage, so she read her love letter.

"He is very dig, really dig! Look at the flowers at today's wedding, they are all fake flowers, fake flowers. "

"When he goes to the toilet, he has a very strange action, that is, he will flush the toilet after urinating more than three times."

The bride is reading a love letter on the stage, but she doesn't know that the groom standing by has already blushed and his heart is beating, and he wants to find a crack to get in. The audience listened to the bride's "emotional" love letter, looked at each other awkwardly and whispered to each other.

Finally, when the bride read "besides, his time is extremely short", the groom finally couldn't help it and said angrily to the bride, "That's enough. It doesn't matter if you lose some points at ordinary times. But what day is it today? What do you mean? This marriage is not married! " Say that finish, tore off his neck tie, threw it on the stage, and then angrily left the wedding scene. I don't know what to do, leaving the bride standing in the same place awkwardly.

At the end of the video, the bride dragged her wedding dress home alone. In fact, her love letter was not finished at that time, but the groom didn't hear what she wanted to say most:

"But, I like you like this. In the days to come, you will love me and spoil me, and we will always live happily together. "

Between partners, if you don't pay attention to your own language expression, then if you say it, it will hurt your beloved's heart like a sharp knife. It is better not to hurt others in the name of love.

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The original happy marriage was ruined by the bride's "emotional" love letter, which was really not worth the candle. The main reason for this mistake is that the bride expresses her love in the wrong way. She exposed the groom's privacy in front of so many relatives and friends. No matter how emotional and touching her confession is, it can't soothe the groom's mental trauma.

The expression of the bride's disregard for the groom's face in public is actually a kind of verbal violence communication. We all know that the bride's original intention is to express her love for the groom and relatives and friends attending the wedding through this love letter. However, because of the wrong expression, it not only failed to achieve the expected expression effect, but also put the other party in a bad situation.

Expression is more than simply saying what we want to say in communication. If you don't consider your own expression, the effect will be different.

The communication between partners, many emotional problems, are all in the way of expression. The more you know your partner's shortcomings and advantages, the more intimate you are, and the more you ignore proper expression, which eventually leads to misunderstanding and incomprehension.

Between partners, verbal harm is far deeper than physical harm.

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Sincere and decent language expression is the most appropriate nonviolent communication expression.

We need to express our inner feelings and needs to our partner and tell him our true feelings. However, what kind of expression you use also determines who we are in his eyes.

Good expression will help us effectively eliminate the hidden factors of mental violence in communication and make communication more harmonious. Will not let good communication fall into a bad situation.

So how can we avoid it?

"Expression should be sincere."

One's sincere attitude is the most touching. In language communication, the more heartfelt feelings you have, the more you can move a person's emotions. A sincere attitude will narrow the distance between people and deepen the emotional communication between people.

The bottom line of sincerity is not to say anything that damages the reputation of others. People want face, books want skin. How can others feel your sincerity when you don't care about others' face and dignity?

"Express it simply and clearly."

The most effective expression is to simply say what you want to say. Just like the bride in the story, what she really wants to say is "I love you" and "I want to marry you". However, at first, she spared a big circle and missed the point. On the contrary, because of the wrong expression, the opposite effect has been achieved.

"Be in line with each other's style."

Many people's mistakes in expression are completely ignoring each other. Before expressing, you should be very clear about such a problem. You want to promote communication and exchange with each other through your own expression, thus enhancing each other's feelings. In this case, your expression should take into account the feelings and emotions of the other party. Only in this way can we interact well and finally achieve the effect and purpose of communication.

Our love needs expression. And proper expression will help us get twice the result with half the effort when expressing our feelings.