Lu Xin (pseudonym) from a county in Guangxi is 32 years old, and his parents have always hoped that he can get married as soon as possible. But now Lu Xin is in an emotional dilemma. In order to please his girlfriend Luo Ruyi (a pseudonym), he licked the dog for more than a year and spent all his savings. But Luo Ruyi not only took it for granted, but also always felt that Lu Xin was not worthy of her. I always say, I'm not afraid I can't get married, and the men chasing me are waiting in line at 10 km.
Luo Ruyi is 29 years old this year. In the eyes of others, she has begun to step into the ranks of leftover women, but Luo Ruyi is not anxious at all. She was born in Nanning, the capital of Guangxi. Her father is a working class and her mother is in a small business. Although she is neither rich nor expensive, she is also rich. In addition, she is the only child in the family, and her parents have loved her since childhood, giving her a natural sense of superiority. Especially in front of Lu Xin, her sense of superiority is stronger. In her eyes, the only thing that Lu Xin is superior to her is her education. He is a graduate student, while Luo Ruyi is only an undergraduate in an ordinary university.
More than a year ago, by chance, Lu Xin met Luo Ruyi. Lu Xin fell in love with Luo Ruyi when she first saw her. But at that time, Lu Xin felt that Luo Ruyi was a little difficult to approach, which made Lu Xin dare not chase it rashly. At first, he just asked Luo Ruyi to have tea and dinner together in the name of making friends. Every time he was invited, Luo Ruyi almost came as scheduled, but after several exchanges, Lu Xin never dared to make any noise.
But Luo Ruyi saw through his mind and asked him if he liked himself in a tea chat. Lv Xincai took the opportunity to express her love for Luo Ruyi at first sight. Luo Ruyi said with a smile that there are many men chasing her, and it is not so easy to chase her.
Luo Ruyi's words made Lu Xin a little disheartened. He thinks that there are many men chasing Luo Ruyi, who are richer, more handsome and more capable than themselves, but they really have no advantage over them. But Luo Ruyi then gave a little hope. She said that what she was interested in was not how rich the other person was, but a man who was single-minded and willing to give everything for her.
Lu Xin quickly ingratiated himself with him, saying that he was single-minded about his feelings, and he was willing to give everything for them as long as it was within his ability. Luo Ruyi said with a dubious expression, really? Then I'll see how you behave.
In order to win the favor of Luo Ruyi, Lu Xin tried his best. Luo Ruyi is in sales and has certain sales tasks every month. In order to help Luo Ruyi complete the sales task, Lu Xin spared no effort to use his personal resources to help her. And Luo Ruyi needs help every day, and he is more responsive.
In order to know more about women, Lu Xin also specially read several chicken soup books similar to How to Please Women. As long as he thinks Luo Ruyi needs sanitary napkins, daily necessities and girls' cosmetics, he will carefully select them and buy them for her. Every time he goes shopping with Luo Ruyi, he does not hesitate to buy clothes that Luo Ruyi likes, although some of them are expensive. And Luo Ruyi is also welcome, always taking it for granted. With the deepening of communication, she became more impolite. She directly asked Lu Xin to buy what she wanted.
Love always costs money, not to mention the pursuit of your own goddess, and it is also appropriate to spend some blood. So Lu Xin prepared to spend money, but he didn't expect Luo Ruyi's demands to be higher and higher, which gradually exceeded his ability. On one occasion, Luo Ruyi directly asked for a bag worth more than 80,000 yuan. Lu Xin hesitated. Although he has some savings, the money is reserved for marriage. Now a bag alone costs more than 80 thousand, and Luo Ruyi can't meet the higher requirements.
After much consideration, Lu Xin only bought a bag of more than 30,000 yuan. Unexpectedly, Luo Ruyi was angered, saying that Lu Xin had no sincerity, and like other men, he broke his promise. At first, he said that he would give everything for himself as long as he was within his ability, but now he can't even bear to buy a bag.
Lu Xin explained that it was not that he didn't want to buy it, but that his ability was limited, so he always had to save some money for his future life. But Luo Ruyi adamant4, said he had thought about retreat, and asked Lu Xin if she thought she was a material woman. She said that if she was only a material woman, there would be many rich people to give her casually. Now she just wants to test whether Lu Xin is willing to give everything for her. Now it seems that all Lu Xin's promises are false. ...
In a word, Lu Xin felt ashamed. In order to get Luo Ruyi's understanding, he returned 30,000 bags and changed more than 80,000 bags. He tried every means to please him before repairing the relationship between the two.
After months of tossing and turning, Lu Xin finally moved in with Luo Ruyi. He thought it was a confirmation of their relationship and a good start, but what he didn't expect was that cohabitation made him more miserable. Lu Xin not only turned in his income, but also completely lost his freedom. He has to get Luo Ruyi's approval to go anywhere except to work. Lu Xin not only did all the housework, but also was disliked by Luo Ruyi, because he didn't wash dishes cleanly enough, because he was slow, because he disliked him ... In short, there were many reasons not to like him.
As long as Lu Xin is a little dissatisfied, Luo Ruyi seems to be able to see through his heart. Before he could speak, Luo Ruyi complained: What's the matter? Didn't you say you would do anything for me? You can't stand it now, can you How can I live like this? I'm telling you, if you can't stand it, you can break up. Don't be dissatisfied. My pursuers lined up at 10 km. ...
Lu Xin finally put up with everything, but what he couldn't stand was that Lu Xin also tried to discuss the marriage with Luo Ruyi because of his parents' urging marriage, but Luo Ruyi put it off again and again, saying that he was afraid that Lu Xin would regret it one day and let her bear the birthright of second marriage, which was not worth the loss.
Now, Lu Xin is unwilling to quit. Quitting means starting over. Now he is 32 years old. But it's too tiring to persist, and there is no hope. He worries about it every day, and even his work is affected. But blame yourself for your original choice, because you think too simply and always think that true feelings can change everything. But now I have handed everything over, but in return, Luo Ruyi's sense of superiority is getting stronger and stronger.
If you were Lu Xin, what would you do? Are you willing to wait on such a "princess" for a lifetime? For others, what Luo Ruyi wants is not feelings at all, but an obedient slave.
In life, we often meet some women and always feel that everything is fine. Our boyfriend or husband is not worthy of himself at all, so we always feel wronged. Not only bossing around your boyfriend or husband, but also getting angry if you don't like it. Some of them are even exaggerated. When they see that their boyfriends are not satisfied, they pretend that I have plenty of people to chase.
The emotional world needs to be evenly matched, blindly pleasing, and often the superior party is pushing its luck.
Girls should have a certain sense of superiority. We often say that girls should have a sense of superiority if they want to have food and clothing, and they should not be easily deceived emotionally and become playthings of the rich. But girls' sense of superiority should not be used as a weapon to enslave each other. It's not a bad thing to have a sense of superiority, but learn to respect it. The feeling of losing respect is doomed to be a tragedy.