65438+February 1, a netizen uploaded a video of a wedding banquet in rural Guizhou, which caused a heated discussion because of the poor wedding environment. Subsequently, the video publisher responded: Why should the marriage conditions be good? As long as two people work together, I believe they can all live the life they want.
The bride and groom's wedding reception environment is relatively simple, which has caused comments from netizens. Image source: screenshot of video uploader social platform
Weddings and wedding banquets are very sensitive topics for many young people who are going to enter the marriage hall. Is it worth adding a new burden to the whole family for a ceremony? Weddings and receptions are simple? Still want luxury goods?
For these questions, the answer given by society is that different people have different views. Some young people think that the wedding is one of the important moments in life, or we should have a basic sense of ceremony, hold the wedding honorably and leave good memories. After all, most people have good wishes for love, and have made plans to be together for life, and don't want to wronged themselves at such an important moment.
There are also young people who think that the wedding is just a form, not a luxury wedding, and life will be happy. In their eyes, it is meaningless to spend hundreds of thousands or even millions of yuan on a wedding. If it is really not bad money, it is better to use "good steel on the cutting edge" for food, clothing, housing and transportation, children's education and parents' pension. As long as the family is happy together, we can find warmth and happiness in an ordinary wedding.
As long as the parties accept these two views, they will not be extravagant and wasteful because of the luxury of the wedding, nor will they be dissatisfied because of the simplicity of the wedding. If they can see happiness and feel sweetness in the wedding, there is no right or wrong.
But in reality, there is another logic worthy of vigilance, that is, in the face of a simple wedding, a look of disdain is interpreted as "but not as those who have been poor together know." A simple wedding. You must be poor, right? Will it be hard in the future? "The luxury of the wedding banquet is right" is also a misunderstanding.
Registered for more than a year, no wedding. As for the reason, on the one hand, only after experience will you know how difficult it is to buy a house and a car and then hold a wedding in the city. On the other hand, I have attended many weddings of relatives and friends, knowing that weddings are not all happy and sweet, but also troublesome and tiring. There is a "most complete flow chart of marriage" circulating on the Internet, from engagement to wedding preparation to wedding reception, with as many as 9 pages. In this case, it is inevitable to have wedding phobia.
At present, my attitude towards the wedding is also very tangled. I want to give my lover a beautiful ceremony, but I can't accept an expensive and luxurious wedding. My high probability choice is to have a warm and simple little wedding in the city where we live, and then go back to my hometown to invite us to dinner.
In order to save face and keep up with the joneses, a wedding that blindly spends a lot of money regardless of the actual situation is not only unrelated to love, but also brings pressure to young people. Material conditions are indeed the foundation of life, but they are not the only prerequisite for a happy life. The family understands and supports each other, thinking of a place, striving for a place, and striving to live a good life step by step. This is the real life. Compared with netizens who spit out the poor wedding environment in rural areas, the calmness of the bride and groom in the video is even more admirable.