To a certain extent, both men and women agree to choose each other as life partners and are generally engaged. At this time, the introducer communicates the situation of both parties and agrees on the bride price (mainly clothes and money). When engaged, it is often the man who, accompanied by his elders, brings the pre-agreed bride price to the woman's house. This situation is also called "visiting at home". "Visiting children" is also called "paying bride price" or "paying bride price". People generally pay more attention to "visiting children". During the "door-to-door visit", the woman's relatives, friends and elders were present, and several tables of banquets were set up. After the "bride price", the man will get the "kitchen money" for this table banquet. After liberation, the engagement ceremony was once very simple. Some men and women agree to be partners for life, take an engagement photo and exchange souvenirs with each other. Some men invited the lady, her parents and referees to their home, held a banquet, and gave her gifts and money after dinner. Nowadays, the engagement process has been gradually valued, and some men and women hold engagement ceremonies separately. When visiting children, it is mainly the man who gives the bride price to the woman. In addition, both parties usually buy each other a set of high-grade clothes and shoes. The man gave the woman "three golds", namely, gold rings, gold earrings and gold necklaces. According to their own conditions, the old man also gave 99 yuan or 999 yuan to the future "daughter-in-law" as a "meeting gift", with the intention of giving it to the future "daughter-in-law". Now the quotation of "10 1" or "100 1" also means one percent or one thousandth. The woman also gave the man a gold ring. When engaged, the introducer is often present, and the bride price is handled by the introducer. Besides the dowry, jewelry and money should also be given at the wedding. )

In the future, if one party does not agree to "divorce" (that is, "divorce"), then the bride price will be treated according to the custom of "divorce": if the man proposes "divorce", he is not allowed to ask for the bride price and property given to the woman during the "visit"; If it is proposed by the woman, the dowry and property paid by the man must be returned in full at the time of "home visit". At this time, the introducer played the role of a notary here.

It should be said that from the beginning of "visiting", even if the marriage relationship between the two families is formally settled, it will generally not be easy to go back on our word.

After the engagement, both men and women can go to each other's house at will from dating behind their backs to getting along openly and fairly, and have frequent contact and deepen their understanding. Love has entered a new stage.