Engagement was a popular custom decades ago. With the increasing number of unmarried cohabitation and "flash marriage", engagement is not taken seriously. Think about it, too. In the eyes of a new generation of young people, marriage is still a distant thing, so why get engaged? Recently, however, many young people have chosen to get engaged before marriage. The form is nothing more than a simple tea party, dinner party, exchange of engagement rings, parent-teacher conference and other necessary links, but the meaning is different. After the engagement, the relationship is closer than that of boyfriend and girlfriend, and the feelings are naturally closer. For friends with fear of marriage psychology, it is a good transition. ...

It has become a common thing that a wedding consumes manpower, material resources and financial resources. Nowadays, more and more young people are keen to hold an engagement ceremony before the wedding to leave more sweet memories in their love journey. In fact, the form of engagement became popular decades ago. After a period of silence, it is only a revival of tradition. Do you think the engagement ceremony is necessary? What kind of personalized engagement ceremony will you arrange?

Engagement is not a waste.

□ Tang Huadong 33-year-old lawyer

There is a custom of engagement in our hometown, but with the changes of the times, this custom is out of date, and it is rarely heard that people still adopt this custom of engagement. The so-called engagement is to ask the man to pay a large amount of bride price to the woman's house and invite people to eat and drink. I think it is extravagant to spend a lot of money on such a ceremony.

Formal exaggeration does not represent the depth of two people's feelings, and engagement has no legal effect. If there is no engagement to marriage in the end, the bride price can generally be returned in full. This ceremony, which only pays attention to the surface, should be abandoned in the new century. This is why it is getting less and less attention in my hometown.

However, it does not mean that all engagement ceremonies should be opposed. As long as two people agree, it is ok to express love and integrity in an appropriate form. I think traveling is a good way to get engaged. Don't you think the best way to get to know a person is to travel with her or him? Such an engagement ceremony can not only increase feelings, but also involve a lot of money, which is both economical and practical. I support it. Nowadays, it is popular to send diamond rings as proof of engagement according to western tradition. As long as the price of this ring is acceptable to both parties, regardless of the size, it is also a good way to express love, and I support it.

As a rehearsal for marriage

□ Zhang 3 1 year-old engineer

There are many parents, brothers and sisters, so "there are countless cousins", and the marriage of one cousin is the most interesting. He first went to the United States to study, and fell in love with an "authentic" American girl when he was a graduate student. Not long ago, he decided to settle in the United States, so he brought his girlfriend to China to meet his relatives, and at the same time he was going to take his mother to live in the United States. Relatives and friends forced him to get married in China and eat his wedding banquet. However, the two of them have agreed not to register for marriage in the United States until next year. In a dilemma, someone gave him a golden idea: why not hold an engagement ceremony in Shanghai?

So I asked the wedding company to do it for me. A few days later, I arranged a banquet in a hotel in Xuhui District. Everything was handled according to Shanghai wedding etiquette except that the fiancee didn't wear a wedding dress or take a float. The MC also changed all "marriage" to "engagement" during the ceremony, including exchanging wedding rings instead of engagement rings. My cousin's fiancee is overjoyed because she is addicted to Chinese engagement. Unfortunately, she was pressed for time and didn't invite her parents to attend.

Engagement, the reassurance of the old man

□ Adai, 25 years old, a company employee.

I used to think that engagement is a romantic and fashionable thing, but later I found that the engagement ceremony in life is basically different from the scene of wearing white gauze to cut cakes and exchange rings on TV.

My boyfriend and I only knew each other for two or three months, and he offered to get engaged. I think it's too early to agree. Later, after talking for almost half a year, he proposed that the matchmaker come to my house to discuss with my parents seriously, and the engagement was settled. As a girl, I have some illusions about engagement. Although I know it may not be as perfect as on TV, I still have some expectations. However, after listening to my boyfriend's engagement arrangement, I have no hope at all. The so-called engagement is just that the man invites relatives of both sides to meet for dinner. Traditionally, it means "meeting relatives". At the banquet, the man's parents gave the woman a set of jewelry and so on, and the engagement ceremony was OK.

We held an engagement ceremony two months ago. During the dinner, relatives and friends of both sides were busy toasting each other, but we didn't seem to be the protagonists.

Personally, I think this engagement has no legal effect, no fashion factor and no meaning at all. Besides, engagement is not a custom in our country. The man just wants to make such a flower head to create some momentum, on the one hand, to expand his influence and tell everyone that I am a member of their family; On the other hand, it also forms a certain binding force on both parties, and it is unlikely that they will go back on their word easily afterwards. Of course, the most important thing is that when he was not engaged, his parents felt uncertain and dared not do many things. Now that they are engaged, they are decorating the house and buying furniture and appliances. Let me also participate in expressing my opinions. I think this engagement has little to do with us young people, but the old man gave himself a reassurance.

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