There are still many people when the bride is about to enter the door before she enters? Awesome? Bad habits. In Jiangsu and Zhejiang, when the sedan chair arrives at the door of a man's house, it is necessary to deliberately stop for a minute, so as to put out the bride's fire and make her dare not offend or violate discipline in the future.
In some places, it is necessary to let the sedan chair pass under the crotch hung by her mother-in-law, which also contains the implication that the daughter-in-law is under her mother-in-law and must not disobey her mother-in-law's orders. This is the custom in Panyu County, Guangdong Province. When the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom will hit her on the head with a folding fan and then drive into the new house. Tibetan wedding custom, the bride rode to the man's house, and when the man's guests greeted her, everyone suddenly shouted, and the food was sprinkled on the bride, which surprised the bride. Scare the devil? . Manchu, Yugur, etc. The sedan chair needs to pass between two piles of flourishing fires in front of the man's house and fall flat in the yard. Then the groom will shoot the sedan chair door with three arrows. Take? Prosperous? 、? Exorcism? Meaning. There is a custom in Taiwan Province Province that before the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom has to step forward and kick the sedan door violently, which is also a scare for the bride to be obedient and obedient in the future. Otherwise it will lead to family discord in the future.
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But at this time, the groom's parents must avoid it, otherwise the groom may not kick the bride, but kick his parents. Because in-laws and daughter-in-law are in a relative state. There is a corresponding concept among the people, that is, bad luck is evil, bad luck is evil, not inside or outside, not east or west, so if you don't kick the bride, you will kick your in-laws. However, in this view, the bride and groom should also correspond. The bride and groom should be in a state of corresponding yin and yang, and whoever has a stronger gas field can submit to each other. In-laws are only sympathizers of the groom, and at most they are auxiliary secondary forces. Therefore, if the groom can't kick the bride (not really kicking the bride, just symbolically), he should be blocked by the bride and hit himself. However, as the parents of the groom, because they are related to the groom, they are afraid that they will be hurt to some extent at this time, or at least feel some humiliation and humiliation, so it is better to let them avoid it, so as not to let the older generation suffer indignities for the things between the younger generations. In short, no matter how to explain it, it is an objective reality that the bride gets off the sedan chair and her parents-in-law are not present. This has something in common with the ancient custom that the bride will not see her aunt (the groom's parents) on the wedding day. Bai people also have the custom of direct contact between the bride's eight characters and Weng Gu, so the bride should avoid it when she enters the door.
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Taboo for the bride to get off the sedan chair:
As when getting on the sedan chair, the bride is forbidden to step on the soil when getting off the sedan chair. In the old society, many ethnic groups such as Han, Hui, Manchu and Zhuang all had this custom. "Tokyo Meng Hualing? Marry a woman: Newcomers are not allowed to step on the ground when they walk under the eaves and on cloth strips or felt mats. ? In the folk, when the bride gets off the sedan chair, she usually spreads red carpets, wooden boards and mats. So that the bride can walk on it until she enters the room and sits on the bed. A bride in Shandong got off the bus door and was carried into the house by a man with a poplar chair. Someone in Jiangsu laid a red carpet or hemp bag; In Hefei, Anhui, rice bags are also used to lay the floor, so that the bride can enter the house in the rice bags. There are many places where not only the bride can't keep her feet on the ground, but also she can't see the sky. Therefore, cover the bride's head with a rice screen or an umbrella. In Taikang, Henan, it is forbidden for the bride to open her eyes when she gets off the sedan chair. Almost all brides who wear hijab are helped into the man's house. Don't let the bride see the sky 、? Step on the ground? It is said that Sha Qi, who was afraid of the bride, offended the gods of heaven and earth, which means that the gods of heaven and earth won't hurt the bride. At this time, it is not that the bride is not afraid that the blessing will be taken away by the bride, but that the man has married a chaste and virtuous wife. There is another saying, that is? Not stepping on the ground? For what? No land? Meaning. It means that when the bride arrives at the man's house, she can't be very fierce, so she should abide by discipline. In fact, no matter how you explain it, you won't let the bride. See the sky? 、? Step on the ground? Don't let the bride open her eyes, the bride needs someone to help her and so on. These rules always lead to a kind of? Be cautious? Atmosphere. People pay attention to strictly observing these taboo etiquette, which will naturally make the time when the bride gets off the sedan chair and enters the man's house a process of fear. In this way, the bride will not stumble into the door in full view, but will only walk into the house very carefully and slowly. Only in this way can it appear orderly and orderly, thus indicating auspiciousness and symbolizing happiness.
Taboo for the bride to get off the sedan chair:
Help the young women of the bride not to interfere with the bride's animal sign. In the past, it was a custom for a bride to bring her partner to get married. A woman who marries the bride as a companion may not hold any post after 100. The reason is also to verify whether a married woman is chaste.
There is a custom of scattering grains at the wedding of Zhuang nationality in Liujiang, Guangxi. Does this have anything to do with Kaifeng, Henan? Sprinkle corn beans? (See "Tokyo Dream"), which is similar to the meaning of sprinkling bran on the bride's head in Nanyang area. They all wish the bride a happy life after marriage. It is said that only by sowing the grain can the marriage be fruitful and auspicious. Zhuang people scatter food to the bride on the way from the ox cart (like a cart or sedan chair) to the man's door. This is a very prudent thing. Choose a woman whose parents are alive and whose children are complete. Pay attention to the times of sowing, and don't let the bag of grain slip from your hand. So choose very smart people to sow food.
Pumi people in Yunnan are forbidden to enter the man's house on the day of marrying the bride. When the bride goes to the man's house, she should stay in a secluded place near the village for one night (if the bride and groom are in the same village or close, they can take the bride to the man's house at sunrise in the morning, so there is no need to live in the wild). The man should set up a wooden shed in advance and prepare all the food and utensils for his stay. In the evening, the man's family and the people in the village can go to play and keep company. Before going to bed, the supervisor lit an altar incense and read a few words of congratulations. Generally, there is no ceremony. This taboo custom may be the death of intra-clan marriage. Spend the night in the village to show that the bride and groom belong to the same clan community, so they can get married.