Many women said that when they get married, they should first inquire about each other's family situation, what their parents do, how many brothers and sisters they have, whether there is a preference for sons at home and so on. In short, they must know their families thoroughly. Of course, the purpose of doing all this is to get along better in the future.

I met some women who got married before marriage because they didn't know each other's family, only to find that there are so many rules and regulations in the husband's family, some of which are even unacceptable, such as the concept of son preference.

So they think that even if two people fall in love again, if they find that the man's family has this traditional concept, they will immediately kill this relationship in the cradle and not give each other a chance. Because no one wants to stay in such a family and get along with such people.

As everyone knows, it is the man's attitude that really determines the life and death of this marriage. If a man doesn't take the right position, then this marriage is prone to mistakes.

Similarly, I have met some families. The man's parents treat their daughter-in-law like outsiders. They sit together without even saying a kind word, and sometimes they make some harsh demands on their daughter-in-law.

But even so, their husband and wife get along very well, because a man always stands up for his wife. He regards his wife as a treasure in his hand and never allows his parents to embarrass her. Such a man is really appreciated, and his marriage will naturally be very happy.

Lily is a friend of mine who just got married some time ago. Lily's husband's family is making tofu in the village, and the economic situation is not so good. She has two sons. So when she got married, Lily only asked for 50,000 yuan.

Lily is an excellent girl in our opinion. She graduated from a prestigious school and has a decent job. Lily's parents still work in the state unit. As an only child, Lily is also pampered.

Lily's husband Zhou Kai is not so lucky. Zhou Kai is the oldest child in the family. He also has a younger brother and a younger sister. My sister is two years younger than him and my brother is five years younger than him. Zhou Kai's younger brother is his parents' favorite son. As for Zhou Kai and his sister, they have never been loved by their parents since childhood.

Zhou Kai's younger brother is very naughty and always likes to make trouble. When he was a child, he always made trouble at home, but even so, his parents still loved his little son very much.

Zhou Kai and his sister are always treated unfairly. Parents think that they are brothers and sisters, and they should let this brother go.

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After Zhou Kai went to college, his parents stopped giving him money and let him stand on his own feet. Zhou Kai earned his own tuition and living expenses. After graduating from high school, Zhou Kai's sister was forced to drop out of school by her parents. Because the business at home was getting bigger and bigger, her parents were too busy to make tofu, so she asked her daughter to help at home.

Every time Zhou Kai talks about it, he feels sorry for his sister. Although Zhou Kai's sister is younger than him, she is married. Her parents asked the matchmaker to introduce a rich family and gave 200,000 as a bride price. As far as Zhou Kai knows, this man is rich, but he has a bad temper, and he is also famous there. Zhou Kai is worried that her sister will be wronged and often calls to say hello to her.

When Zhou Kai was a junior, she was preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination at first. Because she was interested in this major, now college students have caught a lot, so she wants to go to a higher level and have more development opportunities in the future.

After he told his parents this idea, he not only didn't get their permission, but was also scolded by them. "Why are you so unfilial and patronizing yourself? It's time for you to repay us. You always wanted to go to school. What are your plans? "

So, Zhou Kai didn't mention it again. In my senior year, I began to prepare my resume and practice in a good company.

Zhou Kai won the favor of his boss and colleagues by virtue of his excellent working ability. At the same time, Zhou Kai's love followed.

At a company exchange meeting, Zhou Kai met Lily. They fell in love at first sight. After some communication, Lily was infected by Zhou Kai's personality charm. They exchanged contact information and soon established a love relationship.

Zhou Kai is a very motivated boy, especially after falling in love. Zhou Kai loves Lily very much. In order to give Lily a home, he worked harder than usual.

In less than a year, Zhou Kai saved enough down payment to buy a house. Lily also takes Zhou Kai to meet her parents. Lily's parents are very liberal. It's not that they don't like Zhou Kai's family, but that they are moved by Zhou Kai's spirit. They also told Lily that Zhou Kai was a person worthy of her lifelong trust.

In this way, the two began to talk about marriage, and the problem of the house has been solved. Regarding the bride price, Lily's family means that it doesn't matter how much, the bride price just represents a gift.

Zhou Kai used all his savings to pay the down payment on the house, so he had no money on hand. Zhou Kai called his parents and asked them to pay the bride price. His parents said, "son, we only pay 30 thousand yuan for the bride price." If there are too many, please tell the girl that she doesn't want to forget it. " Zhou Kai was chilling at that time, and his parents said, What's this called? It's a lifelong event of his own, and his parents are so perfunctory.

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Zhou Kai argued with his parents and finally asked for 50,000 yuan. When Zhou Kai and Lily said this, they were full of guilt. Zhou Kai also said, "Lily, I feel sorry for you. You take this 50 thousand yuan first, and I'll make it up when I make money. " To this end, he also wrote a special IOU.

The wedding will be held soon. On the wedding day, Zhou Kai swore to Lily that she would be good all her life and would not be wronged at all.

The wedding went smoothly, and there were basically no mistakes in the whole process.

But after the wedding, Zhou Kai's mother found Lily and dragged her to a deserted place, which happened to be seen by Zhou Kai.

Zhou Kai's mother took Lily's hand and said, "Daughter-in-law, even if you officially passed the wedding today, I will be your future mother-in-law. I heard that your parents don't want to give you all the 50 thousand bride price. Do you think you can return it? As you know, we have a son who is also looking for a daughter-in-law, so what do you think ... "

Lily is a smart person. She doesn't need this 50 thousand yuan at all. On the contrary, seeing her mother-in-law look wronged made her feel very uncomfortable. She is about to hand her mother-in-law a bank card with 50 thousand yuan. Zhou Kai appeared and took the bank card directly.

Turned to scold her mother, "are you so mother-in-law? You gave your daughter-in-law money and now you want it back. Isn't this obvious bullying? Lily has done well enough. People know that our family conditions are not good, and there is no requirement for bride price. Even the parents gave half of the money for the wedding banquet.

Now that you see her walk in the door, you want to return the 50 thousand yuan and marry your youngest son. How can you be so partial? My words arrived today. If you insist on the 50,000 yuan, I can give it to you, but we have to break up our relationship and never talk to each other again. If you take a step back, I will still honor you and die for your old age. It's up to you. "

Although she attaches great importance to this 50 thousand yuan, she is even more afraid that Zhou Kai will ignore her and say that she will raise a child to support the elderly. Anyway, she can't lose a son because of this 50 thousand yuan.

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Later, Zhou Kai said to Lily, "Don't worry, I won't let you be wronged." . On the contrary, her mother-in-law blushed instantly after Zhou Kai finished speaking.

As soon as the daughter-in-law entered the door, her mother-in-law made an excuse to return the 50 thousand bride price. Her husband's practice made her mother-in-law very sad.

Zhou Kai's mother really went too far. She not only treats her two sons differently, but also wants to deduct the bride price money from her daughter-in-law and leave it to her younger son.

If Lily doesn't give it, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may break out. Some people say that to judge whether this man can be reliable depends on his attitude in dealing with problems when his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict.

Zhou Kai's practice is really admirable. When encountering problems, he can effectively protect his wife's interests and let his mother retreat.

It is said that a reliable man will take the initiative to stand on his wife's side when dealing with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because his wife is his future partner.

In a family relationship, the relationship between husband and wife is far greater than the parent-child relationship, which is also the criterion of happy marriage.

My mother always praises my uncle in front of me. My grandmother has three sons. My father is the eldest son and my uncle is the youngest. Every time my grandmother speaks ill of my aunt, my uncle says to my grandmother, "She is my wife. I hope you can respect her and me. " Sometimes my uncle was wronged in front of my grandmother, and he had to run over and argue with her. So my uncle and aunt's marriage has been very happy.

But in real life, many men will not deal with this relationship. When wives and mothers have conflicts, they always choose to stand with their mothers and confront their wives. In their view, this is filial piety, but it is not. It's a sign of filial piety.

Because of a happy family life and a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we need a smart husband to walk around in the middle. If the husband fails to actively maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and naively thinks that these two women can solve all the problems by themselves, then be mentally prepared and wait for the arrival of family storms.